My boyfriend and I have been living together for the past year, and together for two. There's only one thing we fight about, and that's how he slobbers over other women right in front of me! I'm not sure how to handle it anymore. We've talked about it many times, and he always says that it's just something he does, and it doesn't mean anything. I've explained to him that it makes me insecure, like I'm not enough/good enough for him. He and I both think I'm sexy, and I feel great about myself, aside from this situation. I don't want any criticism about how "that's just how guys are, they're built different and they're visual". I need to know how other women have dealt with this situation constructively, since I know changing his behavior is impossible (short of breaking up of course, but I really don't want to resort to that just yet). Thanks :)
2006-10-25 01:14:49 · 4 answers · asked by vanessabfly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately, some men are built like that. I had that issue, I asked him to respect my wishes to NOT do it in front of me. If he can at least do that for you then he is being considerate of your feelings, if not you have a bigger problem on your hands and it would seem he does not care what you think. If you trust him and you know that your his one and only, this really should not be such an issue, you can turn it into a game find out what it is about these women that he needs to stare at, rate them together or something. If you can't beat him, join him. Might be fun in the end! God bless!
2006-10-25 01:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time your say, 'Ya, she is pretty. But you should have seen this guy I saw last night. I can only imagine how big his ---- was. Let's go home, all of a sudden I want you so bad right now.' By the way, I'm a guy and we're not all like that, just the one's most women seem to never get enough of, then complain about.
2006-10-25 08:58:37 · answer #2 · answered by older, not wiser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend used to do that all the time. Im not with him anymore but not because of that. I would always tell him that it bothered me and that it was rude. I told him that if he thought it was ok to do it, then it was ok for me to and i told him i would check out guys right in front of him to show him how i felt. he didnt do it so much after that. and he also pointed out to me that yes he might be checking another girl out, but he's with you and that doesnt mean if he didnt know you and saw you he'd probably check you out too. Try making him realize how this makes you feel because I know it can feel degrading also.
2006-10-25 08:24:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its disrespectful to you!! bottom line. Start ogling about guys in front of him,, I bet he will get the hint!
2006-10-25 08:28:37 · answer #4 · answered by kitkatish1962 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋