2006-10-24 22:28:37 · 24 answers · asked by judy_r8 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I only ask because I know a couple I used to work with. They are bothe in their 3rd year of university and both hold full time jobs, giving most of their earnings to their parents to help support the families. she is muslim, and he is sihk. Her father and brothers have said they will kill the pair if they marry. so they've quit school, and their jobs and run away to England to marry. Now they can't come back home and the parents are devastated
2006-10-25 05:52:12 · update #1
Only the devoutly religious would be so small-minded as to prevent their daughter marrying whoever she wishes.
2006-10-24 22:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want the Christian perspective the word of God commands a Christian not to marry someone outside Christianity because they be unequally yoked (2 Cor :14). This is because God wants rhe couple to live by Christian principles and values and because when they obey God they can expect God to bless the marriage. The most important commitment a Christian couple makes is 'till death do us part'. So for devout Christian couples divorce is not an option. Parents will be glad that their daughters have the commitment that there be no broken marriage. Both couples must be prepared to change and live the way based on God's word. It Is God's opinion or direction that matters and this gives less leeway for arguments..
2006-10-25 05:49:58 · answer #2 · answered by seekfind 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i would, after all is her decision and her mom should stand beside her, but problems as some religios holydays or the kids religion will appear and maybe it will take a while to over come them. I'm married with a muslim (i;m a orthodox), but from time to time i feel like he will never accept my religion and the fact that i;m orthodox. In the end i think religion should not count, but its a very big wall in a couple so if you think that your daughter can live beside him and resolve many issues then i think you should let her marry the guy, in the end only God will decide how's how.
2006-10-25 05:37:43 · answer #3 · answered by black_cat_heart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally no. It depends how different. There can be detrimental effects on children. Mixed marriages tend to get children confused and frustrated over which one to choose and rejecting both. If there are minor differences I would consider it and keep an open mind on if there is a chance of success. Do this by finding the most controversial issues and see how much friction it causes bringing it up. Don't avoid it. Better to know now then later.
2006-10-25 05:34:59 · answer #4 · answered by Search4truth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong about marrying someone who belongs to another religion as long as both love each other .it is the affection of both parties they could adjust themselves after marriage either to follow the religious sect of the woman or of the man or decide to join another religion which they believe they could be save by GOD and have eternal life. Love affair between a man and a woman should not be interferred by the parents because it is the righrt of every human being to select her or hjis partner in life
2006-10-25 05:45:44 · answer #5 · answered by Jesus M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my daughter is of a legal age I don't know how I could "forbid" her from doing anything she chose. I might not support her choices but I don't see how I could stop her from making them.
It is my desire that she be trained to understand that God does not want her to "unequally yoked with unbelievers." This leads to all kinds of trouble and unhappiness because of diverging goals and desires.
It is my hope that she grow up into a woman of moral strength and with a sense of integrity. If she maintains her relationship with God I don't see that this will be a problem.
2006-10-25 05:57:59 · answer #6 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would caution her against it and warn her of the problems involved. But ultimately it will be her decision and I just hope that I raised her well enough with a strong enough faith.
I married outside of my religion when I had backslid for a time. I can tell you that my marriage has been riddled with pain and problems, especially since I returned to church.
2006-10-25 05:41:35 · answer #7 · answered by bobm709 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter could make up her own mind, at the time she turned 18.. My spouse and I would have supported whomever she chose, , as we believed that we had taught her all that we could... The rest is up to her..
the WORST thing a parent can do is to forbid ! That makes the decision tainted by rebellion.
2006-10-25 05:34:29 · answer #8 · answered by Chetco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that truly made her happy, yeah.
Catholics are allowed to marry outside our religion.
Of course, if her religion is a big part of her life then marrying outside our religion would be a detrimental factor in the relationship so I would discourage her. But ultimately it's her choice.
2006-10-25 05:30:15 · answer #9 · answered by Sudy Nim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would leave the choice up to her, but strongly caution against becoming unequally yoked. It can cause problems. Just look how many arguments there are on this site because of difference of religion.
2006-10-25 05:34:58 · answer #10 · answered by neverland_mom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋