initial stage - people love initially on the basis of the beauty, talent,fame, money
intermediate stage - faith , truthness
final stage -
two situations arises first if the weight of intermediate stage is heigher than initial stage then that person will hang on in the name of love.
secondaly if weight of initial stage is heigher than intermediate stge then they will fail in love . because if any one of them gets an oppartunity with any third person who has high weight of initial stage things then he / she will move with the third person.in that case if suppose he/she takes the risk of faith/truthness but with the positively high weight of initial things and if he/she goes with the third person . what is wrong in it.after all in love both should be happy it is the responsibility and duty of both that they should do the things in which other should get happiness.
from above faith/truthness is only love.i think it is needed only for security and not love.
then what is love
2006-09-28 22:56:31 · 18 answers · asked by KrishanRam(Jitendra k) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You initial premise is accurate for some people, but failed to include a few important things : personality, religion, initial friendship, among others. (I didn't fall in love with the man who would become my husband because of beauty [because when we met, I had no clue what he looked like... and when I did meet him IRL for the first time, I found out he uncannily looked like Napoleon Bonaparte], I was already in love with him before I knew of his talents, it certainly wasn't money [when we were dating, I came from a well-to-do family, whereas he was a shoe salesman], and we both had our fair share of fame within the local BBSes... I fell in love with him because of his kindness, his personality, and our initial friendship).
Your secondary premise is also somewhat accurate, but fails to take note of another key point : willingness to endure hardship, and acceptance of differences. Any relationship that is not willing to bend, will wind up breaking.
Your third premise is also flawed, since it fails to consider all the couples who have hung on for reasons such as security (ie too old to start a new relationship, too insecure to break up, hope that the other person will change), inability to do so otherwise (such as in the case of abuse, where the woman will still love her man despite the fact he beats her), and children (a mistake some couples make is the strange belief that having children together will allow them to grow closer).
There are a multitude of reasons behind relationships and love.
Something you also failed to note in your explanation is that sometimes there are points where lack of truth and/or faith outweigh love. Yet, there is something that negates this : forgiveness. The ability to forgive is what love is all about. That I can forgive him for forgetting to put the toilet seat down, and he can forgive me for forgetting to wipe the sandwich crumbs off the kitchen counter.
No matter how big, or how small the offense is, it can be forgiven... *that* is love. Everything else is little more than an extended version of lust or puppy love.
2006-09-28 23:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by seraphim_pwns_u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money should not be on your list but all to often it is because many people put it there. Money is important to the hooker on the street but should NEVER be connected with love. Looks are the first drawing even for the blind who see other than shape of nose and curl of hair. The sound of voice is one of the things that is part of looks. Moving to a third person depends on the individual that would be making the move and has little to do with the looks of the third person. Honesty is very high and if a person is honest NO third person could damage a good relationship let alone make one of the couple move. Love is an emotion that does not connect with logic it is possible to have a very long relationship without love but such a relationship is not easy for either person unless they are friends. By the way you love a person In Spit of Thier Faults not because of them.
2006-09-28 23:27:04 · answer #2 · answered by paul A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a combination of your both the stages. Initially one will attract on the basis of external features only, but lateron faith and truthfullness only plays the important roles to remain in love forever.
2006-09-28 23:02:54 · answer #3 · answered by bigboss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you want to pinpoint what precisely your unhappy with. you could communicate about it with him till the solar is going down yet you won't be able to style it out till you be certain your self what precisely is making you so unhappy. you've a newborn at the same time so there's a extra physically powerful reason to fix issues out between you both for your son's earnings. Are you unhappy in a job? Is existence in simple terms boring? possibly he would not do the little issues he did for you once earlier, or, the stress of your son each and every so often get you down? All this may result the way you sense. You look particular you adore him very a lot, so that's a relationship to wrestle for. you want to sit down down and probably make a listing of what makes you chuffed and what makes you unhappy, then you quite can paintings on the positives and rid of/replace the negatives. in case you want it to paintings, and he does, then you quite could definetly paintings at the same time in this. or maybe, you in simple terms favor time to your self to get your head cleared and imagine immediately. that's regularly a good challenge to do, cases a good healer.
2016-12-06 08:57:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is blind and selfless....there is no place for beauty, fame, fortune, or any other such nonsense in love.
If you feel a person should 'move-on' to someone else with more beauty or fame or fortune all you would do is keep moving!
It is just like a Gorilla moving in to the Gorilla with the bigger banana!
Surely, we are more capable of reasoning and have far more emotions besides greed and selfishness!
2006-09-28 23:16:35 · answer #5 · answered by Cyrene J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey..ur quest is realy tuf....wht i think abt love is tht luve is everywhr...it mite b in intial stage or elz it mite *** during intermediate stage....
U know luv cannot b defined.....u know y?
Bfore tht lemme ask u sum quest? OK?
Can u touch ne emotion>? Can u c a feeling? NO! U cant
Just similar to tht luv cannot b defined as it can neither b seen nor b touched!
Its a true emotion tht cums from ur heart...it mite the luv between a bf or gf.....or elz it can luve between a bro or a sis. Or elz luv bet frendz.....luv towards family.....So thr r so many luves.....LOVE IS EVERyWHERE!
2006-09-29 20:14:34 · answer #6 · answered by Neha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is love and not a scientific equation we are talking about. So leave the ifs and buts and the stages alone. I have a sincere and simple answer to your problem. If you love someone and he/she loves you back than stick together. If not, than each to its own. You find someone else. Right ?
2006-09-28 23:04:54 · answer #7 · answered by Elvin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is the responsibility and duty of both that they should do the things in which other should get happiness.
the above one was used by u.
of late in these many a people (NOT in general)interested in Rights & not In duties.
hence see put not volte face
with good wishes.
2006-09-28 23:32:21 · answer #8 · answered by veerabhadrasarma m 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 'Logical' personalities rarely find the meaning for many of the FOUR lettered WORD's in the dictionary of LIFE,
LIFE, WIFE, BORN, LOVE, LIVE, DEAD, SOUL, GOOD, BEST, TEST, REST, FIND, LOVE, PLAY, GAME, NICE, DICE,
If you do not compromise with the FOUR letter words in LIFE
You'll probably suffer with 3 letter words till you DIE without understanding the ????
WHY, WHO, HOW, s**
lie, die, try, bye, BAD,
GOOD
LUCK
2006-09-29 02:31:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
see sometime you don't need any reason to get attached to any person. when you start loving anyone, you cannot describe it insuch words or terms such as initial of whatever....... it's only about feelings
2006-09-30 23:48:06 · answer #10 · answered by crazychori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋