My boyfriend and I are arguing over what is the right thing to do. He thinks that the host should not expect any help, because that is why they are HOSTING the dinner party. I think it is appropriate to help clean-up because it is just one more way to show that you appreciate the meal and company.
2006-10-10 05:37:07 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Food & Drink ➔ Entertaining
Unless the host has the assistance of servants or a professional caterer, it is always polite to offer. If you know the host well, perhaps you can even test the waters a little if it seems that they are declining just to be polite at first, but beyond that you should respect the host's wishes. Many appreciate the help and this can be a fun part of the social interaction, but some hosts truly prefer to handle cleanup in their own routine way, or some may prefer to deal with the cleanup effort in the morning. It's their call.
Tell your boyfriend that with that attitude, he is not likely to be on anyone's "A List" for social events.
2006-10-10 09:11:05 · answer #1 · answered by Fogjazz49-Retired 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should definitely offer and ask if you can help in any way. They will probably decline, but it is still a very nice gesture. I also think it is polite to invite the host over within a few months to something that you host as well.
2006-10-10 05:45:25 · answer #2 · answered by Sharon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think both of you are right...Your hostess may not expect help in cleaning up, BUT, the polite thing to do is to offer. It shows your hostess that not only do you have good manners, but that you did enjoy the meal and appreciate the invitation. Besides, the sooner the clean-up is done, there is more time for socializing.
2006-10-10 05:45:07 · answer #3 · answered by D W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is always appropriate, and I think very polite, to offer to help your host to clean up if you are a guest at their home or party. They may not accept, but will appreciate the thought. However, if you are hosting, you should not EXPECT your guests to help you clean or even offer. It's your party..clean up your mess. If they offer to help, it's up to your discretion to accept or not. At a caual dinner, it is no big deal for everyone to pitch in. If you're hosting something more formal, it may be a bit tacky to accept your guests help.
2006-10-10 05:46:41 · answer #4 · answered by Hope V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While the host should not expect help, the polite thing to do is to offer. If the offer is declined, then don't force it. Many hosts truly appreciate the help, and I don't know of any who wouldn't at least appreciate the offer.
2006-10-10 05:49:39 · answer #5 · answered by Stef 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, definitely a polite gesture and a welcoming one to help clean up. Also you will get invited back again if you show politeness in helping to clean up.
There is nothing worse than invited people who come eat and just get up and leave without even asking if they can help with cleaning up...let alone helping.
I agree with you completely that it is appropriate which shows you appreciate the meal and company. Kudos to you for good manners! You can come to my house anytime minus the BF if he still resists helping!
2006-10-10 06:37:10 · answer #6 · answered by doggoneit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think offering to help clean up is the polite thing to do and shows appreciation for the invite you received.
2006-10-10 05:46:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I have company over for dinner or anything else, I always appreciate when my guests offer to help me clean up. I never take them up on the offer, but I think it's rude not to offer. I think the fact that they invited you over and cooked for you is reason enough to offer to help with the clean up.
2006-10-10 05:41:23 · answer #8 · answered by svg7373 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion i don't think of its suited to ask travellers to assist sparkling, yet i assume if its their domicile then they have their very own rules. And now which you recognize the guidelines, you are able to the two abide by making use of them or not are available in any respect. i don't EVER ask travellers to bathe dishes or %. stuff off the floor. seems a sprint short sighted. perhaps the guy does not even sparkling their very own residence, why ought to they sparkling some one else's whilst they seem to be a focused visitor. in the event that they needed to freshen up after a occasion, they'd throw one at their very own residence. It in all possibility all comes all the way down to their relatives shape and if thats how issues get achieved then you're SOL. young ones are continuously meant to do the dishes besides. Whats the factor of having young ones in the event that they don't artwork around the domicile, those bloodsuckers. i don't understand what that newborn is whining approximately =/
2016-10-19 03:41:44 · answer #9 · answered by haan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it differs according to class. It is rude/unheard of to offer to help if you are 'upper' class and more likely to be a working class thing to help with the dishes. Sometimes i offer to help my host and sometimes i don't, depending on how i am feeling. I guess that is middle class! I am not a snob, but am fascinated in the British class system as have moved here from Oz where we don't have such divides betweeen people.
2006-10-10 05:49:04 · answer #10 · answered by Caroline 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋