I have to make a confession to my dad. I have to tell him he needs to send me 15K more for my college tuition because the 15K he sent me before...I gambled away in 2 months(cries)...I know it will hurt him and I waited to see if I could win it back but that has not been possible and I cannot wait a day more (cant gamble anymore) or I will fail in my classes...I wish I was so rich that 15k was not a big deal but it is. My 56yr old dad has to now send my stupid *** more money its so sick...I did this mistake before also and spent 10K and promised I wont do it again so I have let him down.
Please tell me how can I make this confession - Please I am distraught...I know once I graduate and get a good job...this money wont mean much but I want my father to love me and trust me...I dont wanna make any mistakes in this important conversation....yet I am confused as to how to go about it...what is your advice and suggestions!
Thanks!
2006-10-22 14:58:40 · 16 answers · asked by Shah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok guys I told my dad everything on tuesday night. It was by far the toughest thing I have done in my life. It was so unfair to my parents. I have lied so much to them about so many things and I spit everything out in one phonecall. It was sick. Matter of fact, both my parents cried. They are really worried now about my future. But being parents, they are now giving me support. I am glad I finally stopped gambling and told everything to my dad which I was not able to in about 2-3 months. Thanks everyone for the great advice. I will pick the best answer soon but I loved a lot of your responses and goodbye...I probably will close down this account because I hate its very name"pokerlifededication". Anyways thanks a lot and God bless you.
2006-10-25 18:20:52 · update #1
first of all you dont deserve to have your dad pay for you anymore because if he does then hes a fool. youve already started to give yourself an addiction and the only way u will not move further in your addiction is to not have the money redilly avaliable to you again which means that you may ahve to say goodbye to school. you have just chosen a very difficult path my friend. i have never had the privaledge to go to colledge.we were just to poor. but guess what when you are poor, you learn humility and compassion. appreciation for the goods and services provided. we have to work in factories and have single parent homes and live in a cramped appartment. so many times i dreamed of having a life like you. the love and popularity. i bet you have alot of people who want to be around you .but is it for their social status or is it because you make them feel better as a person. i have learned to not of think of myself as much and care what i can do to help avoid going any further in their own little hell.
what i think happened is that you may have gotten spoiled cuz daddy wanted you to have all the things he never got. what he forgot to teach you is the value of working for what you get or appreciation for the gifts. when were constsntly handed things on a silver platter, we become greedy and expectant of getting when you do no giving. daddy needs to make you drop out of school for a few years so you can work your butt off like us common folk and learn what it feels to be in someone elses shoes. maybe only after you have learned to be a better person should your dad help you go back to school, but because you blew his money now, you should have to pay him back for the schooling the next time around. dad if you read this the best lesson here is to guide your child and teach him what life is like with true hard labor.only then can he stive to be who he truly acn be .please down dissown this person because obviously hes missguided and its up to yuo to take him under your wing and make him a man .
now please put yourself in your dads shoes and think how much he had to do to get where hes at.print this answere and read it to your dad. its all you deserve right now until you grow up and learn some respect
2006-10-22 15:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by solas lethe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow, that is a tough one. The best thing you can do is be honest and upfront with your dad. Sit him down, and tell him "dad I made a mistake." Then tell him what you did, and apologize PROFUSELY. Tears wouldn't hurt either. I'm sure he will be hurt, and angry at first, but I bet he'll appreciate you being honest with him. Also, you really don't have much of a choice in the matter. He is going to find out one way or the other, and i'm sure you'd rather he hear it from you then from the school's billing office. You also might want to seek help for your gambling problem. Good luck!
2006-10-22 15:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by LibraT 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will have to tell him the truth, and also - you need help. You made this mistake once and then again and you will make it again. You tried to do it again by winning it back, and just a few days ago you asked a question here about how to become better in poker. You need to realize that gambling will not solve ANY of your problems and will just drag you down lower and lower. You are a gambling type and need serious help. Don't become one of those addicts who gamble all their savings and their life away. Get help.
2006-10-22 15:02:37 · answer #3 · answered by brand_new_monkey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be straightforward, open and honest with your dad. You should expect a lot of "I told you so's", but if you are anything like me and the rest of the planet, this won't be the first or the last time you eat your fair share of "humble pie". You are in college, I assume you are smart, learn from this mistake, get help for your gambling addiction (don't deny it, embrace it - 15k is A LOT), and never do it again. If your dad truly loves you, your relationship will not suffer.
2006-10-22 15:03:26 · answer #4 · answered by Texas M.B.A. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop 'killing' yourself. You brought this up on yourself and you need to confess to your dad. Be truthful and honest to him. Be prepared for the consequences... I suggest, you keep quiet when he scolds you. You disappoint your dad. If I were your dad, I would not give you RM15 K directly... I would have paid to the college myself. Be sensible. Gambling is not something you can shirk away at one go. It will come and you must have the strength to say no. I don't know how you are going to make it without strong conviction. Be strong and have faith. Please do not break you dad's heart again. He will definitely forgive you... but you should also know that he's probably crushed to see you like this. You should be ashamed of yourself, buck up and don't chicken out on this. Confess to him fast and turn over a new leaf! God bless.
2006-10-22 15:07:06 · answer #5 · answered by counterculturalist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money doesn't mean anything when it's compared to love. Suck it up and get help. Do you really need the money now for school or will you gamble it away again? You really need to rebuild trust with you father and asking for help for you gambling problem is the first step. What is him giving you another 15grand going to do? It makes him an enabler and give you incentive to gamble again. Don't be surprised if he says no. Make ammends to the people you hurt and get yourself some help...
2006-10-22 15:02:28 · answer #6 · answered by Dick Tater 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um... You really shouldn't be gambling so much. Gambling addictions are bad for people. >.> The chances of winning a bet are usually low, so I don't like to gamble at all. Anyway, I think you should come clean.
2006-10-22 15:02:48 · answer #7 · answered by The World Ends with You 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no, little one, no more money for you until you get yourself into a 12-step program to stop your addiction. I think you should confess to your dad about your problem, go home, get cleaned up and then go back to school next semester. You have to face your demons and overcome them. You are not the only one with an addiction, but you need to get help NOW. I don't know if you know who Keith Urban is--he has everything going for him, top-notch, all-time famous country music entertainer, married to Nicole Kidman--had to check himself into rehab last Thursday. Even people with "everything" have demons. Get help before your whole life goes down the drain.
2006-10-22 15:06:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have a gambling problem and you are aware of it since you said you lost 10k and wouldn't do it again and you did.
tell him and let him make the decision. he should decide not to send you the money and let you drop out of college and go to work earning $7.50 an hour and waste your life away gambling on penny games.
get help. graduating college is not going to solve your problem.
2006-10-22 15:04:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why should he send u some more money i mean its ur fault u gambled it away he deserves a better daughter if u want the money back go get a job and work for it or become a prostitute i mean if u can gamble what else can u do ?
2006-10-22 15:04:08 · answer #10 · answered by teenchatter10 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋