Can this be a cause of problems in our future marriage. I am that shy introvert kinda guy who just does not like partying.... , she loves to dance the night away. I hate going to discs/parties...Two opposite characteristics but I love her to death. How to adjust with her ?? Any bright ideas ???
2006-09-28 21:16:24 · 16 answers · asked by Software_pro 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is important you resolve this because you do love her. Have you let her know how you feel about it? Is there anything at all you like about her party lifestyle (like going out for food after clubbing)? If so, maximize it and focus on it. Be sure to include her in your choices for leisuretime and show her the great benefits of it. But if she really loves to party, and you really love her, you will probably wind up at a few parties here and there and you may have to deal with it, you may have to adjust a bit...but do remember your needs as well.
2006-09-28 21:26:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK this is a common problem and its all to do with low self esteem, and can be a big problem.
You feel you don't want to go out clubbing because you feel you can't dance and everyone else is, so you seem boring.
To be honest I've been there, i was like it and when my friends wanted to go clubbing i dreaded it, because i thought i couldn't dance so it used to ruin my night.
I found it was because i had no confidence.
Try building your confidence up trust me you will be dancing the night away with her by doing so.
Take up a sport that's what i did, i started going kick boxing which helped me alot, now i love clubbing!!!
2006-09-29 04:26:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this may sound crazy, but try ballroom dancing. It's not a nightclub atmosphere and its an older crowd. She can boogie away and you can disappear into the background when you need a break. and do it only once every few months.
Other than that if you don't mind her going dancing with her girls let her go. But try to go with her at least once every other month. That should get you by for a while.
2006-09-29 04:25:46 · answer #3 · answered by Dani L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do two wrongs make a right?
the best i think you can do for her is try and change. take some private dance lessons and go dancing with her. try and come out of your shell a bit. you could try talking to her and letting her know how you dont like it and wish to spend more time with her, but she might regret you trying to calming her down and hold her back..
while you're talking future marriage, what is she out doing when she is partying and dancing? is she ready for a serious commitment?
2006-09-29 04:21:42 · answer #4 · answered by .jess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love means sacrifice-so one of you has to surrender to the other's demands and sacrifice-either you join her sometimes and explain her why u don't like discs and ask her to insist. Adjustment is the first need for a successful marriage.
2006-09-29 04:20:45 · answer #5 · answered by anil m 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go out with her, have some drinks and you will be a lot more open to dancing etc.
She will like the new side she sees of you, and on other days you two can relax and have a nice quiet evening like you wish, and there again you can show your good sides ;)
2006-09-29 04:20:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love her so much, go ahead and start enjoying. Drink a lot and then go to the dance floor with her so that you dont remain the shy and introvert person that you are :)
2006-09-29 05:14:05 · answer #7 · answered by christina 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
accordig to me u should find a middle way like
1.why not going for a date
2.taking ur partner to a nice candle light dinner
3.have some romantic gossips & slowly and gradually change her attitude
2006-09-29 04:25:14 · answer #8 · answered by Vikas (Vicky) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take dance lessons. Really. They will build your confidence and help your relationship. The two of you could take them together. How romantic.
2006-09-29 04:29:09 · answer #9 · answered by doglas p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get drunk and do lots of drugs. You have a problem loosening up.
Of course nobody should have to CHANGE them selves to accomodate their partner.
You need to trust her. If you don't, it will cause more problems than her actual partying.
2006-09-29 04:24:55 · answer #10 · answered by BlueChimera 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋