I'm reasking this, with more info.
So he gave me oral second time we met. Moment of passion whatnot, blah we talked, etc. etc. We're both getting over long-term relationships. He calls 2 days later after he gets my # off our mutual acquaintance. He says he wants to see me more and talk to me and stuff but he knows I'm kind of "committed" and he wants nothing sexual. But last time he tried to have sex with me...Anyway, he said nothing sexual, just talking etc.
I saw him and he hugged me as we parted....wants more or no?
2006-09-28 22:53:07 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And yes, we do talk about deep, intellectual things, not just superficial mundane garbage. I actually enjoy talking to him...I wouldn't mind just being friends, but what do you think?
2006-09-28 22:54:53 · update #1
I guess my question also is, is it possible to just be friends and talk without sex? I want to develop a mental connection further, as we're both intelligent people...I'm not bsing.
2006-09-28 22:57:22 · update #2
Alright, what if he knows I'm a virgin? And that I've only done other stuff with one other guy--a guy I was in a relationship with for 5+ years?
2006-09-28 22:57:56 · update #3
Ugh...how can I say this
2006-09-28 23:10:39 · update #4
ALRIGHT PEOPLE. HE GAVE ME ORAL, BUT I DID NOTHING IN RETURN. I TOLD HIM TO STOP BECAUSE I DID NOT LOVE HIM. MEANING WE DID NOT HAVE SEX ALREADY.
I can't figure out how to make this clear enough with you people who can't read.
2006-09-28 23:11:17 · update #5
Wait, u let him go down on you but then you complain about an innocent hug. Get off it. And of course he tried to have sex with you he is a guy isn't he. And he has gotten some action out of you in the past hasn't he. If you really don't want him around, tell him so.
2006-09-28 22:58:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
After reading your additional comments I would have to say YES he wants more. I do think it is possible to be JUST friends and NOTHING more. BUT YOU are going to have to set the rules. And do this immediately. Next time you both get together for a talk or to hang tell him exactly where you are coming from that you want to be friends and NOTHING more. NO ORAL, NOTHING, just friends. If he is a true friend he will NOT have a problem with that. If he isn't then send him on his way.
2006-09-29 06:06:09 · answer #2 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. I don't think that it is a good idea to hang out with him anymore. Now that the sex part has already happened it is ALWAYS going to be an issue between the two of you. What will happen is that if you spend time alone with him he will try to talk you into and it (just trust me on this) will work because you'll be thinking, "I already did this with him, does it really matter if I do it again?" Then you will, and you will feel absolutely terrible about yourself because you know it is wrong.
2006-09-29 06:09:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must first know what you want and behave accordingly. You are a virgin and you do not intend to loose your virginity..Obviously the guy wants sex with you and he behaves towards you as a woman not as an intellectual friend. Go deep inside yourself does he worth your trust or no . If found him trustworthy tell him frankly your position and ideas and hang up with him carefully . If he is not trustworthy leave him to find a more faithful guy to trust with your virginity.
2006-09-29 06:20:44 · answer #4 · answered by Nilehawk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would honestly see it as a kind of love... not dating-type of love, but the love between friends, a sincere friendship. There are emotional ties, but not the kind that holds together a couple, but the kind that holds close friends together.
Or maybe he's just a huggy person. Some people are like that.
2006-09-29 05:57:54 · answer #5 · answered by seraphim_pwns_u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a guy or a girl? He gave you oral the 2nd time you met him? And you're committed? - Somethings wrong with this picture!
2006-09-29 05:58:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously your brain hasnt matured to full development, otherwise you would be able to answer this question yourself. Be patient, when you enter 4th grade, sex should be a little more focused for you
2006-09-29 05:57:10 · answer #7 · answered by captcruzer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he wants more. Don't u? I mean, it happened, right? Besides you are to blame. You are not giving clear messages. "Kind of committed"?? But you had it with him? Decide what you want and be true to yourself. Then let him know.
2006-09-29 06:01:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he wants more. since hi didnt u ask u directly about having sex, so cut the crap and enjoy buddy!
good relations are hard to find and rare to live.
2006-09-29 06:10:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUH!
Oral sex the second time.
I think the biggest question is ? WHAT DO YOU WANT OR EXPECT?
2006-09-29 05:57:53 · answer #10 · answered by cork 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋