I AM tired of LIFE & I want to shutdown my LIFE?

Question

I m 20 yr old guy.I m having all sorts of problems in my life.Below are some of mine problems.And there are list of other problms for me which i cant tell here.

1) Communication Problm - This is my main problm .I am having problem with my speech and also little bit of hearing problm.I Don't know hw to talk with people.I am speechless all the time.I have to repeat the words 4 -5 times to make people understand.

2)Mind prblm .My mind is like against me.It does not make me think what to talk and even if it makes it does not make sense to anyone.

3)Lonely fellow.No friends at all in my life.Bcoz i never talk with people.I remain speechless all the time when around people.If i try to speak the words won't come out properly and whatever i say does not make any sense to anyone around me.They just ignore what i say.

IS THERE ANYONE WHO CAN CHANGE MY LIFE ???
Otherwise I m shuting it down forever.........

Answer 1

This is about the ninth question in which you have mentioned killing yourself…
I guess you must be drowning in sympathy by now.
Too bad you aren’t going to get any from me !!!
My sympathy is for those of the living… Not cop outs who are looking for any reason they can find to end it all !!!

You obviously don’t bother to take any notice of the advice that people (including myself) have tried to give you, so how about you stop wasting everybody’s time !!!
Your life is your responsibility !!!

Answer 2

God has destined you to be born on this mother earth. So you will have to live till such God decides otherwise.

You are a 20 year old person. Nearly 70% of the youth are speechless and most of the time talk without any sense. So nothing new about you.

Unless you make an attempt, you cannot make friends. Take the hand that comes towads you and start making friends.

Now go to a park nearby to your place. Take your shoes off and walk on the grass barefoot for five minutes, preferably in the morning when the dew sets on the grass. Now sit on the grass facing east with the folded legs in whichever fashion you like.
Now close your eyes slightly and look at the end part of your nose. With the thumb of your right hand close lightly the right side of your nose. Take a deep breath with the left side of the nose. Hold it for a few seconds in the beginning and let out through the right side of the nose. Now do it the other way. Do this for five minutes. The air you breathed in would go upto your brain and freshen it up. You can increase the duration later on. This is "Pranayama" or breathing exercise.

Now start thinking in a positive manner. Take a religious book or for that matter any book. Read one page. Think about what is written there in a positive manner.

If you see elderly people sitting in the park or the walkways, try to say hello to them and enter into a small talk. You will find them encouraging and appreciate your efforts. This will boost in you a happy feeling.

Keep smiling and motivate yourself. All the best to you.

Answer 3

Count how many times you have used the words I and me. You are focusing too much on yourself and in a very negative way - give yourself a break! Why do you expect others to change your life and more importantly, why should they? It's YOUR life so you should be the one to change it. The first thing you should do is to learn some relaxation techniques, there are plenty of books to help you do this, go to a yoga class, join a self help group - at least it would get you out and about where you will meet people, people who are also trying to relax with no pressure to make small talk. If you are not a talker, then learn to be a good listener. Take in interest in the person you are trying to talk to, ask what their interests or hobbies are and then let them talk, but at least listen and try to look interested and that way you will not be focusing on your own self inflicted negativity. Someone else has posted that you have asked this question before - are you an attention seeker? If you want attention then do something positive for someone else. Try volunteer work, do something useful for your community, there are loads of voluntary organisations always looking for people to help out. To say you will shut down forever is a cop out or maybe you just enjoy wallowing in self pity - if this is not so, then stop focusing on yourself and do something about it!

Answer 4

You really need to seek professional help. If you are considering "shutting down your life" that is either a cry for help or looking for attention. Either way both of those situations need attention. If people can not understand what you are saying and words do not come out properly you may have a learning disability or an anxiety problem which prevents you from speaking clearly. If your mind is not keeping up or running to fast and you can not keep up that sounds like ADD. Being alone is no way to live. If you belong to a church you should get involved with the singles group or any other such group they have and talk to your pastor, he may be able to give you some guidance.

It is totally up to you. You can take this advice and use it, learn from it, or you can ignore it and keep feeling this way. Personally if I were you I would look for professional help.

Answer 5

First of all: YOU are the only person who can change your life -- and that is by HARD WORK -- which ... given the question and the additional information -- you are NOW choosing to NOT put forth that effort at this time.

NOW you need to make a change to YOUR SELF -- and that change means you will go back to school, LEARN The skills you need, and make an EFFORT to reach out to others and talk to them and work on your skills, and work hard on them.

At 20 years old, you are BARELY into your Adult Years -- you think you have problems now -- but what you list is just growing pains -- you have started your adult life, left or are leaving the only home you have known (parental home), and yes, it is hard to start out on your own -- YOU just have to make the effort.

So go to your local community college and register -- take the placement tests, the tests to see what your basic skill levels are, and take the courses that will help you improve your communication abilities.

It is only through the PERSONAL CHOICE to practice and work on the skills that you will find it getting easier and easier to communicate.

This is relatively simple to solve. Wait until you have children!

Answer 6

You could join a group like Toastmasters, where you learn how to speak in public. I would also suggest therapy and perhaps some meds. Perhaps you may need a hearing device. Your problems are self contained and YOU are the one who needs to work on them to fix them. Ending your life is not the answer. You are 20 and have your whole life. You need a place where you can gain confidence. It CAN happen for you. Good Luck!

Answer 7

there comes a time when we don't find answers,this is the time to change.
forget doctors,forget medicines,foget speech therapies there is something you need to know before you die.
ALLAH almighty says to be patient,be thankful, be satisfied.this is the secret of life dear.stop thinking about your worrires thank GOD(ALLAH ALMIGHTY) what he has given to you. you have a home ,have a family,have lots of things to eat, and above all you have ALLAH ALmighty's help if you seek it.thank ALLAH ALmighty for giving you a home because there are some with no home and nothing te eat and no one to share there feelings.

I think i can really help.these modern day problems have troubled human beings .
ALLAH SAYS in the QUR'AN :
"if you want to know the truth the truth shall reach you".
ALLAH also says in the QUR'AN:
"indeed human being is in loss but those who encourage truth and patience among themselves(are not in loss)".

please READ the english translation of the HOLY QUR'AN
and feel free to contact me at [e-mail]

Answer 8

Get on a good vitamin, and start eating a healthy diet. A B100 complex will be helpful. Milk Thistle will help protect your liver and deroxify your system. You appear to suffer from extreme malnutrition which is not uncommon in persons who drink booze instead of eating. You need to get on the wagon now before the demon rum destroys your life entirely. Glutamine 4-8 grams a day will help heal your gut and reduce your craving. For your sake, please seek professional help. Crying out for help to strangers on the internet is a cop out and not really the help you need. Good luck and God bless!

Answer 9

Floyd our life is certainly a challenge. It does seem you have some prolems, but YOU can solve thoose problems...yes YOU, with your intelligence and power YOU can fix your communication problem, mental outlook, and lonliness. You are the conductor of your orchester, you are the captain of your own ship, and YOU will find solutions to quickly end your problems and find happiness in YOUR life.

You have a computer or access to one, or else you couldn't write this question! So, for your communication problem you will need a computer, and a small mirror...got it, ok. Now find something interesting, something you like to read...a sentence, a paragraph, a story. Re-type it on PowerPoint, make it a slide presentation, and put the mirror on your computer desk. With the PowerPoint slide, and looking into the mirror, read very slowly every word that you choose to read....yes every word. Now what words are a prolem to pronounce....write them down. Ok, now Floyd with a little immagination, you are now the President of your own company, read out loud the story on your PowerPoint slide...keep it up, you will do it, you can do it....YOU will do it!

Mind Problem is a reasoning skill. Again on PowerPoint write out a question in your own thoughts. Take a break....then go back and read it...pretend you are the person being asked the question...does it make sense! If not, re-write your question until it makes sense to you...YOU have to sell your question, your statements, and your thoughts......YOU can do it, and YOU will do it!

Loliness. Solitute....hummm has some advantages, but we all have to have some friends either socially or otherwise. So, be yourself, be a individual. You can't chase or make people your friends, but you can be nice, friendly and most important show self-confidence!

Sometimes (secretly) we have to choose someone that inspires us, or someone that we would like to be like...no were not going to copying them, but were going to find out what makes them inspire us...and then were going to borrow their tricks, and use them for ourselves!

Floyd, you have have allot of muscles like me, manage a famous fitness center in Las Vegas, and teach Krav Maga, but our mind is really our strength....learn to trust it, learn to use it....YOU can do whatever you want to do...you may have to use a different technique, walk down a different street, but YOU can do it!

Meditation
Exercise
Good Diet
Good Personal Hygiene
Quit Trying to be Popular
Be Yourself

And Floyd....take control of your life.....it is YOURS!

Answer 10

First off...I have the remedy for your communication problem. Alcohol....sure it can become physically addictive, but so what...give it a try. If it doesn't work for you, send me an email or something. Alcohol will have you talking, expressing yourself, and being confident. That, or not caring about what your life is...

About the "wanting to shut down your life," i feel ya...but to be honest, your life aint' like some computer...it'll probably hurt like hell to shut it off. Life is just too long, plain and simple...escape in an MMORPG like final fantasy 11 or something...Just being real, life does eventually suck....