i have pretty much no luck with females, with virtually any that something happened with were drunk and then regretted it later when i talked to them for future dates. i realise i am not very good looking, but this constant failure has in turn just made me feel like i have no purpose at times. other times when i dont think about it however, i feel fine and enjoy myself. when i feel down though, i have lately thought about committing suicide, and the best way to do it. i do feel at times that i could do it, but then to think of my mum at her sons funeral will instantly stop me. does this mean that im depressed, or is it just sort of a down period, and everyone feels like that some of the time? i also smoke weed a bit, but that helps me cope when i feel down. is this fairly normal?
2006-10-25 00:53:41 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Everyone feels "down" sometimes, but if you are having recurring thoughts of suicide, that is one of the major symptoms of depression. You should seek help immediately and not wait for things to get better on their own, because it is not likely that they will. Even if you don't have money or insurance, there are organizations that can help you through the government. Please get help, so that you can get better. That will start a chain of events that will probably make your life better overall; it sounds like you're trapped in sort of a downward spiral right now, and you need to break that cycle.
2006-10-25 01:01:21 · answer #1 · answered by cartmansmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you are trying too hard with the girls. Lighten up. Problems with girls is such a minor thing...hardly worth taking your own life over.
Yes, you are depressed when you have suicidal thoughts, and yes, smoking weed makes the depression worse, as will alcohol.
Ask your friends for honest opinions on how you can change your luck with the ladies. They can tell you what you are doing wrong, if you are willing to listen and give their advice a try.
By the way, when a person cannot look inside you and see past your physical features, then they are not worth having as a friend or romantic partner.
Hope your luck changes soon. Don't give up. Talk to a Dr. about your depression and get some help.
2006-10-25 01:30:25 · answer #2 · answered by shortfrog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be depressed. I *believe* I read somewhere that not all suicidal people are depressed and not all depressed people are suicidal. But you also demonstrate low self esteem; you smoke a substance that brings you down...
I think you need to speak to your doctor and let him/her recommend a course of action. You likely could benefit from some counselling/therapy.
Absolutely ignore the first poster. That's just a jack-a** response. Forget about "only the good looking people" luck out. Absolutely not so. You don't indicate your age -- but I am "over the hill", so I know that that obsession with good looks tends to breed with many young people (& older people too -- the whole "I mustn't age!" thing with plastic surgery & stuff) -- especially since we're bombarded with the media's focus on beauty and youth. Maybe you're just picking the wrong types of girls. Are you going for the top babes? If they place looks at the top, then what possibly, other than sex, could you want with them? Trust me, for a relationship longer than 1 night, girls want a guy who is honest, treats them with respect, is loving, and is their partner. Be yourself. Look around you at some "couples" -- young and older. Are they all good looking? Absolutely not.
Forget the looks -- that's not the reason, unless your goin' after shallow superficial people -- and talk to your doc. Everyone has a purpose in life. Good luck.
2006-10-25 01:18:01 · answer #3 · answered by Mary C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, see a doctor. Even if you just start with your family doctor. Explain what's going on to him. There are medications that can make you feel a world of difference. Please do not let your mother bury her son. Once you begin to feel better, you will present yourself differently. Once you feel a little stronger, your way of thinking will change. If you feel more positive, you won't come across to people as a "failure".
One of the worst things you can do right now is drink or use drugs, both of these things will make you feel worse than you already do. Perhaps you're young, well a lot of people grow into their looks as they age, and blossom later in life. You should get physical... exercise, it releases endorphins in your body which make you feel renewed. A healthy body=a healthier mind. Better days are coming.
I know you'll find happiness.
2006-10-25 01:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by Ceajae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need self evaluation. If for any reason you feel you're not good looking facialy, U can add spice by dressing nice, having a nice hair cut and improving your interpersonal relations. Thinking of committing suicide is a sure indication of depression. Instead of smoking weeed&drinking to give you temporary relief why not face your problems and find real solutions? I wish you all the best.
2006-10-25 01:19:45 · answer #5 · answered by Gentlehero 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually weed is a downer and could be part of whats making you depressed even though you feel better while your high. Dont worry about your looks. You'll find a woman who will love you for who you are and not waht you look like. And trust me I am good looking and I hate being liked for my looks only. I have a great personalitiy and I wish people would look past teh way I look and see who I really am. God bless you and dont try to commit suicide you are unique and there is no one else like you, and there is someone that is meant to be for you, some people just have a harder time and longer time finding it. Try not looking for awhile and maybe they will find you.
2006-10-25 00:59:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well for one thing smoking weed makes people more depressed, just like drinking. You may need help if you have suicidal thoughts.
2006-10-25 00:57:33 · answer #7 · answered by pegasis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U mentioned wen u dont think of it u r fine and enjoying ur life then why u thinking of it..? dear life is for livinf nt for leaving...yes it is symptoms of depression but i also feel the same thing but at that time i remember all the good things happen to me.... Loving partner is important but u can survive without them honestly speaking i was much happier before i met my husband there are lots of tension yaar u are lucky that no one has came till date to spoil your life...on the contrary yes it make you feel complete but that half will come at its own time .....n believe me GOD has always good things for you ......so wait enjoy your life n please do not flirt else u loose that affection in ur love which is for your partner...n dont think for suicide coz u get only one life to live ..so live to fullest.......Take care...n if it still persist see doctor... keep smiling...:)
2006-10-25 01:14:27 · answer #8 · answered by Angela 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a clinical social worker and yes suicide is definetely a sign of depression. You need to seek help asap!
2006-10-25 08:25:41 · answer #9 · answered by Tammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a sign of depression seek help URGENTLY
2006-10-25 00:58:43 · answer #10 · answered by bootie1706 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋