well i found out my brother had H.I,V from his recent gf who has it and gave birth to my niece who is H.I.V positive,what my parents dont know is that he got H.I.V so does his misses and his daughter.....Only me and my sister know out of the whole family......Im really concerned about my brother and my niece,how much years will he be able to live?without treatment and meds?
I just dont know if i should tell my parents.......cause we so good at keeping secrets.But im just so concerned right now it may become a problem if i dont....
2006-10-05 00:19:29 · 11 answers · asked by Lovemykids 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
Denton Price omg you made me so depressed....I dont know you and your family,but i am sorry to hear about your brother....My bro is 25 and he not even taking his H.I.V seriously......and im concerned about his health and my nieces,not so much my brothers gf......she a living hell!!
2006-10-05 00:43:29 · update #1
sorry to hear that!!!
i agree that ur broother and his family should take medication on time and visit his doctor on regular basis..but u know that aids has no cure..this would let them live in a relatively good life style.
as for telling ur parents..i really wish u dont tel anyone unless ur brother agree..becouse this is a very private thing and the person should choose whom to tell.when he feels ready to tell them he will!
2006-10-05 05:59:15 · answer #1 · answered by selina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very important that your brother take this seriously. If he and his new family don't start treatment, that will only make his illness much harder on him in the upcoming years. With treatment, an HIV + patient can live a seemingly normal life. HIV has a stigma attached to it, that causes a lot of people new to the disease to go into denial. The only thing you can do is be supportive of your brother and his family right now. Encourage him to go to counseling and support groups. After he has accepted his illness, I'm sure he will get the courage to tell your parents. I definately would let him tell them though, i'm sure your parents would appreciate it coming from him. Good luck!
2006-10-05 16:22:14 · answer #2 · answered by candygrr1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without meds theres no way to tell how long they will live. With meds though they could live 20 yrs pretty healthy. If you have HIV and dont take meds then you probably wont be around a year or two. The HIV will develop in full blown AIDS very quickly. They owe it at least to the little girl to give her meds. Your brother isnt taking his HIV serious probably because he is somewhat in denial. I would tell your parents so they have time to say good bye to him. That and if he dies, and they found out you new the whole time they are going to be really mad at you. Try and get him to tell them though. You will be in my prays. Sorry about this
2006-10-05 09:40:10 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are they not getting treatment?!? There are treatments that have been very successful in infants. I find it hard to believe the hospital where the baby was born didn't diagnose it immediately after the birth and institute a treatment plan. Your brother and his girlfriend should go to their local Public Health Department. They can tell them where to get free medication, if they have no money or health insurance.
There are many people who have and do live for years with HIV/AID. Of course, they usually the people who get diagnosed and take their medications as prescribed.
2006-10-05 07:26:04 · answer #4 · answered by IAINTELLEN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would talk to your brother, and confront him with it, not only because of the secret, but also for their own safety. Talk to him, and tell him that he can't be afraid of his parents, that you know it will cause trouble, but it's best if they know, I mean, they will find out anyway.. plus he has to take medication, he can almost live a normal life without AIDS with the proper medication. Your parents also have to know to take the proper precautions themselves, and to be alert to warning signs, even if it's only babysitting. Make your brother think of how your parents will react 10 years from now, when they find out they were in the dark so long, and unnecessarily exposed to the disease.. If I were you I would also get informed with facts. here's a website you can visit, so you can sit down with your brother's family and have a productive convesation.. good luck, and don't give up.. don't tell your parents yourself, unless you think they may be unnecessarily exposed.. as a last resource, give them an ultimatum, if they won't talk.. you will..
2006-10-05 07:29:52 · answer #5 · answered by verito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could live a life time with the right treatments the HIV meds are good, without treatment 5 to 10 years maybe depends on how strong his immune system is. I have had hiv now for 13 years and doing better then when i was tested if you would like some support you are welcome to contact me by email. computersrandd@yahoo.com
2006-10-05 15:22:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keeping secrets and having problems with illnesses is the way HIV is being spreed best. How many know HIV pos. people are there that keep there secret in pure angst of bad reactions. Your family has to face reality. It is too late to blame someone, but it is not to late to raise awareness. Treatment is not necessary a priority at this point and should be discussed with a Doctor or councilor. Sorry to hear this but in the future we will hear more and more stories, if people don't change their thinking.
2006-10-05 10:51:22 · answer #7 · answered by bineusa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your parents really need to know. If nobody tells them and they find out in the end, they will resent everyone who knew and did not tell them about it. Your brother and niece's only chance of surviving (living longer and fuller life) is to get on the meds and treatment. I would confront the brother and tell him that if he does not tell his parents, that you will.
2006-10-05 07:51:06 · answer #8 · answered by RKC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't want to scare you but my family and i are trying to recover from the death of my oldest brother who ultimatly lost his battle with full blown aids.Consolation:he died peacefully with no pain.this f.b aids came from him not getting his meds on time or he just didn't take them in a timely manner. so my message to you is to make sure that they take the proper meds for the string of disease they have. losing that portion of the family is sad due to them being close to by brother and neice. medication us the key component in their survival.....Surely if you don't tell your parents they will find out that you've known for some time and it will be too late....the problem will be thatyour parents will think that they could have done something more if they could have known sooner. get with your brother and approach your parents so he could tell your parents,this ouhgt to soften the blow.....In Loving Memory Of Wayne L.Price
2006-10-05 07:39:34 · answer #9 · answered by Denton P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He will not live long if he doesn't get some meds & stuff. You could do that in confidentiality without your parents finding out.
2006-10-05 07:22:53 · answer #10 · answered by angie1977c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋