How can I get my dad to understand that I have a problem???

Question

Last night I told you all about my sex addiction and how I may have an std. I am 16 and have slept with 11 guys and my vaginal smells bad. I once had a an orgy with six people and my older sister caught us in the act and she told my punk *** dad. He didn't believe her so I finally told him today that he and my mom has raised a hore. He was furious and now his b**** a** is threatening to kick me out. I can't help it if I continue to sleep around. I love sex and it is causing horrible smelly discharge. A lot of you judged me last night and I don't think it was right. We all make mistakes. Now I have ruined my dad's rep because the guy I slept with last night said him and his friends are going to put my dad on blast just because he is the mayor of the town we live in. I am pissed off and I might go to Sam's house to have a booty call tonight, unless I feel better. Good answers please and no rude comments because I am ashamed.

See, you guys are just like my dad. Do you think I want to hear this stuff and I am going through a rough time? You guys don't understand my pain! My dad is a piece of ****. My mom is no better. Sex eases my pain.

I seem to be horny now. Anybody want to meet up???

I am ver hurt that all you are downing me.

Answer 1

Sweetheart I already wrote you and told you to talk to your parents. You need to get them together in a room and tell them what you are feeling inside and that you really need to see a therapist to try and find out what is going on in your head so that you can stop doing what you are doing because there is obviously something wrong, and as loving parents they should do what a good parent should do when they love their children theey stand by them no matter what, but you also have to love them enough to go through with this in order to help yourself. Tell your father that you love him and that you are sorry for the things that you have been doing, butyou need his and your moms help, and to please help you. Try your best to work with them. I think that it is wrong for them to threaten to kick you out in the stree when it is so obvious that you need HELP. I will pray for you that they love you enough to help you. I might help if you show them this blog or whatever it is. Help Your child. She really needs you and I think that things will work out for all of you. She is blood of your blood don't destroy that bond, love your child no matter what wrong she has done.Find my other answer to you and show them both to your parents it may help you get started in the talk that the three of you really need to have with one another.

Answer 2

I do not want to judge your behavior as right or wrong, good or bad. You already know what you are doing has dire consequences. Your Dad is just in denial as too what is really going on. He is just in disbelief and even if he does start to believe you, he doesn't know how to stop you. So, his answer is to kick you out, thinking that if he threatens you with no place to live, you'll decide a roof over your head is more important than sex. I cannot change your dad's behavior, and as much as you would like for him to change, you cannot control how he acts. The only person you can control is yourself. If you're going to continue to engage in sexual activity, have all of your partners use condoms to help prevent the spread of STI/STD. Go to a local clinic, like planned parenthood and get a complete physical examination and pap smear, check for any current STD/STI you may have, if you have anything, get it treated, and then get free condoms and get on birth control. These are important for you. If you want to quit having so much sex and you feel this "addiction" is a problem, you should check into counseling then. There are resources available, utilize them!

Answer 3

First off if you are having unprotected sex...stop! Get some condoms and carry them around with you, its your responsibility as much as it is the guy.
Second, try douching, if you haven't already. The smell could be just from poor sanitation.
Third, go see a gynecologist. You need to be checked for stds on regular basis if you are sexually active.
Lastly, you mentioned " I am pissed off and I might go to Sam's house to have a booty call tonight, unless I feel better." It looks like that you are tryin to use sex to fill a void that you can't fill thru the rest of your life. You may want to seek therapy because this could be associated to a deeper routed problem.

Answer 4

Wow you need professional help, if the fact that you have or might have an std doesn't slow you down, then apparently nothing will, you said you don't want people to judge, but you know that what your doing isn't right, you seem to have some issues you need to work out, maybe your seeking attention from theres guys or something, but having 11 parteners by the age of 16 obviously isn't good. And what about pregnancy? You don't sound like your in the right place to worry about another life, if you can't even control your urge to have sex on a regular basis w/different people. I hope that your making this up, if your not, you really do need to get some help from someone, you don't sound like your in a healthy place right now!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Answer 5

Baby girl you need to stop! That's all! I'm not your daddy I'm not your mommy, I'm just someone that's telling you really need to stop. I was the very same way. On the other hand I didn't know my father and my mother was never around because she had to work. So I turn to men which I truly regret because they used me ruined my rep and everything got pregnant had an abortion, thank GOD I never got an STD. But still if you keep this up you will be miserable and you will never find true love later in life. You just have too much time on your hands find a job occupy yourself stay away from boys and men. In the mean time please keep your stuff under lock and key. Send me the key I'll save it for you. There is more I'd like to tell you but I'm tired of writing. GOOD LUCK. And find a free clinic to go to.

Answer 6

Okay sweetheart, for one thing, your NOT a bad person, just a person with a problem, and your just not going the right way to remedy the situtation. Second, immediatley, go to your gyno and get a pap done, and hate to say it, but get a HIV test done. For your sake and the others that you have slept with. Third, make an appointment with some sort of counselor or psychiatrist, please do this, your not crazy, just maybe need a little help, hell we all need help. Fourth, you need to remember, your Dad loves you or he wouldn't give a rats *** if you were sleeping around, or maybe I could be wrong and he isn't loving you enough and that is why you go looking to be loved some where else. Good reason for the help mentioned above. And sweetie, love yourself before anyone else, these people your sleeping with, they don't love you, or even care about you, so just stop what your doing, hell get a vibrator, safe sex..wala. But you dont need to be letting someone abuse your body and soul, it will come back to haunt you. Please, dont think I am being mean just trying to be honest, I feel for you, please get the help you need and just stay home toningt and dont go see Sam. I hope you get what you need, and I can help you find places in your area to help, just email me and we can chat [e-mail]
Take care of you,
Tonya

Answer 7

Let me see if I can help. First, stop feeling guilty and try to stop the anger both at others & at yourself. Talk with the guys who are planning reputation revenge on your father, or any one else. that simply won't help at all.
Next, as soon as possible, see your gyno for help with the smelly discharge--probably a simple infection. While you wait for your Dr. appt, use a douche, they come in scents--won't fix the infection, will help with the smell.
Your gyno can suggest a good counseler for you & your sex addiction, also family counseling will help with the drama around your house--pick a different counseler for this so there's no "Oops, that was said in confidence" issues from YOUR counselor. And while you're working with these counselors, TRY to settle your little butt down :) You're using sex to make yourself feel better about yourself & the situations around you. It doesn't work. (as you are clearly finding out). Try doing a challenging work-out, when I was in your situation I found dancing (even alone in my room) let off the sexual steam. ]
REmember, you're not a bad person, and you're not the only one who has gone through this, and, YOU"RE NOT ALONE. Ask for help ,which you already are--just not of the right people.
Good luck with all this, sweetie.

Answer 8

Did you ever hear one of those corny, positive messages on someone's answering machine? Hi, It's a great day and I'm out enjoying it right now. I hope you are too. The thought for the day is 'Share the love. '"Beep." "Uh, yeah...this is the VD clinic calling...Speaking of being positive, your test is back. Stop sharing the love.

No real dad would ever want there girl to be a ho. You should have more respect for yourself and learn to have some discipline.

Answer 9

Have you ever had a yeast infection? A friend of mine had a bad one---for a long time! Any of the guyus she slept with talked about it and made fun of her. I didn't know how to tell her. And, even though she was a "whore" if you wanna put it that way--she was shy. For her, it was easier to sleep with some one than to talk to them. So---when she got pregnant I saw the tube of cream and asked her if it was safe since she was preg. Well--that doctor made her use it. It might just be a yeast infection. They smell bad, can itch, even look green or like cottage cheese. If you want-you can email me: [e-mail]

Also: Planned PArenthood does testing for free according to income sometimes--check it out. Good luck

People please be nice.

Answer 10

i don't think you love sex at 16,i think you have very low self esteem and that is the only way for you to feel close to someone.you need help to love yourself.if you don't like yourself then you cannot expect anyone else to.sex dose not make you popular.go to the Dr.get checked out tell him your problem and he will get you advice on what to do now.do not let these boys fool you.they will never take you home to meet there parents.don't waste your time with them.