Negativity?

Question

All my friends say I'm negative. They say I complain alot, critisize people and ask way to many questions. I'm glad that they're honest with me and I don't want answers like "Get new friends" or anything cause even my homeroom teacher says I'm negative. I really do complain alot (i.e. I'm so cold, I have a headache) I really don't think I'm negative but one time my Ex and I were in a fight and he told me to go see a shrink because I'm so Sad and angry all the time. As for critisizing people I'm a fashion addicttttt! I always see stuff like a classmate's belt is twisted or something and then It will really bug me until the problem is fixed. So i tell them about it, not meanly or anything i just say "your belt is twisted" or something plain like that. Also I cry alot like in the middle of the night I'll wake up and feel so bad and then I'll think of my cousin who drowned or my Ex.........Am I normal or should I go see someone about this?

Thanks guys ;) oh yeah ....I go to church every sunday and I think most of it is the dumbest things I've ever heard.....No offense.....

Answer 1

Sounds like you have been spoiled over your life and left to be negative and critically honest. I agree with you somewhat...there are time that we should let it out, but if everyone is telling you that they never see a happy thought from you, maybe there is room for self reflection and improvement. Read some self books about positive mental attitude and the rest will follow.

Perhaps start with the fashion attitude. Rather than say something like: "That is really a terrible outfit"; try a tactful critisism" "That is an interesting choice of outfits, I et it would look nice it you did this too" and make it a constructive conversation instead of negative.

Good luck

Answer 2

I am not a doctor but sometimes people say things just to get some attention even if it is negative. it is doing the job of getting attention. now you like fashion go to fashion school and become a fashion critic and get it out if need be. I personally think that if you told me my belt is twisted and said it in a nice way not loud and rude i would appreciate it. and that ex of yours may say stuff like this just to be mean or when in an argument i am not sure... but the crying at night for unknown reasons,,,there is something to talk about. you could be dreaming who knows but seeing a counselor's could help with your grieving thoughts of your cousin and get over the ex. i personally think it is normal to grieve and think of those you love and sure cry a bit but not all the time or lot. depending on the time that has lapsed. the longer it has been the less you should cry.

Answer 3

If you are aware you are doing those things, you may yet be able to tell yourself to STOP each time you feel you want to say something to re-arrange someone else' dress/belt/hair/ring/bag, etc... In its place, learn to give compliments (do make sure you are not doing this to ask for something in return). See something that's 'right' or nice, (perhaps not to you, but to the person wearing it), say it to the person and REALLY mean it. If you have been so critical of others until now, you may feel phony doing this, but, better fake it now than never, until you're doing it with 'soul' and heart and people will start to believe you.

It takes plenty time to undo what took as many years for you to 'dump' negativity on others, so, be nice to yourself too, when things don't work out the way you think it should. Being a geunine person takes years to build. I'm not talking about being really genuinely 'brutal' when you see something you don't like. If you find yourself with nothing nice to say, at times, because some things really 'grate' on your nature, (eg, loud music), just leave, but, don't ever criticise others for liking something you don't.

I hope this helps....:)

Answer 4

Definetly some depression issues there. I know how you're feeling. Mine started like that when I was young-- just didn't have the luxury of figuring it out till years later. I'm 33 now and I think it must have started around 16. Figured out what it was at about 23.
I wouldn't jump right on meds though. Sounds like your young enough to stop it in it's tracks before it gets out of control. Maybe if you just talk to a therapist once a week you can get a lot of things off of your chest. But definitely do it before you're in over your head in depression. Good luck,also.

Answer 5

^_^'' I don't know... you seem pretty normal. Everyone has their negative moments too.

Try to think of nice and positive things to say when you want to say something that may even sound a bit negative. Or try not to say anything at all, and maybe do something to get your mind off of it?

It's okay to complain a lot, as long as it doesn't bother those around you, and it's not about everything.

But ya, you seem pretty normal though. And it's ok to think about people you care about, even if it makes you sad.

Good Luck ^_^

Answer 6

Probably just the problems of going through the teen years. Emotional highs and lows. If you're female you should started writing down on a calendar when your period starts then track it monthly as to why your moods are going a certain way. Usually women will get extremely down moods the week before their period. If you take note of this you'll know the mood will pass.

Answer 7

there is truly no way that you'll triumph over negativity however variety it is presented in; this is the option of positivity. it would want to notwithstanding be switched over by ability of meditation. by technique of meditation i do not advise lalala sit down and watch the fairies play, notwithstanding it is conceivable to flow notwithstanding each and every layer of the recommendations and go beyond it. what's faulty with feeling offended in course of someone for killing your buddy? Why can we sense that it is so undesirable? This anger might want to be utilized. you've a call to both flow out and search for revenge, or use that great rigidity to furnish you the rocket gas you want to propel you right into a sparkling layer of your expertise. the in difficulty-free words thanks to get rid of negativity - so i'm informed - is to go beyond both the postitive and the adverse and then i imagine you'd be enlightened and also you are able to advise me.

Answer 8

Try to turn what you are saying into positive statements. Instead of, "I'm so cold." say "Is it chilly in here to you?" That way you cound more concerned with others feelings/well-being & things won't sound so negative. The crying...maybe you should see someone for this.That can turn into depression if left alone to fester. Good luck!

Answer 9

Listen to your friends! They are probably right. Sounds as if you are depressed with obsessive compulsive behavior,as well.
Awaking in the middle of the night & not being able to get back to sleep is another sign of depression. Please see a counselor or your family doctor to get the treatment you need. Your life will be much happier.

Answer 10

It could be that you are depressed. Sometimes when we feel bad without wanting to we can make others feel bad. It is so easy to be negative when you are having trouble dealing with issues in your personal life. You definately should talk to someone about what is going on.