I was dating this guy for 2 months (no sex mind you) and then he started acting very strangely. Eventually he told me he had herpes and he was having an outbreak so he wasn't really coming around and he was depressed. I am not sure what to do... I am so disappointed because we had perfect chemistry, matching values, and we had so much fun together. Is there a huge risk of transmission if I decided to continue dating him? I have heard yes and no...
2006-10-04 07:51:20 · 18 answers · asked by MorningStar 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
You are ALWAYS going to be at risk of contracting genital herpes from him if you have any kind of sexual contact with him.
Condoms work great, but they are not 100% effective. And, Valtrex is the ONLY medication proven to help prevent the spread of herpes, but again, this is not 100% effective. There are other medications out there to control outbreaks (I'm on acyclovir), but Valtrex is the only one proven to help prevent the spread of it.
It's always possible if you continue this relationship that you will never get the virus from him, but there is always going to be that chance that you will get it. I was with my ex for almost 4 years and he never got the virus from me! But, my fiance (boyfriend at the time) got genital herpes from me about 2 months after we started sleeping together.
Remember, genital herpes is for LIFE! There is currently no cure. But, out of all the STDs, I would have to say that it is honestly one of the better STDs (if someone had to have one of course). It won't kill you like HIV/AIDS or untreated syphilis. It doesn't cause sterility or infertility like untreated syphilis, gonorrhea, or chlamydia can. It doesn't cause cancer like HPV can. Don't get me wrong, the sores from genital herpes outbreak can be VERY painful, but they heal!
It's up to you if you continue to date him or not. There are a lot of things to think about. But, I think if you love him and can see being with him forever, then I say give it a try. I'm glad my fiance stuck around and decided to be with me; we couldn't be happier!
2006-10-05 01:44:21 · answer #1 · answered by Alli 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 23:07:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-13 08:58:27 · answer #3 · answered by Juliet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, yes there is always a risk.. Since Herpes or any virus has no know cure. But there are lot's of medications out there that can lower the amount of outbreaks he's having dramatically. I guess the only person that can answer that question of whether you want to keep seeing him is you. IS the Herpes enough to stop you from seeing him??
2006-10-04 07:54:55 · answer #4 · answered by KIm Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have had sex with him then you need to have yourself checked.
There are risks when you are sexually active with someone with herpes. The new studies show you can transmit this even when there is not an outbreak.
There are people that have a partner with herpes. Condoms help. Waiting until the outbreaks are over and then having sex with a condom. I mean if you really care for this person you can find ways around it.
It is not a fatal STD but it is a lifelong STD.
2006-10-04 08:17:32 · answer #5 · answered by Keith Perry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend has had genital herpes for about eight months now, and it's been really rough. She's had about 7 outbreaks. Everywhere I read it says it stops flaring up so much after time, but its not getting less frequent for her. She's been on Antiviral meds the whole time, too. She also has type 1 diabetes which she has had her whole life, which really weakens her immune system. Will it ever get better?
But after a friend share this video everything has changed.
Natural Safe Herpes Remedy?
2016-05-14 17:16:08 · answer #6 · answered by Cheryl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know all your going to get on here, is the leave him crap. You need to decide if you really care for this person, and if you do, then you and him Together need to go and see a physician and discuss with him/her all about herpes. How you can contract them, how you can lessen your chances, etc. You should not leave someone just because of that. Thank God he is an honest man and told you now, rather than wait a long period of time, or after the fact that you had sex. Good Luck on Everything!
2006-10-04 08:57:38 · answer #7 · answered by .·:*â?¥Â¨Kittyâ?¥.·:*¨ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date him. Use a condom and get him on valtrex. Herpes is not a big deal. It's a cold sore and nothing else, just like the ones people get on their lips....it just happens to be somewhere else. It won't hurt you even if you do get it.
Anyone who says its a huge risk and says run away is completly uneducated about it.
But ya...you might get it, but if you are honest to eachother and use all the protection you can, youll have a better chance of not getting it. Not a HUGE risk lol, a risk.
Go talk to a doctor together and learn about it, thats the best thing you can do! :)
Remember...its just a coldsore. Hardly something dumping him for. The worst part of having the virus is the talk he just had with you...thats the scary part.
2006-10-04 10:09:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be up to you as far as how important he is to you. You could practice safe sex, and there is also medications that can be taken to keep his Herpes at bay, so that he does not have outbreaks, if he is willing to take medication, so that is an option. There are millions of people all over the country. "According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 1 out of 5 American teenagers and adults is infected with HSV-2." That is 20% of the entire population of the country. So, you would have to decide how important he is to you.
2006-10-04 08:09:06 · answer #9 · answered by lulubella106 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll have herpes for life, but the herpes will go away for several weeks, and then will come back. I urge you to not have sex with him or kissing either!! With his saliva you can get herpes! If you have sex with him, you'll catch sores at least Once a week! You'll get sores, in you'r private areas!!
2006-10-04 08:00:34 · answer #10 · answered by alfonso 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋