My Husband just told me he has a STD?

Question

All the information that i know you can only get this with body fluid contact and the longest that it can be in the body is 30 days before it will show it self..so he can not tell me he got from a dirty bathroom are has has it in his body for up to 7yrs is this correct,and yes i have the symptoms now..i go to the doctors on monday. So no mader what he trys to tell he did cheet on me correct and get this STD

Answer 1

It's a greater chance he cheated than got it from a toilet or had it all along.

I think a lot of people try to make excuses when they find out they contracted an STD. Some of the excuses used are "I got it from a dirty toilet seat" or "I've had it years and the symptoms are just now showing up".

Chances of getting an STD from a toilet are basically impossible. I've read the only thing you can actually get from a toilet seat is crabs (pubic lice) and even this is REALLY rare.

Also, it's always possible for a person to have the STD for years and years and not know it. But, I've heard stories of people claiming they had an STD for 10, 20, or even more years and have never had any symptoms. I'm sorry but over 6 or 7 years is REALLY pushing it if you ask me.

You never know though, he might not have cheated. When people just all of a sudden contract an STD though, especially if they have been married for years and years, it seems a little fishy to me.

Answer 2

First i want to say how terriable this is for you. What kind of STD? No you can not get it anywhere else but from another person. How long have you been married? If you have been married a short time then it could of been before you were married. The best thing you could do is go to the Doctors and get treated. As for your husband, If he is cheating on you while you were married...only you can answer what you want to do...Everyone can tell you anything but deep down inside you are the one who has to make the decsion. Good LUck

Answer 3

You didn't say what STD it was. If it was anything like HPV and you have symptoms of abnormal cervical cells etc. then it is possible that he had it for years and didn't know it until he had an outbreak. I hear herpes can lay dormant for years as well- but he more than likely would have had an outbreak of this before and known about it.

So if it's HPV get more information on it and it's ability to go unnoticed for years. If it's not that then it's likely there was some infidelity.

Answer 4

Be honest for once in your relationship. Tell him the truth, what kind of person are you, you actually think that blaming it on your husband its going to avoid him finding out that you cheated on him? He doesn't deserve you at all, tell him the truth, if you were brave enough to cheat on him and open your legs to another guy, be brave enough to tell him that you gave him STD's. If you even once care about your husband you'll come clean, if not KARMA IS A *****!

Answer 5

I'm sorry but THIS is bull-hockey! Beat him with a shitty broom if he tries to feed you that line of crap again! You do not get STD's from a dirty bathroom! Not unless there's someone else in there with him doing the funky monkey.

Not trying to be insensitive to your situation, but seriously, he's full of it.

-Chrystaille

Answer 6

Househelp gives kids of 7 & 10 AIDS
By Emeka Eyinnaya
source: http://www.nigeriansinamerica.com/vbulletin/printthread.php?t=336&pp=30

Please refer the 2nd last paragraph at the long page end of the above mentioned 'source'

Ms.Shannon,

Recently I just saw this page where parents are HIV negative and their innocent children aged 7 & 10 are AIDS patients ?

Are they not victims of 'Health & Hygiene' accidents ?

Before you jump into assumptions and conclusions, You need to trust your Husband till you are sure and transparent about everything from both the ends
YES
Your Husband may be the victim of an accident
but differently not as he said, He might had an accident somewhere
Nobody is to be blamed when a innocent infant is born with HIV
Who is answerable if someone become the victim of careless handling of the used syringes, blades etc of HIV patients.
STD
Syphilis is caused by Treponema pallidium, a spiral shaped bacterium called a spirochete. Syphilis is spread from person to person. A person gets sore on the body of an infected person. Sores occur at the site of infection, mainly on the external genitals, Sores can also be on the lips and in the mouth.
Try Best Allopathy treatment for regular STD

Refer below for many other accidental results yearly:
Refer source: http://www.unani.com/comparison.htm
1 Lac of patients die due to some fault of improper medications / side effects ?

Your Husband may or may not be the victim it is time for action to find RELIEF & CURE for the problem. You are expected to be very sensible at this point of time. This is not the time to blame, argue or debate on the topic Explore everyother option of CURE before the infection becomes more serious

If it is Syphilis you may not worry upto some extent, If it is HIV?
U need to act under medical advise and try more than ONE specialities to SAVE yourself and your dear Husband too, who had been good to you in all good ways for all the in the past moments sharing almost everything together, You should not betray him He needs you more than anyone else in the whole world
NOTE:
U may pls extend your Q on this page enabling more meaningful comments from Y
Good Luck

Answer 7

I would definitely advise you to wait and see what the doctor says. he'll be able to tell you if your husband can have gotten it from a bathroom.

It's really unlikely, though. However, what you're saying is not really clear. So, just wait until you see the doctor until he tells you everything you need to know. Ask as many questions as you need: it's his job to answer you.

Answer 8

Something doesn't sound right with what he is saying. Talk to your doctor about all of this.
Seek to get counselling iwth your husband to see why he did this and to deal with the feelings that you must have from being cheated on.

Answer 9

unfortunatley, the only way to get any STD is through sexual contact. no such thing as a dirty bathroom.....sorry. but ya know, some stds cause no trouble for years and years, like me , i had chlamydia, couldnt tell you how long, my guess, three years or more, and never knew i had it. unti i got my pap test and it showed up

Answer 10

ha ha Toilet seat ha ha He is screwing around and has infected you. Get cleared up and make a decison suck it up and shut up or go it is that simple. If you can live with im playing around then stay