What Do I Do??

Question

Me and my girlfriend had a massive argument and i got extremly drunk because of this and ended up going down the pub. I was informed in the mornig that i kissed one of my friends and now im affraid my girlfriend is going to find out. I dont even like this girl i kissed, i would never cheat on my girlfriend it was just i was extremly drunk. This other girl has tried to get wth me before and i have said no everytime as have a girlfriend, i just feel she has taken advantage of me when i was drunk as she was sober. I just dont know what to do as i love my girlfriend loads and she could ruin my relationship badly. I cant get it out of my head

Do i tell my girlfriend or not?

Answer 1

do not tell her deny all knowledge, if it comes out, it is not true and she is crazy!

Answer 2

things like this happen. the only way to do is to do the right thing and be honest with your girlfriend.

first of all, sit with your gf privately to make up for the other night where you had the massive argument. even if you're not the wrong one, confess the things you said or did that hurt her and say you're sorry. what this does is that this makes you a better person and earns her respect.

to prevent another argument from spurring up, set the ground rules: LISTEN. when you're talking she mustn't interrput you because you're trying to get to a point, and if she interrupts you everytime she hears something she doesn't like, it ruins your concentration, she won't get the message you're trying to tell her, and the resentmet will only build up. practice a line you feel comfortable with like "look, it only takes a few minutes for me to finish... can't you just bear with me until i get to my point? you will have your turn to talk after this and i'll listen to you." then deliver what you promised and do the same for her.

then confess honestly what happened the other night at the pub. again, ask her to listen uninterruptedly. of course, you didn't mean it, and had you not gotten drunk it wouldn't have happened. your girlfriend would appreciate it if you confess that you did wrong by getting drunk that night, that you're sorry, and that if you had a chance to do it over you would've prevented it from happening. then sit back and let it be whatever her reaction would be.

most girls would either cry, be completely silent, or blow up on you. don't be intimidated because these are natural reactions. if she cries, an apology should do it. some girls would appreciate a hug, others will refuse... just do whatever she prefers. if she's silent, allow some time for complete silence so that you both can get your thoughts straightened out. if it's too much to handle in one sitting, don't pressure your gf to say anything, just take time out and try again the next day. if she blows up on you don't get defensive or fight back, just be silent and hear her out.

in any case, most girls appreciate it if you show some tears, so don't be afraid if it comes.

if you follow these guidelines, you have a good chance of saving this relationship and clearing up with her. IF YOUR RELATIONSHIP PASSES THIS TEST, IT'LL COME OUT STRONGER and you both would be even more in love with each other.

but as everything in life, nothing is foolproof. if your gf decides to leave you because of this, just know that she doesn't deserve you in the first place anyway.

all the best!

Answer 3

you have to be honest with your girl friend honesty is the best policy but dont blame the drink and say it was all the drinks fault because that will not go down well at all (as a women speaking here) blaming the drink is just a cop out of what you did. If you are honest with your girlfriend about the kiss she will have more respect for then then hearing through the grapevine and someone else. Being the last to know hurts more then what happened.

Answer 4

If you dont know for sure if you kissed this girl or not then the best thing is to tell your girl friend you got drunk and went to the pub. Thats it..Unless you know without a shadow that you did then there is no reason to bring it up. What you need to be focused on is the fight you had with your gf and try to make up.. What you may or may not have done if not an issue. It could just be someone trying to mess with you due to you were drunk.

Answer 5

Ita a funny one really cos if you genuinley mean what you say and you didnt intend on kissing this girl and it didnt mean anything then telling your girlfriend is prob not a good idea as she doesnt really need to know! if you tell her, even though it was a drunken kiss that neant nothing, to your girlfrien she will class it as cheating and some if not all trust she has for you will be rocked!
My boyfriend told me he kissed a girl the other night on a noight out but his excuse was that he was drunk. I didnt see it like this as if we all got drunk ans started kissing people when were supposed to be in a relationship then theres really no point in been in the relationship in the frst place!
its upto you if you tell her or not, but if your worried that this other girl wil tell then im sure your girlfriend would rather find out from you than her!
Good luck and dont stress about it too much!

Answer 6

Being a woman I say tell her, however I also feel really sorry for you. If it was the other way around and another bloke had kissed ur gf when she was drunk a woman can get away with playing the victim men unfortunately can't. Better to own up.

Answer 7

This may not be what you want to hear, but you must tell your girlfriend as soon as possible. Before anyone else tells her first. Be a man and don't blame the other girl for everything. If you weren't drunk, it wouldn't have happened. I hated it in the past when my bfs told me it was the other girls' fault for him cheating. I lost a lot of respect for them. If they would've own up to some of the responsibility, things could've been saved. I hated to hear the "poor me, I'm the victim" act. So own up to what you did and you may stand a chance of saving your relationship. Just get to her first, before anyone else does.

Answer 8

first off you and your gf had a fight. second you were drunk, third you dont remember, fourth this girl you kissed has been after you for quite some time.

is there any proof that you kissed this girl? if you tell your gf all trust will be lost. and by the way being drunk is not an excuss for kissing another women..

how can you say she took advantage of you. you are making excusses for what you have done...

you cant stop thinking about it. because you enjoyed it and you want her.....

Answer 9

Definitely tell her- risk everything, even losing her, to be honest with her. It will be so much worse when she finds out later (and she will) especially if this other girl, who you say has wanted to get with you before, tells your girlfriend in the hope you will be dumped and become available.

I would always want my boyfriend to be honest- I would hope we had that level of a relationship, that if we knew the apology was genuine, we would be OK and move on together.

Answer 10

If caught admit it ( but it was only a pek on the check )

Or say Honey when I was down the pub the weirdest thing happened some girl tried to snog you.

That way if she got told she will think that she alreadys knows about it and you will be fine.

Answer 11

Tell har mate. If she finds out from her or someone else it will be 100 time worse and she'll never trust you again. Explain what happened and the reason your'e telling her. At least it was only a kiss.