Fully knowing that she had an STD, my friend had sex with her now ex-boyfriend, and didn't tell him about the STD. He was tested, and was positive for HPV. He says that she can get jail time for it, and she comes crying to me, as her best friend.
I heard that in Washington state, you cannot get jail time for that unless it is HIV or AIDS. True?
Any advice? I don't want her to go to jail. So any advice for either of us would be great.
2006-10-02 18:20:56 · 15 answers · asked by hybrdthry_lnknprk 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
I know it's a horrible thing for someone to do, But she's my best friend, and she's like a sister to me. If I can do anything to get her to stay out of jail, it's probably do it. She won't be able to handle jail.
2006-10-02 18:30:53 · update #1
no she can not go to jail for passing HPV...... in fact HPV has become a very common malady. It can cause cancer in women, men are usually the ones that spread the virus without having any knowledge of it. I live in Washington state and once again no she can not go to jail........ if it was HIV it would be another story. I also have HPV but with my usual pap/check-ups every year I have had no signs/symptoms in years nor did it affect my life in anyway.Tell your friend not to worry about it, her ex is just being a jerk! She does however need to start using condoms to prevent this kind of stuff!! It could be worse next time!!
2006-10-02 19:27:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
NOT COOL! HPV is a nasty STD and in women, it can lead to cervical cancer. She should also be worried about that. As far as the jail thing, I have never heard of such a law. I know that there have been cases of HIV+ individuals brought up on murder charges for knowingly giving it to someone else, but the media didn't cover the end result, just the hype of the charges.
Now, how does he know for sure that he got it from her? He could of gotten it from someone else, given it to her and she didn't even know it then. Then she has sex with him and finds out he has it and blames it on her. I would like to see him prove that in a court of law. HPV can be asymptomatic for many weeks and some types of HPV don't cause genital warts (yet can cause cellular changes) and so women are unaware that they are infected until a Pap smear comes back abnormal from the lab. There are 72 different strains of HPV. How do you know for sure? Tell your friend that she needs to take care of herself.
And on that whole having sex with someone and knowingly lying that you have an STD - that is not COOL! A person should have enough respect for others to at least tell them that they have a viral, incurable, yet treatable infection. Correct condom use can effectively reduce the risk of spreading HPV, although it cannot prevent it 100%. However, that other person should be given the respect that whoever infected your friend did not have for her. She should have been informed so she could have made an informed decision about having sex with someone who is infected.
2006-10-02 18:35:11 · answer #2 · answered by RiverGirl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he brings her to court over this, his name will, in a permanent public record, be attached to this litigation. The litigation may take a while and be costly. It's cheaper just to handle it by warning others who may be future victems. In the future, if he applies for any jobs or loans, those searching his name for pending litigation will see it.
I read that HPV is very common and most women are exposed to it by adult age (everywhere- even on your feet from walking barefoot), but that only a few women are not immuned to it and show signs of infection. I have heard this is painful. I am sorry it happened to them. My former spouse, then a medical doctor intern, once had to hold the hand of a female patient getting them removed by some freezing laser process. He said she squeezed his hand so hard he thought she broke it. Gives me the willies thinking about it. He told me the whole story in awful detail when he got home and I think my eyes actually watered. As a bizarre twist of fate, he saw that girl sitting at a bar a few weeks later. They exchanged an uncomfortable glance!
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2006-10-02 18:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by ZXcdsfhgfxgbh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a ridiculous lawsuit. It's not like she gave him HIV. HPV is not that bad and many, many women have it. Yes it can cause cancer, but it is rare, and as long as you have a regular pap (you need this anyway), you can catch any cell changes. I am very very surprised that this is even being considered as a lawsuit. Even for HIV and AIDS, it seems it would take a lot to put someone in jail. What your friend did is not that bad and it sounds like this guy doesn't know what HPV is. He also sounds like an ***.
2006-10-03 09:49:42 · answer #4 · answered by Trisha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are some countries where it can happen if it is HIV. I have never heard of it being used in a personal assault case. Besides, he's not going to be hurt by his HPV - just he'll hurt other women if he gives it to them and they get warts or cancer.
I don't know what the local laws are where your friend is, but I think she's probably safe.
Her easiest defence is to claim that she wanted him to wear a condom and that he didn't want to. This will end up in a he-says-she-says sort of argument which will be a bit of a stalemate.
Still, pretty crappy thing for a girl to do.
2006-10-02 18:26:35 · answer #5 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but no prosecutor is going to care about an HPV transmission. The law is only ever applied to HIV.
Sorry about your friend's ex's luck, but generally HPV isn't that bad for guys, and most strains are asymptomatic. Also the majority of adults carry it, believe it or not. You just want to make sure if you're a guy you don't get one of the warts strains (4 out of the 27), or if a girl one of the warts or cancer-causing strains (I think 8 or 9 out of the 27).
Also if you are a girl get vaccinated ASAP: HPV is the most common STD by far.
2006-10-02 18:30:21 · answer #6 · answered by midwestbruin 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I completely accept as true with you. understand is being thrown out the window in relationships right this moment and allowing those texts from ex is the initiating of extra disrespectful acts. Ex fanatics should not be friends as quickly as the guy is in a severe relationship. As you suggested, and you're good no count what, they are nonetheless fascinated, lonely or would be unable to smash the bond. You defined it to the T. i'm attempting to think of a few genetic communication between 2 ex fanatics.....are they going to communicate approximately politics, climate, style....yeah, good.....and that i'm the Queen of Spain......supply that bone to a various dogs
2016-10-15 11:19:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seriously doubt this. HPV is not threatening to your life, and usually doesn't even affect your life in any way. Women who have it have to worry about cervical cancer, but with yearly pap smears this can be caught before it turns cancerous and taken care of. A certain percent of people who get it can get warts, which is admittedly an inconvenience, but not threatening to your life, like I said.
Most people who have it don't even know about it. Literally half off all people age 25 and under ( forgot the beginning age, I think around 16 ) have this disease. It is very, very common. Estimated about 75-80 percent of womem will have HPV by the time they are 80 years old. Men are the primary source for passing HPV on to other people, because they won't have symptoms and therefore won't be tested for it. I have all of this knowledge because I myself have it and have done my research. I have been with 3 people my whole life, so it's not like you have to sleep around to contract it. And for your information, it has not affected my life in any way.
All of this knowledge combined makes me want to say that you can't get in trouble. There is no proof that he even got it from her unless he was a virgin and she was his first. My advice is to read up on HPV, in case anyone asks her questions (in court or otherwise) if it even comes to that. Look at many different sources, because information differs from one place to another. And tell her to get her yearly paps so she avoids cervical cancer it is so easily prevented.
2006-10-02 18:38:40 · answer #8 · answered by Moxie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
im sorry about your friend that does suck but i had to do a yahoo search on exactly what the virus was i wasnt sure but i just seen some realy scary discusting photos and im more scared about the virus now!! and if the girl that answerd ur question is right about 80% of girls having it by time their 80 im gonna try damn hard to be in that 20% that dont have it! well since uve already found out she wont go to jail ur question is answered so all i have to say is use protection and give her the best of luck for me!
2006-10-02 20:02:24 · answer #9 · answered by Emily May 11/10/08 :) 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he planning on calling the cops? Will he present his penis in court as evidence?
Good luck to him trying to find someone to prosecute that one.
Most everyone who has gotten an STD caught it from someone who knew they had it and didn't confess.
If everyone who had an STD told their partner BEFORE sex, STD wouldn't exist.
2006-10-02 18:26:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋