IAm 27years old, I feel it is the time to get married and live the family life. For the coming 2years, I should be married and at least have one kid.
But, I feel too much scared, I suppose it comes positive?? will all my dreams be shut down? will be able to have a baby if found positive??. What will be the reaction from my friends? family and other relatives?.Really these are the questions daily ringing in my head.
These questions acted as a break for me to go for a test. Should I mary before testing? how about the kid if found positive? how about its mom?.Just a bit cough make me feel,ooooooooh! the symptoms have already started!!!Lots and lots of questions burning my brain.
Please help me, where and how to start?, I HAVE NEVER SEXED WITHOUT A CONDOM
2006-10-22 22:10:20 · 12 answers · asked by Benny 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
Maybe you should have thought about that before you lived the life you did. The only way to know is to get tested and waiting only makes things worse. Hope everything turns out ok for you
2006-10-22 22:13:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you have never had sex without a condom you shouldn't worry too much, but just to be on the safe side go and take the test just in case and take it every three months there after so you are sure. If it were to God Forbid, to come out positive, you should tell your family as soon as possible and sit down with your fiance and tell him also, and it is up to him to decide if he still wants to marry you, but as far as children you should think about adoption because I don't think that you are the type of person that would want to bring a child into the world with a death sentence on its head. Talk to your people. GOOD-LUCK and GOD BLESS
2006-10-23 00:27:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I was in many high risk situation in my life before I met my last wife. That was 20 years ago and I was working in a hospital at that that time. She was a virgin and after a 2 year courtship we decided to marry. The lab did the required blood tests and I ask that I be tested at that time. The risky behavior had stopped 4 years prior but I learned that the HIV virus can lay dormant as long as 15 years. The doctor who read the report and give me the results told me "I have some good news and some bad news" The pounding of my heart filled the room. "The bad news is, if you're planning to have kids, your lady should get a shot for mumps" " Oh, and that's also the good news" :>)
2016-03-28 04:45:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop freaking out, and go get tested. It might come negative. Get tested for All STD's ( sexually transmitted diseases) if it comes positive then deal with it later, since you don't know yet stop freaking out. It's not the end of the world just a beginning of a new life if u r positive. I have taken care of a few HIV positive people, and a couple of baby's. Very sad. Also don't forget to wear a condom next time u freak out and go have sex.
2006-10-22 23:58:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you not alone on this thought have the test done first don't rush yet in having kids wait at least 3 years of testing first it wouldn't be fair to hurt a woman and child if your sick also let the one your going to marry about your past .if you don't she may have a friend that you sexed and she may tell her or if your known where you live with a reputation she may just find out without you telling be truthful getting married is not just for settling down its about honesty and trust loyalty be truthful good luck
2006-10-23 00:55:14 · answer #5 · answered by nicole l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have an HIV test done by your doctor or any Community Health Dept. You not only owe it to yourself but that of your new family. Know your HIV status before you involve someone else. It should be the option of your mate whether or not they want to be involved. And always be honest no matter what the outcome of the test, your loved ones (family & friends) will respect you for it. Go get the test and God be with you...
2006-10-23 00:09:26 · answer #6 · answered by luckydog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go get checked. It is a scary feeling but sometimes knowing is better than not. And if it comes back positive you will just have to deal with it. If you always wore a condom chances are slim that you got HIV.Go get checked you will feel a lot better. Sometimes stressing over a situation you make you sick.
2006-10-22 23:20:53 · answer #7 · answered by kitten 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should absolutely get tested. be sure to bring those questions with you to your doctor and discuss them with him/her. it's always scary to get tested for HIV when you know that you've had unprotected sex, or when you change partners. this scary feeling is normal. if you really want to know the answers in your head, get tested. there are meds for HIV positive patients as well as support groups. good luck, stop having unprotected sex, and try to find a long-term partner.
2006-10-23 10:32:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eventhough you had so many girlfriends , chances of having HIV is pretty rare ( depends which country you live in ) so 90% it is negative specially you never had unprotected sex ...
so you had so many grilfriends or you had sex with so many prostitutes ???
2006-10-23 19:00:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, urgent, go nearest hiv test centre...
2006-10-22 23:11:41 · answer #10 · answered by Elshad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋