I 've got engaged 6 months ago,we have a good relationship.Really good.I know that he's the one.We live in a city that I was born and raised.He is coming from another city not that far away ,he came to the city for his carreer.Well,when he was in the army just before we got engaged,I rented this sweet house and bought everything one by one and started a new life for us.İt was too hard for me,because I lived in a foreign country for 6 years and when I got back,I had nothing to start over.So,first a few months I stayed with my friends and had some problems,but then I found a good job and rented this house after 3 months.Now everything is where I wanted them to be.But now that he's back,he wants me to move to the city where he lived before where his family still live.I have to decide,should I convince him staying here where I just started a new life,or should I make him happy and move to this another city where he lived and wants to live forever ?I worked so hard to get here.What do I do?
2006-09-28 20:21:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well you worked hard 2 please him and all i got 2 say is that you should make him work hard for you! You deserve some relaxing time instead of being pushed around..Stand up for yourself.. has he seen the place yet? if not show him and ask him what he thinks! tell him you have worked hard trying to fix this place up for you and him to live and you think you should settle down somewhere nice and not worry about all the hectic thinkgs you would have to worry about if you moved 2 his city. i mean what would you do with all the stuff? take it with you? pack it all up again.NO I THINK NOT stay where you feel at home and where you feel comfortable!
2006-09-28 20:28:17 · answer #1 · answered by **CUZ IM A BOSS** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmmmmm, you've got things the way you want them and now he is back, he wants you to change everything to accomodate him, where do you fit in? Other than making him happy to have you on his arm. Let me ask you this? Are you the lest bit excited about wanting to move? Or the only reason you are even considering the move is because he makes you feel so good on the inside?
You may have cold feet or a thinking mind that isn't wanting to let your heart override it.
I'm facing a similar situation and I have been burned in the past and I have had to start all over too many times, I really don't want to get hurt again but I am also afraid of not having the love that I have right now, in my heart.
Tell you what, flip a coin, heads you go, tails you stay, either way there are gonna be some regrets and hopefully alot of joy.
2006-09-28 20:37:03 · answer #2 · answered by Sheila 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweety...i really do understand ur situation..wat best u can do is, just try to convince him and stay in this city for somtime and make some money for urself so that u can become financially stable...instead if u go there with him u will hav to completely depend upon him and his family for everything which i don't think is a good idea for u...so..just try to convince him and make him understand that u have invested lots of hard earned money here and u wud like to ger somthing in return from it...if he loves u truly...i am sure he wud understand and agree to stay with u...but this is only for the time being...one or the other day u will have to go and stay with his family...plz do not forget that...hope this has helped u...take care and god bless u
2006-09-28 20:29:31 · answer #3 · answered by bryan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you are taking your last breath on this Earth you will not remember your things, you will remember the who's in your life,
I understand that you might be thinking he should care for you too but I think he is, if you are starting a life together he wants to share with you who he loves and where he is from, for a man that is a grand gesture of love,,,, take it. or if you are really more attached to your things don't get married to him.
2006-09-28 20:26:56 · answer #4 · answered by Sara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should stay where your heart tells you to stay,by moving with him will make him very happy,but you will be the sad one at the end of the day,so convince him to stay and be happy my dear,if you worked so hard for something why would you just throw it away.
2006-09-28 20:30:42 · answer #5 · answered by macguyver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now this is what i have to say, live your own life. If you have people giving you there answers then you wont make up your own mind. So you should decide for your self, not have other people give you directions in life
2006-09-28 20:35:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to grow up and start his own family not keep hanging on to his. Its not just what he wants if he cant see that then your better off with out the selfish jerk.
2006-09-28 20:29:43 · answer #7 · answered by saturn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are asking total stranger what to do with the rest of your life? you are renting a house-you do not have a mortgage. if the geography is the problem-that would be a coin toss. it if is repainting and redecorating-that would not be a very good reason not to move....
2006-09-28 20:26:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
......YOU DON'T HAVE TO START ALL OVER AGAIN ............... and you don't have to sacrifice in life .......this is what people don't realize and it becomes a pattern in their lives ........... there are 2 people in a relationship and not only one ........ both have to decide .......... you must remain economically independent ... to get respect ........ you have worked hard and things are working for you ............ the time is right to spend it ........ on your own ...... and make a decision in a year or so ........ this will make things fall in its own place ......... don't be in hurry ............ .good luck ..!!!
2006-09-28 20:33:31 · answer #9 · answered by spaceman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he is the one you love go on..be happy with him and makes him happy too..who knows you ll find a better and beautiful life with him.good luck
2006-09-28 20:27:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋