Via email, my inlaws invited us on Friday morning for dinner Saturday night. We accepted by return email. On Saturday morning, we received another email asking if we would kick in $20 for the turkey since it cost $80. A turkey costs $80?!!!
Do you think it's wrong to ask us to kick in for the dinner AFTER we accepted the invitation?
A friend asked why are they even having people for dinner if they can't even pay for it???
Oh, and I did offer to bring something along with the original acceptance just in case you're wondering.
2006-10-14 20:30:11 · 8 answers · asked by katie 4 in Food & Drink ➔ Entertaining
I would not mind pitching in money to help pay for meal if it was asked for it upfront, nt after the fact. As I mentioned, I offered to bring something like I always do. I never go empty handed.
By the way, it wasn't even Thanksgiving.
2006-10-14 20:46:36 · update #1
Just to keep the peace, we did pay the $20. I think the money went to purchase the wine too. I should have had more than 2 glasses! LOL!
Thanks for your answers!
2006-10-16 03:24:01 · update #2
That's the most expensive turkey I ever heard of-unless they're saying they spent $80 for all the food.
Yes, I do think it was rude to invite you, then ask for payment. But they're family and $20 to keep the peace is small. Besides, now you know. Next time you can make a decision whether to accept an invitation or not based on this. Maybe next time when an invitation arrives you could collaborate more. ie; "Since you're making the turkey, I'll bring veggies and the pumpkin pie-we know it's expensive these days to feed a lot of people" Then if/when you're asked for $20 you can point out that you help with dinner.
2006-10-15 02:14:14 · answer #1 · answered by Tavita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's appropriate etiquette to invite you at the last minute, then email you again asking for money Saturday morning. Since it's not Thanksgiving yet, the turkey might cost more -- but it does seem high. Some places may have a package deal where the cooked turkey comes with all the sides for one price.
Since they're family, I would just kick in the $20, this time.
2006-10-14 21:04:12 · answer #2 · answered by MB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-22 03:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would ask them "what's the deal?" I mean why have a dinner party if you can't afford it.
Yes I think it's wrong and tacky for them to ask at the last minute also. What does your husband have to say about this?
2006-10-15 02:14:57 · answer #4 · answered by couchP56 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since chicken went on strike. Avian flu. Lack of chicken, turkey in demand. :)
2006-10-15 06:56:23 · answer #5 · answered by j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta be kidding right if you dont offer to pitch in at all before they even ask shame on you. That is why is called thanks giving is about people coming together and sharing what they have be it pitching in for the turkey to have a meal with friends and neighbours. I cannot believe you would be ignorant about the meaning of thanks giving and on top of that talk about someone who asked you to pitch in for the dinner. I think you need to hit the library and find out what thanks giving stands for. $20 bucks is a small price for someone to put up with your presence if you tell me at least a couple of thousand will justify me even sitting in the same room with you.
2006-10-14 20:39:32 · answer #6 · answered by wiseornotyoudecide 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
inform the folks that we have competitive grocery stores now.... they arent bringing the turkey on a covered wagon
2006-10-14 20:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by ruthie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do they cost $80?
2006-10-14 20:32:27 · answer #8 · answered by LB James 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋