Im 23 and im pretty classy and conservative. Ive been with my boyfriend for about a year. i sleep with my boyfriend and enjoy it but...he likes to be kinky. He wants me to be louder and more into it every time. and i hate it! I dont mind every once in a while. But it seems like hes into it for the physical not the emotional. evertime we watch movies with naked attractive girls in them he comments "oh wow look at her butt, thats so hot blah blah". its annoying. i hate that hes so openly horny all the time. is this normal? what do i do?
2006-09-28 19:53:38 · 16 answers · asked by amtech33 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well it depends on how kinky is kinky to you. Talk to him about all of it with him. It will help him understand how you feel and you can learn what it is he needs when he is like this way. It is fairly normal for guys around your age. Also it may be he is comfortable with saying and doing these things with you.
Good Luck.
For many guys as they get older they slow down.
2006-09-28 20:01:07 · answer #1 · answered by pj_gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being open in your relationship is the best. Communicate more. Maybe there can be some compromise between the two of you. Maybe he can tone it down more and learn to appreciate the softer side of sex, so to say, and maybe a few times you can do what he likes just to spice it up. There's certainly nothing wrong with being classy and conservative, but maybe once in awhile show him a side that can really turn him on. There has to be a compromise between you both. If you both can't have an open communication in the relationship, is it really fare to the both of you that you stay together? I love to share more intimate moments with my boyfriend, but I also love to show a side of me to really turn him on. I like to dress up for him and bring new spice into the bedroom. The bedroom and lovemaking is your sanctuary, have fun with it. Oh, and it's completely normal for a guy to be openly horny, even when watching naked girls. When my boyfriend says something, I smack him in a playful way.
2006-09-29 03:32:10 · answer #2 · answered by Emmie_katz7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your sex styles just don't match up. I say talk to him about it, tell him what makes you uncomfortable and what you are willing and not willing to do. If he dosen't want a conservative girl and you don't want to be a "wild" one then maybe it's best if you're not together. The best would be to come to a compromise, you do some things he wants, and he cuts back on open appreciation of other women. It's very normal, communication solves everything though. Good luck.
2006-09-29 02:57:14 · answer #3 · answered by alley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you said, he's not into the emotional. In the long term, it's the emotional that counts. The physical will inevitably weaken, so the emotional must take over. If you're planning on the long term, you need to think carefully. He may not be for you.
2006-09-29 02:57:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweety open up you seem too uptight. relax if you get kinky with you you might have more fun loosen your blouse a bit and please your man or trust me he will find someone else who will be kinky for him then you have no one to be mad at but yourself. it's not going to kill you to have a little fun in the bed room. if you watch movies and he says the chicks butt is nice say yea its OK. maybe your a bit insecure with your self.
2006-09-29 03:05:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, if he was checking out other girls, even on tv, commenting on them, it would piss me off. Tell him how you feel on that subject, about him being attracted to every girl he looks at and feeling horny, and tell him to cool it down, even if it is just a bit. Tell him you feel uncomfortable. If he truly likes/loves you, he will understand and respect what you have to say.
2006-09-29 02:59:02 · answer #6 · answered by havoks_angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Turn the tables & start commenting on the guys. See how he likes it! If you don't do something fast he's gonna keep it up (no pun intended) but if you don't bring it to his attention he'll think you're okay with it. Good luck
2006-09-29 03:01:48 · answer #7 · answered by kathy o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and this is a problem because????????? lol jk. its one thing to like sex but its disrespectful to say that with u there. if he likes naked girls and it bothers u he needs to keep it to himself. i think u should try to be open minded in bed.( make sure ur being tak'n care of too) but u might find u enjoy it more
2006-09-29 03:01:39 · answer #8 · answered by holdnnmyown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gurl..i have the same problem..and its normal for men to talk like that around people they are comfortable with. i think that just ignore it as much as you can and if you cant then talk to him about it..like i love with with all my heart and there is nothin wrong..but im not as open as you are and i would like it if you could tone it down a lil byt so that i can get use to it and maybe even get more open with time...something like that...and if he cares about you he will understand and try to help
2006-09-29 02:57:19 · answer #9 · answered by NiKkI Lo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop watching movie with him
2006-09-29 02:56:45 · answer #10 · answered by eZY jOHn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋