Ex -Wife Problems Please HELP?

Question

MY HUSBANDS EX WIFE IS ALWAYS CALLING HIS CELL PHONE, OUR HOUSE PHONE AND EMAILING HIM WITH I LOVE YOU, KICK THAT BIT** OUT AND TAKE ME BACK. HE SAYS LITTLE TO NOTHING TO HER ABOUT THIS. HE SAYS ITS JUST ADDING FUEL TO THE FIRE. I HAVE HEARD HIM GO OFF ON HER BUT THREE DAYS LATER IT STARTS AGAIN. I SAY HE SHOULDNT BE TALKING TO HER THE KIDS ARE 20 AND 17, THEY ARE OLD ENOUGH TO PICK UP A DAMN PHONE THEMSELVES AND CALL IF THEY NEED TO TALK TO HIM. HELP??? I AM LOSING MY FREAKING MIND HERE. THANKS GUYZ

Answer 1

Have you told her anything? If he cant stand up to her you need to. I have the same problem with my husbands ex but its not to get him back its to try to control him and she uses his kids as pawns in her sick game. I dont care if there are kids involvled or not sometimes people just need an *** whooping. I had to tell his ex 1 time and 1 time only to stop playing games on my phone or she was going to see my foot up her ***. Besides your husbands kids are way to old for her to even still be talking to him in the first place. I'm 26 and my parents have been divorced since I was very young and I couldnt even get them to sit in the same part of the hall at my college graduation! there is something wrong with your husband not standing up for you and telling her EVERY time she does it. Call the phone company and ask if you can block her number from your house. Report her as spam on your email and if its convinient change your cell phone number and if she still finds a way to contact him then you really need to get involved in telling her something. Some people might tell you to be polite and he has kids with her blah blah blah.... Some people just dont understand until they have a couple of teeth knocked out! good luck! P.S. If she's saying in those words kick that b*itch out, then she sounds ghetto enough to where she wants you to say something to her.

Answer 2

I feel for you that's something that can make your life very difficult. I wish I had some advice for you but since I don't know you or her it would probably just be generalized. You both obviously have gotten to a place where neither of you are willing to back off each other. Talking about you and causing immature problems for you is one thing but trying to run over you is something you need the police to handle. I have one question to ask. Why did your husband get a divorce and who ended the marriage. She may not really hate you personally but if she hates him. She may be crazy enough to think that by hurting you, she is getting back at him. I can only imagine that she has some very bad anger issues if she is still upset after 7 years. Did she feel this way all along or did it get worse after you got married. Another possibility, and I don't know for sure so don't jeopardize your marriage by making alot of accusations, is that she could hate you because your husband isn't as done with her as much as you think he is. It does happen and could be a possibility. But I don't think he would have married you after 7 years if he still loved her. I wish you luck and God Bless You.

Answer 3

My husband has a psycho ex girlfriend. She has stopped calling finally- but it was bad for a while. If there are kids involved-no matter what the age- it's not a good idea for one parent to cut ties with the other. Your husband may feel it's easier to ignore what she says than hurt his kids. As long as he's not acting on her requests- you should try to ignore them as well. Remember that it doesn't matter what she text message, emails, or says to him on the phone- he's in your bed at night and she's his EX wife for a reason. Eventually she'll give up- in the meantime you and hubby take the high road for the kids' sake.

Answer 4

Talk to him and ask him to change the number and you can change the email address. it the children need to get in touch with him then he can give them the number. If it is really important than she can text him and he can decide if he needs to answer or not. but in the mean time he should show you what is said and keep you informed. the both of you need to keep communications open between the both of you. May set up an email account just so that she can email him and then you really don't have to check it or the both of you check it together and then he can email her back if he wants. Being in the middle is hard no matter what. Trust your guy.

Answer 5

Wow, that's a tough situation to be in. Are they legally divorced/separated? 'coz you didn't mention it. If they are not then you're on the loosing ground honey. Because her 'Husband' can go back to her anytime he wants and I assure you she will do anything to win him back. But, assuming they are legally divorced/separated for several years now, then it's your fight then. It's you now, the present 'wife'. Theirs just ended. Period. Talk to him and tell him how you feel about your situation right now. But don't beg ofcourse, it's just not right. If you want to completely stop their communication, talk him to change his phone number, his e-mail address, and your land line. I just hope you're living far away from his ex-wife too.

And to top it all, DON'T BE LIKE HIS WIFE. Show him that you're a better person, a loving one, who will take care and love him no matter what. Also show concern about his kids no matter how old they are, and even if it is too much to ask for, win his kids, and you will win his love. And forget about the ex-wife. Don't let her get into your nerves, you'll be just wasting your energy and time. Focus on that happy life that you always wanted with him around. And do pray a lot, it really helps.... stay cool... c",)

Answer 6

don't put up with it what do you mean what should i do.Get a backbone and tell him its either he stop talking to the ***** and block her email so he can't receive messages or you will go about your own way.He absolutly should not be speaking with her at all because those kids are way too old.My husband's daughter is four years old and he hardly speaks to his ex at all just gets her every other weekend and no words are spoken unless its about the child.I would not put up with this for one second.I told my husband that before we got married and told him if it ever happens i won't ask any questions i will leave.So my advice is get serious no empty threats,remember you have allowed this thats why he keeps doing it.Put your foot down and say this is how its gonna be from now on and if its not then we don't need to be married.People will run over you if you let them.good luck with that

Answer 7

This is just an idea......#1 He doesn't have to answer the cell phone...she can leave a message ... #2...Let hubby change his cell phone number.........He can tell ex- that he lost his cell and may not get another.........She doesn't have to know,.neither do his kids..If they need him they can call your land line and leave a message...You guys can check it a few times if you are not home.....
Same with your house phone............never answer it.......Wait to see who is leaving the message , and either pick it up or let machine take message.......
Same with E-mail..............She can E-mail all she wants...he can .....tell her evernually that he hadn't gotten on the computer for a few days for whatever reason,,None of her bees wax!..And maybe the best way to respond for him is E-MAIL..She only wants to harrass him anyway..........Don't forget we can't control people, but we can control what and how they get to us........He needs to contact his children at least (1) time a week on their cell just to be a good dad.............or... every other would be ok, since they don't bother to call dear old dad......The best thing for you to do , which I know it will be hard, is to just bite your tongue if it is her on the phone(s), or e-mail and walk away and go clean somethig.............She knows she is getting to you and that is what she is trying to accompolish...........Or one last idea.........You answer the phones when she calls, tell her you will be happy to let your (husband) and say the word, know that she has called when he returns, although you don't know what time it will be......(duh late!).....Be as kind as you can be, she will hate it......Always tell her to have a good day! (good luck) You know what they say.........Kill em with kindness! She will always use the kids as a reason for a call.....get use to it and go on....

Answer 8

The EX is always going to be a part of his life, since there are kids involved. This you should have taken into consideration when you got with this guy, but one suggestion would be to get a restraining order on her, change your phone #'s, and e-mail adresses. But then again, the kids will have the new #'s and she may get them again. Legally, a restraining order will be a good idea.Or learn to live with it.

Answer 9

He should NOT have any contact with her; especially since she isn't trying to be civil and her intentions have nothing to do with the kids who are adults. He should filter her emails and do NOT answer or respond to ANY of her calls. If this doesn't work...I would BUST HER ASSS! but thats me....others with more patience would say get a restraining order on her asss and start recording/saving message she leaves to build up the restraining order case. G'luck!

Answer 10

the more you show you are bothered the more she will do it - ask your husband not to tell you what has been said on the phone, as for the children there is no way round not speaking to her about them regardless of how old they are. She is not in a very good position if she hasnt moved on - and you can sit back and pity her you are in a much stronger position as you have the man