I recently had unprotected sex with someone I have been friends with for 11 years. We were both married (to seperate people). I'm divorced on 3 years now. Her more recently. We never have had sex before. Recently we became romantically involved. I had no reason to not trust her. Of course I know better now. Before some of you judge me I just want to say that I know I messed up and I am really scared. I am 40 and have had sex with 8 people during my whole life. Most during my 20's. I know some of you will say ugly things. Frankly, you can go to hell. I know I have to see a doctor which I will on Monday. I was wondering what this might be. I have a small discomfort in my pelvic area. Like if someone hit me in the testicles and the pain has subsided to almost null. I also feel like I have to pee all the time. Nothing hurts when I do pee. It has been about a week after our one and only encounter. A mutual friend told me that she may have herpes. I am asking for help and answers
2006-10-20 15:09:46 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
Maybe I didn't make myself clear. I did not cheat on my wife. I never never have. We have been divorced for 3 years now. I have not had sex with anyone in those 3 years until recently. I have been in depression over the break up of our family and haven't had the desire. You see I loved her very much and still do. It's just that she didn't feel the same way about me anymore. Don't want any of you to feel sorry for me. I just wanted to clarify.
2006-10-20 15:37:48 · update #1
It's definitely possible it can be herpes. Herpes can be spread whether the person is having an outbreak or not (that's how I got it!) But, it might be someting else too.
The primary outbreak of genital herpes tends to last longer and be more severe than subsequent (recurrent) outbreaks. Symptoms of a primary outbreak may include:
* Flulike symptoms, such as fever, headache, and muscle aches. These symptoms usually get better within a week.
* Tingling, burning, itching, and redness at the site where an outbreak is about to occur (prodrome).
* Painful, itchy blisters on the penis, on the vulva, or inside the vagina. Blisters may also appear on the anus, buttocks, thighs, or scrotum, either alone or in clusters. They may be barely noticeable or as large as a coin.
* Blisters that break and become shallow, painful, oozing sores.
* Swollen and tender lymph nodes in the groin.
* Painful urination.
* Abnormal vaginal or urethral discharge.
http://health.yahoo.com/ency/healthwise/hw270613/te3045;_ylt=AuY7pzlNxgCa_QY373tZAbLXNLUF
I think your best bet is to see your doctor on Monday (and it sounds like you know that). They would be able to properly diagnose you and offer treatment if necessary. Good luck to you!
2006-10-21 05:35:51 · answer #1 · answered by Alli 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like your physiological symptoms are being exacerbated by feelings of guilt. Why do you suspect herpes? Important to note is that the only way to diagnose genital herpes is if you have genital sores. When someone has sores they are cultured for the herpes virus and are also diagnosed via visual examination by a clinician. So, if you do not have any sores you can not be diagnosed. Second, if you want screening for bacterial STD's such as chlamydia and gonnerhrea you should wait a minimum of 2 weeks after any intercourse that you are concerned about in order for the screening/testing to be accurate. You really, really should talk to the woman that you had sex with!!! Tell her that you are concerned, ask her if she has ever been diagnosed with anything or ask her if she has any symptoms. Most people with STD's do not know that they have them, most STD's are asymptomatic(no symptoms). And, with genital herpes esepcially, most people with it do not know they have it. People can have it, never have sores and then are never diagnosed and again don't know they have it. Thus, one partner could have it and not know it, they could unknowingly give it to a partner, that partner could have sores at some point and the couple may find out about one or both of them having herpes this way. There is no reason to blame partners. You both chose to have unprotected sex, you both chose to put yourselves at risk. It is not appropriate to blame anyone.
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2006-10-20 15:23:25 · answer #2 · answered by sweetpea77thst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a bladder infection. And, your friend may not be to blame. Herpes presents itself as a raw, painful sore. Just like the cold sores you might get on your mouth or gums. On the outside!
Have a swab test done. And next time, use protection.
And that small discomfort in your pelvic area? That is where your brain apparently is located. And you can go to hell yourself!
2006-10-20 15:17:10 · answer #3 · answered by It All Matters.~☺♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be epididymitis or prostatitis. Look this up on the web. It kinda sounds like what you are describing but I don't know. You can ask your doctor to check for herpes just to put your mind at ease. I hope everything works out for you and don't worry. Believe me we have all been there at one time or another I know I have. All the best.
2006-10-21 07:53:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you urinate after you had sexual intercorse?...If you do not it can cause a build up and cause you to urinate. I am 98% sure that you do not have an std, you may have a urinary track infection ..and herpies causes sores which generally are only passes when the infected person has an outbreak. I am sure you are fine sir. Just relax and stop drinking so much!
2006-10-21 07:20:50 · answer #5 · answered by me. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, it sounds like a urinary tract infection......but you may also have chlamydia too.Contrary to popular belief, men can get this! You can never trust people...not when it comes to sex! Std's are so dangerous! You'll be lucky if it's just a UTI....I wish you the best! Good luck at the doctor!
2006-10-21 09:40:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
pal i am not here to put you down and i really mean that from what you have asked in my opion is a urany track infection and you are in my opion a man who has morals mst men would not have the gall to ask what you did and truley say that you was ashing for help in my opion you have nothing to worry about i truley wish you luck going throught a divorce does hurt this i know and in my opion you are going to be fine when you see your doctor god bless and in time who knows you and you.ex wife might get back together . my opion?
2006-10-20 20:06:00 · answer #7 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may be a bladder infection, my husbands friend had the same kind of symptoms and he went to planned parenthood and it was a bladder infection...it does not sound anything like herpes....p.s try not to look up stds on the internet, it just scares you, best thing to always do is go see your doctor.....good luck
2006-10-21 23:34:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a kidney infection, not herpes. Herpes are blister like sores in the genital area that itch and are red. You don't have that. Maybe you just need anti biotics. It doesn't sound like a STD to me. I would think a STD would be on your skin not in your testicals.
2006-10-20 15:26:20 · answer #9 · answered by lazycat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have the answers but just wanted to say I feel sorry for you man, take care and good luck, hopefully it is something curable.
2006-10-20 15:12:32 · answer #10 · answered by Wood77 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋