honestly, i cant explain the reason why im so timid.do u know at 29yrs, i still cannot express my feelings to a girl. i use to see many beautiful ladies out there, but i cannot approach them. when they are gone off my sight i feel like slapping myself for not having the courage to just talk.plsss advice me urgently cos iam
2006-09-28
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never mind I like!
2006-09-28 23:06:57 · answer #1 · answered by jagshemesh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Address the Origin
Understanding why someone is shy makes it easier to treat and heal, both clinically and spiritually. Although some psychologists feel shyness has genetic and environmental causes, many singles can trace their bashfulness to one or more embarrassing incidents that utterly ruined their self worth.
Think about your own past. Were you a shy boy? A shy girl? A shy teen? Was there anything that happened in your childhood that made you withdraw? Talking about these experiences with a qualified Christian counselor and/or understanding pastor can foster healing.
Imitate How Others Do It
Take note of how other singles communicate with the opposite sex. How do they introduce themselves? What topics do they discuss? What kind of body language is going on? Knowing how to have good conversation starter skills can help a love-shy person break the ice.
Enjoy Mixed Company
A low pressure way for a shy person to meet other single men and women is by joining clubs where people have a shared common interest, such as sporting activities, reading clubs, christian singles groups, etc. In this type of environment, dating relationships can occur naturally.
Remember It’s Not About You
Understand that shyness is, ultimately, a whacky form of self-centeredness. Instead of keeping your eyes on yourself, worrying what other people are thinking, practice taking a proactive interest in them: Seek out what they think, how they feel, how you can make them feel comfortable and relaxed.
It may be difficult for a shy person at first, so if you need to, pray for boldness in this area. If you do this, you will see your social skills improving, and find it much easier to converse with and meet others.
When we take our eyes off of ourselves, we can do amazing things with God’s help. Remember, Peter walked on water as long as his eyes were not on his own fears.
2006-09-29 06:29:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
aww, thats so cute ... but sad too. u shouldnt be so shy. girls like when guys try to chat them up, especially if they're doin it in a nice & respectful way. the only way yu'll meet the ladies is if you speak up. u gotta talk to them cuz if u dont ur bein unfair to yourself (and maybe them cuz there could be a connection there). maybe shes lookin for someone too and is thinkin in here mind "wow, Blank sure is cute ... i wish he'd say something to me" :)
2006-09-29 06:15:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
imporve your self.See there are two things if the girl knows you and u tell her to be your frd then if she refuses its ok and if she dont know you and you ask then also ok.Secondly if you want to improve there is a good way just go around the street with an umknown address and ask the same from atleast 20 girls then ur fear will go out.enjoy........................
2006-09-29 06:14:05 · answer #4 · answered by truelover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to do some personal development classes
2006-09-29 06:08:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
enroll in a dancing class and to theater class and your shyness disappear
2006-09-29 06:18:27 · answer #6 · answered by dancingwiththestars 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am too shy to tell you
2006-09-29 06:09:46 · answer #7 · answered by Pauline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋