My mom had a heart attack. But she will recover.. Were all afraid .She smokes.. She cant quit! How can we help

Answer 1

Oh you poor thing. It's hard when you love someone and can see them destroying their life. Unfortunately there isn't much you can do to try and get her to change her lifestyle. Just explain to her that you want her to live and you are scared that if she continues to smoke that she may not be around for long and that scares you.

Answer 2

Ok, well first off she has to want to quit. If she doesn't want to quit, you can't help her, and if having a heart attack didn't scare her into stopping the single largest avoidable risk factor for heart disease that exists, it's unlikely that anything will.
That having been said, wanting to quit isn't enough. It's VERY difficult to stop smoking, it's been said that it's more difficult than stopping heroin use (it's impossible to really tell if that's true or not or what it really means, but there you go), and the average person quits and relapses 7 times before finally quitting for good.
There are many, many products on the market to help people stop smoking and stay off of it. There are nicotine patches, gums, and inhalers, there are group programs and therapy, there are devices to tell you when you can smoke to gradually reduce the amount, and there are pills that seem to help people reduce cravings.
Bottom line, she has to want it, then, if she can't do it on her own (and most people can't, it's nothing to be ashamed of) then talk to your doctor, he may have a way to help.

Answer 3

Take it from one who knows. I have had 2 heart attacks and yes ( me is bad ) I smoke too. Your Mom knows that she need to quit, but it's not that easy for people to do, it no different than being addicted to certain drugs. Please don't harp on your Mom, that will make it worse. If you can sit her down and have a conversation with her and explain your concerns. Do Not be judgmental and Don't try guilt trips, it wont help. You can suggest ways of helping her quit if she want to hear about them. There are many methods, nicotine gum, lozenges, patches and laser treatment. I have looked into the laser treatment and have spoken with several people who have done this and it worked for them. So if your Mom wants to hear about them you can get her info on those subjects. Just realize if your Mom doesn't want to quit NOTHING is going to help her. She is going to want to quit before anything will work. Good Luck and my best regards to you and your Family. KG
P.S. Here is a web site for the laser treatment
http://www.longwoodpreventive.com/chinese_medicine/services/smoking.html

Answer 4

I'm very sorry that you are going through such a rough time. Unfortunately, unless she wants to quit, there's not too much that you can do for her. You can try to tell her how it has affected you and how scared you were when she had her heart attack and ask her to quit for you if she won't quit for herself. This can be enough for some people. Good luck to you in this trying time.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

She can quit...but only if she wants to. Been there done that. Quit (stopped, rather) for four years after I vapor-locked. A smoker never really quits, they just delay smoking again. I'm on Day 11 after having stopped (again).

But lay it on the line to her: she WILL die if she doesn't stop. I lost my old man like that, back in '81. I was 23 ******* years old, and he wasn't but 53. Just tell her.

Answer 7

recover she will, but the habit has to go. there are ways, medical, spiritual, and therapeutic. try contacting organisations like the alcoholics anonymous