2006-09-28 21:18:27 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes ...as a child I lived in a large / join family system with battery of servents/ cooks / maids and uncles, cousins etc( i am a male 36 now !!). Mum was married to the families eldest son and was too busy making things happen for such a large family (27 people !! )
I was molested in the so called safe environs of my own house . they were my cousins/ drivers/ cooks and uncles !! I do not blame them cause they were in the process of discovering their sexuality and had no formal guidance / sex education etc.
But all this had left a deep impact/scars on my personality . I never shared with any one all this while till recently when i got married. I could not have anormal sexual life with my wife. the faces would loom out from past and scare me . the experience mutilated and distorted my views abot sex / partner and the lines of distinction were very thin.
My wife actually bailed me out . You need to talk to people you love. they would understand and help you out of the guilt / shame / despair ! It really hurts to keep it to yourself . sharing makes it much easy and makes the guilt dissapper. forgive people who have done the act with you . move on in life . stop thinking about the incidents of molestation ..it will make it worse.
I know it is diffcult ..but this is the only way out . forget and let go !!
Trust me life is beautifull...past cannot hamper the prospect of present and the future . just share with your spouse/ friend / mum anyone u think loves and understands you . see the pain dissapper . Live happy and long dear ...you are precious !!
2006-09-28 21:57:56 · answer #1 · answered by ritz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was a victim. I was molested by my own cousin brother. I was about 14 then. He was 18. This went on for about 6 months before he left for college.
He used to take me to his room and make me perform oral sex on him till he came and blackmail me about telling my mom.
Never told anyone till today.
2006-09-28 23:27:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my view Ive been right here to boot i changed into sexually abused through 3 human beings from the age of ten to 15 and when I informed my then significant different he suggested nicely i ought to no longer were too bothered through it cos i did not list it, i determined no longer to because i idea nicely whats the point they'd be out in many years and id ought to carry the scars for existence, your bf on the different hand has lengthy previous the alternative route and it would nicely be bothering you yet in a fashion i imagine it really is large that he needs to guard you, yet then i ain't you am i? and no matter if it really is bothering you, i somewhat do advise you tell him that at the same time as you delight in he needs to guard you you do not choose smothering and that would favor to you want to talk you'll! he's not helping issues through creating you sense this kind, cos u favor to talk on your own TIME. sturdy success xxx
2016-11-25 02:00:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes by my stepfather. He just plain scared me. I was 13. My mom finally figured it out after 3 or 4 years. But she still did nothing to protect me. I am still haunted by the memory and I am 50 years old. Those feelings for me have never gone away. I still have flashbacks. If you have been hurt, please get some counseling.
2006-09-28 21:23:19 · answer #4 · answered by glenda576 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, wen i was around 6 yrs or so, i still remember...that man was our family friend's brother and he was a preacher...he took me to his room & tried to mount me,strangely i was not scared,my mind was racing,i knew all this was not right & made fuss saying i'm very very thirsty,e let me go & told me to go back to him...i ran & literally stayed glued to an aunty.Never told anyone but i'm not haunted by it.I'm though an victim but i feel as a preacher he shud be damn guilty(i have never met him since then,its nearly 19 years) but i want him to feel gulilty atleast b4 e dies.
Again wen i was 12 yrs, one of my uncle felt my boobs as if i was not aware of it....again i avoided him....
Once maybe in bus,one man brushed as if accidently.
But none of these has left bad memory in my life,WHY SHUD I SUFFER WEN IT WAS NOT MY FAULT. Now i dont have any inhabitions regarding sex with my boyfriend.
2006-09-28 22:23:21 · answer #5 · answered by simran v 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk about it to your closest person or confidante if no one else. Am sure will take out lots of tensions off your mind. (only if something ever happened to you)
2006-09-28 22:04:34 · answer #6 · answered by christina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never, but one should strongly respond to person by whom he/she has been molested. our silence will encourage him that is not fair.
2006-09-28 22:00:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh gosh! TOUCHWOOD! no one has ever did it to me!
were u molested? if yes i think u should talk to someone really close to you!
2006-09-28 21:51:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Luckily no noone ever violated me in that manner. If this is happening to you please i urge you to tell someone. Silence only makes them stronger. There are people who can help you and that care you have to believe that.
2006-09-28 21:28:54 · answer #9 · answered by kibbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? Were you molested?
2006-09-28 21:19:58 · answer #10 · answered by FavoredbyU 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋