2006-09-28 23:00:36 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Being a mother myself...I have noticed other Mothers are always worried about how they appear to the outside world..and mainly to other mothers...I am nice to my daughter, I adore her..!! (we have been asked if we are sisters on more than one occasion!) & \we have a constant stream of her friends at our house. I have noticed it too..I have also noticed mothers that appear nice to their kids at the school gate etc..when we see them unawares they are smacking their kids yelling at them for no reason!!
2006-09-28 23:04:39 · answer #1 · answered by recklessme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's like this. She's not raising "other kids", she's raising you. So she has the luxury of not having a parent's responsibilities towards the other kids. They are not her responsibility.
Hon, if your Mom isn't nice to you then you need to take a look at what she is reacting to. Are you making responsible decisions, doing your homework and chores and treating your family and yourself with respect? I find most people find it easier to treat someone with respect if they think that person is doing right things. Try to keep up with your responsibilities and see if she doesn't come around. Oh, and you are growing up which is kind of scary to parents. Remind her you love her and give her hugs and kisses on a regular basis. Keep it up and aim for the person you are becoming. She'll calm down when she sees that you can make right decisions for her child, even if that child is you.
2006-09-29 06:58:12 · answer #2 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree and I disagree. I am more strict on my daughter, but only because she acts up when other children are around. My daughters friends are very well mannered and very polite. My daughter could learn a thing or two from her friends. But when at her friends house my daughter is this well mannered polite child.
I do not want my daughters friends going home and saying that so and so mom does not do anything when so and so gets into trouble.
I do not like it when my daughter makes a sceene in front of her friends. My daughter always tells me mom why are you so mean to me and picking on me when you never say nothing to so and so my friend.
Even though a child feels there mother is being harsh on them, in all reality she is not. It is tough for a child to see themselved getting in trouble when their friend is not.
2006-09-29 06:09:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom was nice to me and to other kids. My grandmotrher was niece to my mom and her grandchildren and to other kids too. I am very nice to the children in the neighborhood. They little ones are always calling me and want to visit. But I am nicest to my own son. But of course I have to discipline him when necessary. That is my job as a mother, to guide him and keep him safe. I dont discipline other children. Its not my job. I do tell them to stop if they are doing something to hurting my son or themselves. Maybe you are confusing discipline with not being niece. Or the mother you are talking about is not a good mother!
2006-09-29 06:09:25 · answer #4 · answered by TrueSoul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a mom, and I will be 100% honest with you.
I love my kids to death. I may be strict, I may be easily upset by their disobediance, and at times, I may seem mean, but, God help me, if someone so much as mocked or laid but a single finger on them, they'd soon find themselves out of my sight, out of my home, or lying face first in a puddle of their own blood (metaphorically, or literally).
Now, everyone else's kids... I can't stand them. I don't care who you are, your kids are *your* problem, not mine. But for the sake that you probably feel the same way about your kids as I do mine, I will give your kids the respect I think that you would give them (lest I find *myself* lying face first in a puddle of my own blood).
2006-09-29 06:35:35 · answer #5 · answered by seraphim_pwns_u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's just for public show..I'd imagine. They want to impress others what a "good mom" they are.
However, I wouldn't do that, and like the other answerers I am much nicer to my own kids than others.
2006-09-29 06:05:00 · answer #6 · answered by hamtaro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm nice to my own kids as well as other kids. So was my mom.
2006-09-29 06:03:21 · answer #7 · answered by zil28ennov 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could reverse the question and ask why kids are always nice to their friends' moms but not their own - and I suspect both questions can be answered in much the same way.
When you live with someone (as mums and daughters), you have ample opportunity to get on each other's nerves - you're cheeky to your mum, you mum is tired and frustrated so shouts back. You get cross with mum for asking you to tidy your room (something she never has to ask your friends to do) and mum gets cross with you for back talking (something you'd never do to your friends' mums).
It is a case of familiarity - I bet you speak to your mother very differently from how you speak to your mates' mums.
For what its worth, it gets better - in 10 years' time, you'll be astonished at how much your mother has changed. ;)
2006-09-29 06:05:03 · answer #8 · answered by mattygroves 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is just courtesy and 'who-the-hell-cares-about-some-kid'!!!
Moms want to bring their children they want to and therefore keep scolding and moulding and controlling their own kids.
Usually this means 'not being' nice!
They do not want to do so with other kids and so leave them alone (and usually appear more friendly and courteous to other kids).
2006-09-29 06:05:55 · answer #9 · answered by Cyrene J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess if you are stuck with your own kids all day, you have to deal with them being naughty, them winding you up, not doing as they are told etc, so the pressure builds up.
When you are in contact with other kids then you often dont have them/see them for a long time, so you dont get that pressure building up. And you dont see them being naughty or have to discipline them
2006-09-29 06:04:16 · answer #10 · answered by OriginalBubble 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋