What do you think?

Question

I'v met a girl 3 weeks ago and now we're in love and want to have sex but am really scared if she has a std because she told me that she slept with other guys before.
my question is if it's safe to have sex now(with condom) or wait to take a test then have sex.......and what kind of test(s) she must take to know if she's not infected and how long do they take to give results?

Answer 1

Condoms are great at preventing STDs, but they are not 100% effective. Even with using condoms you can STILL get an STD from her if she has one. Certain STDs can be passed by direct skin to skin contact like herpes and HPV. Since the condom only covers the penis it is still possible for you to get either one of these STDs from just the rubbing of the genital areas during sex. And, both of these STDs can be passed when there are no physical signs or symptoms, like sores or warts.

Why don't you two go and both get tested for STDs. You can make a whole day of it - get tested and go out to lunch or something, seriously! It's always better to be safe then sorry!

Answer 2

STD's don't know "love".You shouldn't even be thinking bout sex w/o a condom! Even if she does have a STD test. That only says she was clean the day of the test. She could have been w someone a couple days later. Now u have something u could keep 4 the rest of ur life.
This has happened 2 a couple peps I know.

After u r done "playing",and want 2 settle down. Now u have 2 match diseases. Or give the girl of ur dreams what u got. Makes the "pot" much smaller, huh? Less 2 choose from!Plus do u want ur woman 2 b contaminated when she's having ur child? It's done everyday but is that what U want?
Unless u r TRYING 2 have a child-WEAR a condom. I have heard from other dudes- Always wear a condom...if u never experience sex w/o one...u don't know what u r missing(so 2 speak).
PLEASE...WRAP IT UP,Man!!!

Answer 3

i would not have sex with her without a condom and even then you are still risking hpv and herpes, which condoms do not fully protect from. she should be getting test for chlamydia, gonorrhea and hiv-those are pretty routine. hpv is not always tested for in young women -if she wants to check for high risk hpv she may need to ask for it specifically if she is younger than 30. as far as herpes goes, this test is usually not done unless the person has blisters at the time. if you want to know if she has herpes she can get a blood antibody test for hsv-1 and hsv-2. even if she only has hsv-1 (which most everyone has) you cannot be sure it is only oral, 30% of genital infections are due to hsv-1. good luck

Answer 4

I would suggest that you both go get tested. The way that they would test her is by doing a PAP smear, and taking blood to check for systematic diseases such as HIV and Hepatitis.

I think that it will be a lot easier for you to grow in your relationship if you have the dark cloud of STDs behind you.

... And it is possible to fall in love that fast. My husband and I did, and we've been married for almost five years without any problems.

Answer 5

Get that chick tested before you touch her! No matter how "in love" you are after knowing her for 3 weeks, you aren't in love enough to get a disease that you will have the rest of your life.

Answer 6

noooo dont ever do that u should know the girl for like about 3 or 4 months before doing anything that risky...dats dammm tooo early so take more time and both of you go get checked

Answer 7

AACCK! 3 weeks and you're in love? I don't think so, pal.

Obviously you don't trust her. Use a condom.

Answer 8

You can't fall in love that quickly, trust me. I doubt you'd want to share a bed with someone you've known for less than a month.

Answer 9

well they say condoms are not 100 percent save. so i would have her tested