my fiance best mate just leaches off her all the time,when i got with my fiance i found out she had been out with her brother,he cheated on her and had a kid with someone else.she took him back and stayed with him for a further 6 mths because she didnt want to lose her friend.he dumped her again.i was horrified when i found this out,she still sees her mate twice a week,the day i proposed her friend told me her ex proposed same day which ruined it for me.
my fiance went out with her mate all day and night and bought some sex toys for us,but after she came back from night out she woke me up dreaming and said laughing jamies wish list who is the name of her ex.
i made her choose her mate or me im sick of that woman in my life i dont want her at my wedding she was to be maid of honour am i in the wrong,or standing up against someone who i dislike.my fiance stayed with her ex not to hurt her feelings thats sick right?
2006-09-28 20:18:00 · 14 answers · asked by jonas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You cant really expect her to drop her friends for you? Her so called friend sounds like a nasty piece of work. Your fiance will hopefully see this for herself some day. Just try and smile and hide your feelings. Good luck!
2006-09-28 20:22:14 · answer #1 · answered by I know nothing! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her brother went out with your wife to be, treated her badly and she put up with it for the sake of that friendship? That is unhealthy.
I think it is more about the ex that you are bothered - the sister is just a constant reminder that your fiance dated the guy. Granted, she doesn't exactly come across as a prize herself.
In some ways you may be better off ignoring this friend of your fiance rather than making your fiance choose between the two of you. She is her friend after all, even if she is a problem. I know it's hard, but you will just end up looking like a jealous man with no authority if you continue to let this woman wind you up. Laugh at her, but don't let her get to you, because that way she wins.
What you've written makes her appear to be a controlling person whom your fiance is a little bit afraid of. So you need to be the confident man who lets this woman see by your actions that she cannot get to you, right? You make a stand where it is important to you, the rest of the time brush her off.
As for the friend's proposal from an ex - don't let something like that ruin your moment for you.
Eventually, your fiance will realise what this woman is about.
2006-09-28 23:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of the all the dream, could have been triggered because she had been out with her friend, and if her friend had been talking about her brother, its in the back of her mind, she probably didnt even remember the dream.
As for the ultimatum, I think that is a bad choice, nobody like to be told who there friends can be, take back what you said, and explain to your partner how difficult it is for you.
As for the proposal item, did your finance confirm that he asked her on the same day, it could just be the friend being a b***h, perhaps she is the one that has the problem with her brother breaking up with your finance, and she may well have issues about you, she could be insecure as well, thinking she will loose the friendship of your fiance, because she is with someone knew, lets face it, most people dont like to reminded about an ex.
2006-09-28 21:51:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds very complicated.... obviously your fiance had feelings for her best friends brother but that doesn't mean she only stayed with him because of her. Give her some credit... after all she is with you now so she must have some good sense he he....
I'll be upfront with you here... the best thing you can do is let their friendship run its course.. once she is happily married to you, she won't have time for her especially if you keep her busy..
I hope you have a great wedding regardless of the dramas of the ex .. but if you think about it hard enough.. it's more that her friends brother is her ex that is the problem and not the friend...
2006-09-28 20:24:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is about supporting one another through good and bad. You need to be supporting your fiance, not trying to control her. She has the right to make her own friends and you should be there for support if things go wrong.
2006-09-28 20:33:22 · answer #5 · answered by GT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is such a problem for you the why the hell are you marrying her? you can't ask somebody to choose between two people that they love! how would you feel if she asked you to do the same?
either get over it or get a grip and stop being so childish.
2006-09-28 20:27:38 · answer #6 · answered by neogriff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a ***** be be careful of ultimatums. Better to have a good conversation with your wife when you've cooled off a bit. Ultimately though, I think you're right!
2006-09-28 20:26:50 · answer #7 · answered by lataliano 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-06 08:53:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to choose who she want to spend her life with, you or her friend, cos if she doesn't choose now that woman Will always be in your life with her negative vibes. Maybe the friend is just jealous
2006-09-28 20:47:29 · answer #9 · answered by oye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - that is a little sick. If you don't like it now - you won't like it in 5 years time either.
2006-09-28 20:22:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋