He was a great guy, but older like 20 years. he was sweet but he didnt understand certain things about me wanting to be young. I was falling for him but I just couldn't take the lying. But its been 3 months, and I want our relationship.
2006-10-25 01:16:07 · 18 answers · asked by Danni 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you know what to do---A leopard never changes it's spots---no matter. Don't waste your time and emotions on someone who does not have the "qualities" you want and need. And, you must admit, truthfulness is at the top of the list in any relationship!
2006-10-25 01:25:25 · answer #1 · answered by babeboomer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dnt wanna sound harsh, but get out now. It's nothin 2 do wiv him bein older (though that does psychologically mean he's the boss, & u're the sweet vulnerable 1), but if he's ALREADY lying 2 u, u wnt trust him. I'm sorry, but I've been there. I stayed in a relationship wiv a guy I didn't trust cos it was amazing on every level. But in the end, I had 2 just let go, cos MY distrust of him meant we could never work.
About u being young, do that. Go out & have fun. It was just that u 2 weren't compatible on that level. U may have been on other levels, fair enough, but the lying destroys everything.
If u think it'll make u feel better, go out & 'have fun' wiv other guys. Otherwise, keep busy, go out wiv ur mates etc. Just avoid that man.
If that all sounds 2 wishy washy, & this is majorly depressin u, try 2 give urself small goals. Like gettin rid of photos, letters etc. Take 1 day, or even hour, at a time. That is what I'm doin. It's not exactly embracin life, but it's survivin, bein as strong as I can b by not gettin back wiv him. Congratulate urself on that fact.
Good luck, x
2006-10-25 08:32:26 · answer #2 · answered by viv friend 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask YOURSELF why?
Weight problem?
Always Complaining and Nagging
Oral sex to completion?
Anal Sex?
Outdoor
Public/Risky
Spanking
BDSM
Contented and happy dogs do not stray, never say no to anything anytime anyplace anywhere with anybody he wants..and I guarantee a long happy and fun life...or listen to the religious loonies and puritans on her or the bitter never getting or had any individuals that answer..and you will end up end up fat, alone, depressed and bitter, wondering how all the other women manage it........and writing answers on here like some of the ones above and below!
2006-10-25 08:23:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be with a liar who didn't understand you? Sounds more like infatuation than any real affection for the guy.
You get what you settle for...if you get back with him you'll have no right to fuss about his lying or that he doesn't have patience with your immaturity or youth...
It sounds more like you want a fantasy relationship, and not what that one actually was...
2006-10-25 08:22:19 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God, I hope the two of you can work things out. I wouldn't wish you on anyone else. We need to keep the two of you off the open market. Hurry call the SOB and tell him YOU"RE sorry. He'll love it and you can get what you so desperately require; validation from a nit-wit. you're both empty inside. Get to the phone. Missy!
2006-10-25 08:46:26 · answer #5 · answered by older, not wiser 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you said he was, that means he is no more so you can be re-united but i think someone 20 years older than you are is not the man i think you should spend the rest of your life with .(Don't be offended ,just a personal opinion)
2006-10-25 08:41:49 · answer #6 · answered by wales4u_14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try going out to different places and hopefully meeting people your own age - 20 years is a big difference imagine when you are 40 and he will be 60 (not good really)
2006-10-25 08:18:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant get back together with this guy hes like crazy if he lies to you and is way older than you your gonn need to just forget about this guy and find yourself someone that will be alive when u have kids!
2006-10-25 08:24:12 · answer #8 · answered by ice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it time 2 move on. if he was lieing 2 u maybe that was shyness but he should of told u. more on he will just lie 2 u again.
2006-10-25 08:35:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
decide if you can live with his lying. If you can look past his BS and still feel for him them stay around.
If truthfulness is more important than those "I love you" feelings, then kick his butt out and find another object for those feelings.
I kicked mine out.....
2006-10-25 08:19:38 · answer #10 · answered by Judy the Wench 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋