im 25, i consider myself to be pretty but i am overweight, and i'm comfortable with myslef. i have always been quiet and shy around strangers, i just sometimes wonder whether i have 2 BIG things against me, is it as bad as i see it? or is there a chance for me? in a way i feel like im better off alone and i would be ok with that, so it's just curiosity more than anything
2006-09-28 19:44:02 · 40 answers · asked by momo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes.
There is no doubt a guy for you.
However,(and you knew that was coming), can the shyness. You are lying to yourself and to us when you say "I feel better off alone and would be ok with that,...." You wouldn't be asking us this question if it didn't matter to you.
First thing you need to do is love yourself, be honest with yourself, trust that you are a good person, and care enough to make that good person do something about her loneliness. To begin with stop looking at yourself as overweight and start looking at yourself as a beautiful person. Beauty begins fro within like love, and happiness. You have to believe that. It will change you into the person you know you are.
I won't promise you will lose weight, though you may find more reasons to do things and active people tend to lose weight. I won't promise you that you will find true happiness over night. It takes year to fully appreciate all you have to offer. I will promise that if you look for a man you will find men looking for a woman. You are 25, that is a woman, not a girl. Be proud of that. Be happy with yourself. Talk to others about the good things in life and see if they don't share much of your joy. It is not as difficult as you may think to find Mr. Right. You only need to start looking.
Have fun and love yourself. Others will too.
2006-09-28 20:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by LORD Z 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Momo you have been given some good advise and as usual some losers that don't know a thing have answered as well.
I am a BBW... Big Beautiful Woman... start thinking of yourself in those terms and not as overweight. I have been big my whole life, tried all the diets, all the drugs (legal) to lose weight, paid for treatments and all I ever lose is a few kilos. As long as you are healthy then your weight isnt an issue. So first of all... Are you healthy? Are you happy within yourself? If you answered yes then you are on the right track.
Men are attracted to all women, they cant help it. There are men out there that are too afraid of what their friends will say if they admit to liking larger ladies. They don't have their own minds yet and let their friends do the thinking for them. Others are affected by magazines, just like the girls that think being anorexic is attractive because of those models, men think that all women should be like a stick figure.
I used to be shy aswell until my (slim) sister forced me to go out clubbing with her one night. At first I had to be drunk to enjoy myself, then I realised that everyone was so drunk around me that I could be sobber and enjoy myself even more. By the end of the 3rd weekend of clubbing I didnt care about all the others and was chatting up guys left right and centre. hahaha. Everyone has insecurities over the way they look, even the skinny girls. So just go out and enjoy yourself. Go with someone that you are really comfortable with. Dont think of anyone else, they wont be staring at you, they are all busy doing what they are doing.
Oh yes I have had many boyfriends in my life... I am 40 years old but am single right now. My boyfriends have all been good looking, slim guys.. ( well I thought they were good looking anyway) hahaha
Dont give up. You will find yourself a boyfriend but you do need to go out and show yourself.
2006-09-28 20:18:19 · answer #2 · answered by wickedly_funny66 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone in this world will think your attractive but just because your a little overwieght doesn't change anything... If you have good personality your chances aren't really on your appearance if you meet a good guy that will take you for you! I'm 5'5 and i'm 140 i'm not that overwieght but i have extra baggage lol however you want to call it and it never stopped me from getting guys so you shouldn't have a problem gettings guys either you just haven't found the right one yet... Your comfortable with wieght you should have more self esteem in yourself because there is someone for everyone in this world sometimes its more than 1 person for some people but you shouldn't put your self down ... Just keep lookin and don't get too discouraged
2006-09-28 19:49:27 · answer #3 · answered by ~*Megan N MaRc~* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of guys that could be/would be/are attracted to you. I mean, yeah, society has kind of drilled into us that thin is beautiful and anything that falls short or wafer-status isn't appealing, but to be frank, that's all bull. The outside fades, you know, and I'd like to think that everyone can acknowledge that. As far as being shy goes, eh, it's you. Little secret; the most outgoing person that you know, is probably the most shy. Think it's a major contradiction? It is, when taken out of context, but really, it's the truth. I mean, we've all got out insecurities, some just have a better way of hiding them.
2006-09-28 19:49:38 · answer #4 · answered by Alyssa Dee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell yourself you're overweight, and you will remain. Tell yourself you're shy, and you will remain. Tell yourself you will remain alone, and you will... remain alone. Find some new better things to tell yourself. I am worthy of love, I am sexy and vuluptuous, I am outgoing, I have a fabulous personality, Everyone wants to be my friend, I love the spotlight in front of strangers. There's a chance for everyone, and it doesn't happen overnight, but if you use positive affirmations and you are conscious of when you use the negative ones and stop yourself when you hear yourself telling yourself these destructive things....then you will change what you want and have that "chance".
2006-09-28 19:51:21 · answer #5 · answered by jennilaine777 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course there are men out there for you! There are many men that love big women. I am not sure how overweight you are but I found that different men love different women. Some small guys like big women and some big men like big women. I myself am overweight and have had no problem finding men to date. Especially if you are comfortable with yourself then they see confidence and that is attractive in itself.
2006-09-28 19:48:30 · answer #6 · answered by glasslights 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should not worry. I am also a shy, overweight female. I am 31 though.. and I just recently found a guy who loves me for me. Just have faith. Go out.. Have fun with your friends. Live your life. And when you least expect it.. love will find you. Trust me. I know. So long as you remain comfortable with yourself... that is all that matters.
2006-09-28 19:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by Chic 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah i would say that you could because my last gf was a slightly overweight girl she had a pretty good belly on her ha ha but anyways she was so shy that once i started to break her out of her shell i started to like her and then i just didn't notice physical things anymore it was like i just loved her for who she is you know but then she cheated on me big time and i couldn't get over it as hard as i tried but yeah any guy could be attracted to any girl you just have to like who you are and accept the person that you are. cheers partner
2006-09-28 20:51:05 · answer #8 · answered by cowboy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your just as human as anyone else. Yes you will meet a great man someday. Your still young so you have plenty of time. Weight has nothing to do with it. Personality and kindness and what's inside counts. You sound like you will one day make a great catch for a good man. Be positive. Good come to those who wait! lol!!
2006-09-28 19:52:22 · answer #9 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alot of men like over weight women. But for your own health try to lose some weight. There is some one out there for you, he will come around when you least exspect it. Just be your self and good luck Pem
2006-09-28 19:51:06 · answer #10 · answered by Patricia M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋