my friend keeps making comments like "i don't matter, i wish i was dead, there's no point to keep living" She also told me tonight that she has several ways to kill herself. I know she is just saying it to get attention cause she cuts herself too. Is there any reason i should take her seriously? I yelled at her and hit her earlier today cuz she said she was going to do it tonight or in the next few days whenever she got the chance. Now she won't answer my calls. i called her dr and he said he'd check up with her. I know i need to just ignore her so she'll stop getting attention by saying stuff, but how do i know for sure if one day she is serious. she never used to say crap like this and ive known her for like 5 yrs. What can i do besides play her games? I don't wanna ditch her cuz shes my best...
2006-09-28 19:26:56 · 23 answers · asked by alma 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
her parents left her and shes been living with me, but she said she was going to go to her boyfriends house tonight. he said hes out at a party and not with her.
2006-09-28 19:47:04 · update #1
You hit your friend? I wouldn't answer your calls either.
If she's cutting herself and saying that she wants to kill herself, it's more than just "wanting attention." She's probably emotionally disturbed and needs help, not hitting.
2006-09-28 19:29:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be very concerned about her. She has a mental disorder. I doubt if she is doing this just for attention. Don't ditch her, but do not get "sucked" into her games either. Make sure she follows up with her doctor. Convince her to give her doctor permission to discuss her with you. Between you and her doctor, you will find the right type of help for her. She needs a friend now.
2006-09-29 04:14:30 · answer #2 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a school conselor, or better yet, do call a suicide hotline to help you with this. Like everyone has said, this is a cry for help and should not be taken lightly. Don't ditch her in her time of need. You are a good friend for trying to help, but hitting her will not work. (duh). Talk to her parents about it, and get them involved. She may be trying to get attention, if she openly says she cuts herself, but i doubt that is the case.
I used to cut, and I never said one word, until my mom found out and freaked out on me. But seriously, get her parents involved, because if you don't, it could be too late. Don't keep quiet about this.
2006-09-29 02:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by havoks_angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had quite a few friends like this in high school, and it bothered me because i was seriously depressed, taking medication, and contemplated suicide myself. it aggravated me that they used a real disease like that to get attention, when there were people out there(like myself) suffering in the shadows.
typically a person with depression will be withdrawn and not publically discuss cutting and such. it seems like she has learned about people doing these things and is using it to her advantage, which isn't healthy either. i think you need to sit down and talk to her. tell her that you are concerned about her saying these things, act like you really do care. make sure you talk for a few hours and see how she reacts. also, tell her parents, that will really wake her up.
i wouldn't ditch her unless all of the above doesn't work. i had to do that recently with a friend of over 7 years. it's hard, but sometimes you shouldn't put yourself through the torture. it's not healthy for you either. best of luck to you.
2006-09-29 02:32:20 · answer #4 · answered by curious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, those are all things to be taken seriously. Even if she's not going to actually do it, and you think it's a hoax, what if it wasn't? Also, you have to realize that ther'es something wrong with her if she needs attention that badly. Ignoring her isn't going to help, it might actually drive her to do something more drastic to catch your attention. You're goign to have to tell someone. The best option is a guidance counselor at school or a teacher. It may feel like betrayal, but it's the best thing you can do for her. Please do it. I've seen what happens when you don't.
2006-09-29 02:30:25 · answer #5 · answered by fireballfanaticgirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look...some people simply have a built-in Self Destruct mechanism. It's Darwinism at its finest. If she truely wants to kill herself, you can't stop her unless she's admitted to the lip-diddling academy.
In my opinion, she's still looking for attention and validation from you (or anyone that'll give it to her). But that is a bottomless pit of emotional need that you can NEVER fill, and she'll bleed you dry psychologically while you try. Personally, I wouldn't let myself be played like that...even by my best friend. In the end, we're all responsible for our own actions. You're not her keeper.
2006-09-29 04:40:20 · answer #6 · answered by ardra71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALWAYS take a suicide "warning" seriously! Call your local police and ask them to do a "welfare check" (check on the well being of a person). Talk to that person's family and make sure they are aware of what you believe to be true - that this person is threatening suicide. A true friend doesn't "ditch" someone when they are in a serious time of need and someone wanting to die before it's their time needs all the friends and "help" they can get.
2006-09-29 02:35:32 · answer #7 · answered by nativeson95 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's not being stupid, but she is serious. She's a cutter, too? Something is going on inside her head that makes her want to numb the pain by cutting herself. It takes a strong person to continue the friendship. If her friendship is important to you and you're strong enough mentally to handle it, be there for her. While you can't save her from herself, you can listen. You may wish to contact the suicide hotline for further advice. Anyone who threatens or attempts suicide should be taken seriously, regardless of their motives.
2006-09-29 02:34:33 · answer #8 · answered by denise w 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but I don't think you care about your friend, or maybe you do but it doesn't sound like it to me. If she is cutting herself, she needs to see a professional. If she is saying she will kill herself, she needs to see a professional. I took some psychology classes and she sounds like she may be suffering from major clinical depression. Don't hit your friend! What's the matter with you?
2006-09-29 03:28:57 · answer #9 · answered by Blue Eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs help. Is there anyway for you to go by her house now? I know it is late but can you physically go check on her.
Try to suicide hotline for advise or ask the police do to a welfare check on your friend if she wont answer the phone. Just understand if you do ask police to do welfare check she may get angry with you next time you see her. But isn't an alive friend better than a dead one?
Good Luck
2006-09-29 02:33:29 · answer #10 · answered by pj_gal 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋