OKAY! My grandmother has alzheimers. pretty bad. or good, whatever. Shes on all the new meds and alotta others too for depression, agitation, blah blah. Everyday she wakes up, wont get out of her nightgown for anything.. then at like 1pm finally dressed, wants to go out and do this or that.....
But when I (her grandaughter, and live in caregiver) try to address the issue of getting involved in a social activity or joining a club or something... she doesnt want to do any social function. whatever i say, she says no, argues and fights. so everyday its the same thing. and I cant take her to the grocery store or anything because she just touches everything and gets very loud and fighting if I say ANYTHING to her about not touching so much or just focusing on the errand.
SHES gone nuts. shes making me nuts.
please save my insanity before i turn into peanuts.
what can i do to get her outta the house???
2006-09-28 23:00:37 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
If you are finding that you can't cope with her you have nothing to be ashamed of. Alzheimer's patients can become very difficult, and will only get worse as the disease progresses.
Do you think you would be able to get a part-time nurse or volunteer who could at least spend the afternoons with her, just so you could get a break? There are many voluntary assocations who do this "granny-sitting" for free or at a small cost.
However there might come a time when you will have to consider an old people's home specialized in dealing with cases like hers. Private homes are luxurious and pretty but make sure that they are equipped in dealing with patients with medical conditions like hers. I don't know where you live, but in my country public homes are not bad but they have long waiting-lists in which case i would advise you to put her on the list immediately.
You could also trying finding a support group for people taking care of alzhiemer's patients. I am sure that listening to other people dealing with similar problems could help you. It will also give you a break out of the house!
Best of luck, and i admire you for taking care of your grandmother at such a difficult time. Take care
2006-09-28 23:09:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you not understand what Alzheimer's is? She IS nuts, to put it lightly. She will never get better, only worse. A lot of the fighting is to cover fear. Having AD is a very fearful condition. At home she is safe, she knows where most things are and what they are. In public, she doesn't. She won't admit to her fear so she argues.
Think about WHY you want to make her leave her house and go into a situation where she will be scared. Is it for YOUR benefit? She can't learn anything new. She won't make new friends. There is no reason to make her go anywhere, especially if it's so upsetting to her. The more upset and scared she gets, the worse her behavior will be.
Perhaps you need to take a caregiver course through your local Alzheimer's Association chapter. They are free.
2006-09-30 01:42:09 · answer #2 · answered by Gevera Bert 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-06 08:57:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is not comforatable leaving just let it be. I would think there are time where we all don't want to do things. I would ask her what she* wants. Just focus on what gets her mad and don't do it. There is no real way of dealing with it but accepting the situation and become numb to her antics of her anger is unprovked. My mom does this for a living and never understood how she oes it. My mom is the most honest person I know and still people will call and fire her from taking care of them or say something is missing. She deals with it in stride. I know I couldn't do that. I would get mad when people yell at me and say things untrue or if they are just old and don't know wtf is going on and blame me. Yet my mom presses on regardless since se understands the situation of these people.
Best of luck.
I would be on xanax
2006-09-28 23:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by Labatt113 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW-your Grandma, that is sad. However, you need to chill out. Alzheimer's is horrible. They know not what they do. You need to get some help from professionals who deal with this on a daily basis and do what is right for your Grandmother, not you. This is hard to hear and accept but it is true. She didn't ask for this!
2006-09-28 23:05:49 · answer #5 · answered by kirby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first relax go to alzhiemers.com and get info
The disease brings out quirks in its victims like crazy My father-pin-law has it so does his sister
You have to be very patient with a person who has alzhiemmers as its a second childhood and they are very frightened by the lack of memory after a certain stage drugs do not have very much effect so relaxc and take it in stride and let the doctor handle the major things and go with the flow
2006-09-28 23:09:25 · answer #6 · answered by Elaine F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her a friend her age, yet active and try getting her off meds under medical supervision of course, but NO meds and more activity is KEY...
2006-09-28 23:05:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋