We have been together for about 3 years and are really in love. I recently slept with a collegue and long time friend on a work trip. She has had many partners and later told me she has herpes. My medical tests came back positive.
My fiance and I have had intercourse twice since the work trip, however I don't want to risk it anymore? What should I do?
2006-10-19 20:07:51 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
if she is going to risk catching herpes from you, which is possible even without having an outbreak, then she has the right to know
2006-10-19 20:10:08 · answer #1 · answered by Boop 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in this relationship for the long haul, then HONESTY is still the best policy! She deserves the truth, and you deserve to come out of the dark - that is, if youre really repenting!
There are risks; i.e. you might lose her, but then there was already a risk when your willy sought for another pie to poke!
If she loves you and think that you can still make this relationship work, then telling her is your best option, since you put her in a great risk of getting herpes herself (which is really LOW)! That way, both of you can deal with the herpes, and you come clean. If you lose her over this, at least you tried to be honest and then you can try getting her back. if she won't, i would say i dont blame her, but you have to start with the TRUTH.
2006-10-19 20:48:27 · answer #2 · answered by mark brian v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes of course just think of how you would feel if she had this secret. You should definitely read literature on this STD to help you and her understand this disease. Although having herpes isn't the end of the world, it carries a great deal of emotional baggage until you understand how to deal with this and learn to accept and live with having herpes. Your girlfriend will be in shock about the herpes and feel betrayed that you even cheated on her so be prepared for the consequences. There are allot of good Internet sites you could visit to learn more about Herpes.
2006-10-22 08:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by shuga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes tell your fiance that you just found out you have herpes. They need to know. You can say that you just found out when the doctor decided to do a routine exam. You dont need to tell him you just got it. Say that you had never been tested for it before. Your fiance needs to know!
2006-10-22 08:02:09 · answer #4 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth will always come out, so why don't you tell her fiance now. Tell her the truth and let the two of you decide on what to do. If she loves you enough, she will still be with you in this most crucial time in your life.
2006-10-20 03:47:54 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing how could you cheat on your fiancee and does she know that you slept with another woman? I would tell her that you got herpes from cheating on her. That would be the best thing to do. But I cant promise you she will still be your fiancee. You have really must that up dude. And if she stays with you. She is crazy. Such is life. How can you really be in love if you slept with someone else. OMG.. lol
2006-10-19 20:13:15 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle_204 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your relationship with your fiance is only as good as your relationship with the truth. Tell the truth and see what happens. If you don't tell her the truth than your whole relationship is built on more than one lie. Not good. You wouldn't want her to do that to you now would you? Come clean and do it now.
2006-10-23 12:49:35 · answer #7 · answered by paperorplastic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off, you shouldn't have cheated, either you weren't really in love, or you don't respect her enough to not sleep with other people. It suits you right and I think you got everything you desrve, and I hope that your fiancee dumps you. Secondly yes you should tell her because once she tests positive for it thanks to you Prince Charming, it can cause all sorts of health problems for her, on top of causing problems with sexual disfunction, and problems with her reproduction system. Reaping what you sew is painful, but it wasn't her fault, and she shouldn't have to suffer due to your lack of respect and selfishness. Good luck!
2006-10-19 20:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by acekingsuited83 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were truly in love then you would have not slept with someone else. Not only do you have a right you have a obligation to tell her and let her make that decision. You better pray to God up above that she forgive you.
2006-10-20 10:52:35 · answer #9 · answered by Big Chelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her. It will only be worse if she gets it and you weren't honest with her. Sooner or later she will find out. Be brave.To be safe don't have sex with her when it is active (when you have an outbreak).Did you learn your lesson about cheating?
2006-10-19 20:14:35 · answer #10 · answered by kitten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋