hpv and relationships?

Question

i found out i had hpv 2yrs ago. i got a mild wart strain which doesnt pose cancer risks. the only reaction to my hpv strain is the outbreak of 3 tiny tacs i got once. my dr. seemed to think it was important to tell, but not life threatening.
i just started a relationship and have been having sex. is it too late to bring it up or should i still try? what would you do if someone didnt tell u and u got a skin tac?

Answer 1

Maybe not life threatening, but contagious none the less. since there isn't a test for guys, they would never know they had it unless they showed visible signs of it, or unless a previous sex partner said they got it. It should be your responsibility to be honest with them no matter what the cost. There are guys out there that will accept you as you are. BTW, it's skin TAG not TAC. I was corrected by my doctor when i was calling it skin flag. The other question is if you have had an outbreak since 2 years ago. That would be another piece of information to tell you partner. The risk of transmission reduces with time.

Answer 2

If you have a copy of the test results, that would be proof enough for him to believe it. But you're right, it will be hard to tell him this. And harder still to know what his take on your relationship at hand. Most people with HPV are asymptomatic, meaning they don't develop symptoms and don't know they even have the virus. Genital warts are a symptom of HPV but not all strains of HPV produce warts. Warts may appear on the vulva, in or around the anus, on the cervix or vagina, on the penis, scrotum, thigh or groin and may appear as small isolated bumps or groups of bumps. They may be flat or raised, small or large, and shaped like cauliflower. If warts aren't present, HPV is usually found in women though an abnormal pap smear. Health care providers may also perform a colposcopy---a test where a vinegar solution is placed on the cervix, and a light is shined to locate abnormal cells, which turn white---or an HPV DNA test that detects strains of the virus connected to cervical cancer. Men can only be diagnosed with HPV if warts are visible.

Answer 3

Hi Lisa. It is very important to tell the person your with if you have anything. I think that should have been one of the first things you should have told him before you started sleeping together. Since you have been with him you need to tell him now and he needs to be tested for hpv too because it is contagious, even if you don't show any symptoms. Yes, he may be mad that you did not tell him before, but you should still tell him, even if you are scared. I'm sorry if my reply was mean, it wasn't meant to be at all. I just think it is a very important thing to talk about with someone you are going to have sex with.

Answer 4

I recently was diagnosed with HPV , me n my man have been together for 7 months.. I was scared at first but realized, I love him and need to tell him b/c he probably has it too!! It's embarrassing but it will make ur relationship stronger b/c you can then talk about anything.

Answer 5

even though you are in a relationship you should use protected sex. there is a shot out now for hpv that you should consider getting. it is a five process shot and you should bring it up.

Answer 6

You should tell him, you should have told him from the begining, if you pass him the HPV, he´ll pass it over to some other woman.

Answer 7

You should tell. That's not a very nice thing to do when the answer is so simple.....wear a condom.

Answer 8

If the relationship is serious, let them know. If the relationship is not serious keep it to your-self. Remember it is not life threatening so it is not that serious.