I'm planning a wedding. I want my guest to have a great time. What is the one thing you hate about weddings?
2006-10-23 14:24:27 · 28 answers · asked by Megan 1 in Food & Drink ➔ Entertaining
Well, I can think of quite a few things, but here are the main ones to watch out for, and I think most people would agree:
1. Nobody likes to wait around for the bride and groom, so do your pictures before everyone arrives for the ceremony. Once that's over, everyone wants to eat, drink, and dance.
2. An uptight bride and groom. You're going to be exhausted from getting your hair done, getting ready, getting pictures, etc. Nobody but you cares if your flowers were just the right shade or fully blossomed, or whatever nonsense. If you're uptight about that kind of thing, you will ruin it for your guests and especially for your wedding party.
3. Not being acknowledged by the bride and groom. Do what you can to make sure everyone knows how much it means to you that they came to share your special day. Many people will probably have to go to quite a bit of expense and planning to be there for you, so make sure you acknowledge them, and their gifts. Have cool favors, great food, a reception line, plenty of dances with the bride and groom, and remember your thank you cards (I blew this and regret it).
Remember that this should be the HAPPIEST day of your life. Don't get bogged down in the stressful pursuit of perfection. Let your wedding day set the tone for a wonderful, fulfilled, grateful, relaxed, and happy life together. That spirit will affect your guests in the nicest and most memorable ways!
2006-10-23 15:14:50 · answer #1 · answered by MissNeen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My biggest complaint used to be about the wedding menu. I have food allergies and I have gone hungry at too many weddings because no alternative foods were available. So if possible, arrange some flexibility for dietary concerns. However, my new biggest complaint is the newlyweds who don't mingle with their guests. In recent years I have attended three weddings knowing only either the bride or the groom and have never met the new spouses. If you don't have a receiving line, make sure you visit each table at the reception (and doing both would be best).
2006-10-23 16:17:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After planning weddings for all of my friends and thier siblings, here's my advice.
Keep it simple. Spending all the extra money and time on things that no one will remember is a waste! If you can afford a champagne wedding, go for it. If you're on a beer budget, then simple is better than trying to fake it!
Make sure there's someone to get you (and your bride maids) food while you're getting your hair/make up done. You'll be so busy running around getting everything done and preparing for your wedding that you sometimes forget to eat! Give someone this assignment! Have snacks in the room where you and your girls are getting dressed.
Someone mentioned hating the wait between the wedding and the reception. One suggestion is to have your pictures before the wedding.
Having a good planner who can take care of the details and let you just enjoy your day is a great help.
2006-10-23 15:23:45 · answer #3 · answered by rtlsimpson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that it's hard for little tikes to sit still and be quiet all that time, and the mean looks people give their parents. Some parents are in a fix for a sitter, so they must bring them, some parents (like me) just want their kids with them, and some parents will simply pass on the wedding because of no sitter or not wanting to get "the look." When my best friend got married, she specifically indicated on her invitations "babysitting services provided" and while she got hitched, in stead of being in her wedding, I kept kids at my house for the duration of the festivities. That way the parents could go and the kids were happy too.
2006-10-23 14:30:46 · answer #4 · answered by ihave5katz 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hate the intermission between the ceremony and the reception (when the bride, groom, and wedding party go for photos). There's usually no music, no food, and a bunch of guests standing around for an hour. Get the bar going and send around appetizers...
2006-10-23 14:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by a m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly the wedding..Sorry not trying to be mean, or rude, just that this is my opinion and that only..The shorter the better on the wedding..I hate sitting or standing for an hour for a wedding or funeral..lol.I understand that this is your day and that you want it to be so perfect, but c'mon not many will remember all the wedding details..they will rather remember what fun the reception was..:)
2006-10-23 14:32:19 · answer #6 · answered by Rain32 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can go a little wrong with food, selection of songs, color co-ordination but never, ever pay little attention to sitting arrangement.
Here's my story. Back in May, we went to my husband-to-be best friend's wedding. We were told we'll be seated with the bride & groom and their family. Fine. On that wedding day, after the ceremony ended, we walked into the banquet room.
It seems like everyone knew where to sit but not us. My husband-to-be approach his best friend's family, they didn't know the plan was for us to sit with them and that's not all, they weren't sure where we can be seated either.
We walked to 2 tables asking if we can sit with them, (its not filled by the way), they said, its taken. Frustrated, we sat at the table near the door, 5 minutes later, one of the bridesmaid asked, "are you family?" Duh, if we're family, we would have been introduced!! Then, she continued, "this is for family only.." By that time, I was so ANGRY and upset. I told her, "the groom told us to sit with him, we have not idea where that is, now we asked if we can sit at the other 2 tables, is wasn't empty and now you're saying this is for family.." I continued, "how can you say its for family, when we came all the way here, all we got was being push from table to table.." The bride's mother came to apologise, I said, "its ok, we're done." We left just a few minutes after the bride and groom walked in.
Can you imagine how embarrasing that is? My wedding is coming up in Dec, i'll make sure my seating arrangement is done to the T.
2006-10-23 23:57:02 · answer #7 · answered by j 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate when a wedding starts late. I understand that there is a lot going on, but I have been to family weddings that were 40-60 minutes late starting.
2006-10-23 16:18:20 · answer #8 · answered by Lovely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1) Overcooked food, especially shrimp and chicken breast.
#2) The princess brides who think its ALL about them. It is about the bride AND the groom. Let him shine a little too.
#3) Obvious ostentatiousness. It is just a party. Spending too much just to impress people is a ridiculous waste of money. Have a good time!
I wish you a great wedding and marriage.
2006-10-23 14:46:33 · answer #9 · answered by lianasea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate the formal sit down dinner, and usually the food is aweful (there's little choice, it tastes bad, and there is NEVER enough of it!). When my husband and I got married, we had one of our favorite local mexican food restaurants cater, and it was AMAZING. To this day (2 years later) I have people telling me how great the food at my wedding was and how refreshing it was that we didn't have the same old thing as everyone else.
2006-10-23 14:34:02 · answer #10 · answered by missapparition 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋