I been dating some guy for 2 months now, we spent nights together, had nice romantic meals together and the whole nine yards...But whenever I mention "relationship" or say I miss you he chuckles and makes smart remarks, yet his actions are so warming gentle and caring...I plan on giving him a taste of his own medicine, but is it worth it...Does he really care?
2006-09-28 19:39:17 · 12 answers · asked by Just wanting to know 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let his actions speak louder than his words. What would you say if he constantly told you he loved you and wanted to be with you for the rest of your lives, yet he beat you every other day? Would you believe he really loved you? I suspect that he's just a little uncomfortable verbally expressing his feelings. It's kind of like who will say "I love you" first in a relationship. While what he's saying isn't the most mature thing, what he's doing should speak volumes. Lighten up, enjoy his affections, and it'll come - believe me. The more you pressure him and make a big deal of it, the more he'll feel that he's inadequate and that you're demanding. His actions will most certainly take a different turn if that happens. It sounds like you've got a good one, don't let your paranoia destroy it, Girlfriend!
2006-09-28 19:51:30 · answer #1 · answered by Tony G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If those are the reactions you get then there are 2 different signals. He treats you a certain way because he wants you to feel that way, but he is also playing mind games. Tell him to stop with the games and to just say what he feels so that you can stop wondering...Men do it all the time and they are really good at it and we fall for it because we see and believe the part we want to believe.
2006-09-28 19:41:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself do you just want to go to bed with him or are you looking for a more serious relationship! Perhaps you should start to be unavailable and go ahead and give him a taste of his own meds. LIke when you make love if you do again say oh baby I love your BODY so much or you can think of dozens of ways
2006-09-28 19:49:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys do not express them selves.. They don't talk about things but they show they care bye there actions.. If he starts to change bye keeping his distant etc, then maybe time to move on., Sounds like he cares just don't express it. Good Luck Pem
2006-09-28 19:46:29 · answer #4 · answered by Patricia M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words
so my Q! to you is has he introduced you to his friends?? have you met them?? or are you always alone with him? if its later combined with him being uncomfortable with you telling him you care then girl watch out!! he cud be treating you nice to compensate for what he is gettin and thus does not care
but if he is proud to be seen with you by his friends and does all nicities but cannot express in words you have nothing to worry about relax enjoy the attention
lastly whats you gut feeling telling you?? listen to it its always correct!!!
2006-09-28 20:12:40 · answer #5 · answered by Ruby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sure sounds like he's behaving two-faced... acting like he cares, but doesn't really give a rat's patooty... otherwise, he wouldn't be chuckling & making those smart remarks when you're being lovingly-sincere.
2006-09-28 19:46:32 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've only been dating 2 months. How can you say you really love someone only after 2 months? Give it time, but not YEARS!
2006-09-28 19:42:29 · answer #7 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is some great advice so get a pen. My mom always told me to listen to what people say, they mean it. Don't read between the lines, don't try to make it what you want it to mean. People say what they mean.
2006-09-28 19:44:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men will be men...
when you tell him you miss him, whisper it in his ears so that you don't see his eyes, men get embarrassed when you do, make him FEEL(meaning don't say a word about him saying it back) that he has to tell you right at that moment. and also "He can't miss you if your always there" !
2006-09-28 19:48:54 · answer #9 · answered by alpha_Q 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Action speaks louder than words. Maybe he's one that can't say it but just show it.
2006-09-28 19:45:31 · answer #10 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋