I Have a 2 month old daughter and a wife that is handicapped (in a wheelchair) if I were to join the Army what do they offer for my situation, and how can I make so I am not deployed overseas. I need to be near her to help what do I do.?
2006-10-24 04:48:21 · 17 answers · asked by Sergio R 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I spoke to a recruiter and he said he can get me a unit that doesnt deploy (sounds a little bit farfetched to me)!
2006-10-25 02:33:30 · update #1
I am willing to serve my country and I wish the situation was diffrent but its out of my hands. But I still am a patriot of my country and the armed forces
2006-10-25 02:35:29 · update #2
The best answer is going to be not to join. The Army has a program called EFMP. It means Exceptional Family Member Program. I have diabetes and high blood pressure so I'm on this program. However, it means nothing. My hubby can still deploy and they can still move us where they want. In most cases it simply means that you can only be a certain distance from a medical facility. Even with my condition, which is serious because something could happen to me at any time, my hubby can still deploy. Basically, all it does is makes sure that the Army is aware that a family member has a medical condition. There are all different reasons for EFMP from medical to mental and others. Your wife would definitely qualify, but I'm not sure how much good it would do since you have to care for her. If you're sure you want to enlist, you might be able to engage some sort of home care for her if you can afford it. Army medical (TriCare) might even help cover the cost depending on her condition. These are all things you'd have to talk to an expert about. Start with the recruiter. Whatever you do, get it in writing. That's the only way you can assure it'll happen.
Good luck and thanks for being willing to serve!!
2006-10-24 05:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by HEartstrinGs 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it. What your recruiter will tell you and what will actually happen are most likely NOT at all the same thing AT ALL!
If you need to be at home... the LAST thing on EARTH you should do is join the armed forces right now!!!
My husband joined and it went from the recruiter saying he would see one deployment his entire contract IF HE EVEN WAS deployed... to the possibility of him seeing 4 deployments over the next few years and now with he is almost garaunteed to go at least 3 times...
Everyone these days is gauranteed deployment. And MUCH sooner than later. Listen to the warning of the man up above!!!!
As for the man saying the Army doesn't have any standards right now... if you plan to join the military and work around responsible people who do thier jobs and exhibit intregrity more so than in the civilian world... you are sadly mistaken. Its worse!!! I've heard the Army is better becasue they aren't supposed to mess around... but I know for sure that in the Air Force its all politics, who you know, and who youre buddies are!! Some of the things people do around here are just downright utterly shamleful and are deemed acceptable by the military society even tho the military rules strictly dictate other wise. Its pretty sick to think this is how our country works.
2006-10-24 11:54:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
They have a program called the Exceptional Family Member Program that can help families with a member with disabilities. You would register with them and they would make sure you got accessible housing (although this might increase your wait time for a house), medical care, and other things you need. However, your having a family member on EFMP has NO bearing on whether or not you deploy. There is no way to fix it so you don't deploy. If you join, chances are extremely good that you will deploy, that's all there is to it. My neighbor has epilepsy and the first time her husband deployed to Afghanistan, she got put in the hospital and he had to come home to take care of the kids. The next time he deployed, they made her leave her house on post and move home with her mom because they said they wouldn't send him home on emergency leave again and they wouldn't leave the kids alone with her in case something happened. If you absolutely have to be near her all the time, the Army is not the career for you, sorry.
2006-10-24 15:10:45 · answer #3 · answered by Cloth on Bum, Breastmilk in Tum! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to be deployed then don't join... Even if the Recruiter tells you that you wont be deployed... My husband is Air Force and he deploys to Iraq in January... He'll be missing the birth of our son... If you need to be at home with your wife why would you want to join? If it's just for the benefits then you need to rethink this whole situation.... Yes the health care is great but that's about it... Unless you've been in awhile and you get good pay... But you're gonna be gone at Basic for 8 weeks or more *not sure how long it is now* with out being near your wife and daughter... then it's off to Tech school for at least 6 weeks *most Tech school are at least 4 months... And if your Tech school doesn't last for more than 20 weeks your wife can't live with you... And you can't live off base with her... If she wants to move to your Tech school she'd have to pay for it*unless it exceeds a certain amount of time*... And if the Army needs you overseas then you will be Overseas... I know someone mentioned that housing is free; that's not true sure if you live off Base you get a housing allowance but that doesn't cover anything... My rent is more than my housing allowance And We're living in the cheapest place we could get... And our utilities are so expensive that it's not funny... We move on base in June of next year as long as we can get a house.. we've been on the waiting list since June... And we still have to pay to live on base... it's not as much as living off base but we still have to pay.... The military lifestyle is very hard... especially on spouses... We have the Hardest job in the military... I don't think you'd want to put any more stress on your wife... You can go and talk to a recruiter, *you need to if you're serious about joining*... But remember that what he tells you and what your orders are 2 totally different things... Good Luck...
2006-10-24 12:25:03 · answer #4 · answered by secret agent lady 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you join the service, no matter what branch, there is NO guarantee that you will not be deployed overseas, especially in the army and the current war in Iraq. I was in the USAF for 8 years and I was overseas plenty. They do however cover all medical expenses. If you do join, expect to be away from your family often. You are government property when you are enlisted and you do what they tell you to do. That's one of the reasons I didn't re-enlist after 2 tours besides the fact that I've grown and my outlook on wars and the government has changed significantly.
2006-10-24 11:59:17 · answer #5 · answered by Maureen B 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all , talk to a recruiter......every situation and every offer is different, you can't get that here! After you talk to a recruiter you will better be able to determine if you should join the Army or not. They may not take you if you think you can dictate that you not go over seas., what you could do is move your wife and baby closer to family so that if you are deployed somewhere where they can't accompany you they will at least be near family to assist.
2006-10-24 11:51:43 · answer #6 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You probably shouldn't join. Now is not a good time for you to be deployed and that is what is going to happen as soon as you get done with Basic and AIT. The Army cannot guarantee you will not be deployed. The mission is always first no matter what!
2006-10-24 13:01:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well the good news is there are support organizations in the military branches that can help you the bad part is there effectiveness varies from one command to the other. If you join the Army you will be going to Iraq no ifs ands or buts. If you must join a service I would suggest the coast guard you will not go overseas and you can stay close to your wife and child. this to me anyway is the most practical option for someone in your position.
2006-10-24 13:00:05 · answer #8 · answered by brian L 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you are really thinking about this then theres is a group called family support they help you with everything they can. its just a group of military wifes that help each other out while there husbands are deployed they have day care available for your daughter and in your situation they have something called hardship. that just means that you arent able to deploy due to a hardship at home. i think that would fall into that category.
2006-10-26 12:37:41 · answer #9 · answered by blanca o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't sign up. Once you're in the military you belong to them. You can be stationed anywhere you're needed. They do not take into account your family situation. Best thing for you to do is not to join. You have too many other issues at home to take care of...stay home and take care of your responsibilities. Any recruiter worth a grain of salt would give you this advice.
2006-10-24 12:59:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋