I have this fear of "not being any good in bed" with a woman, how do I overcome it?
I'm bisexual and 25 years old, but everytime I do get a girl in bed, I can't ejaculate at all, nothing comes out even after an hour, and I do mantain my erection.
then when I'm with a man, I do ejacualate and get very excited just looking at him naked make's my mouth dry, and I'm awesome, even get another date, JUST not with the woman.
So what do I do? Serious replys only please, and yes I'm a man.
2006-09-28 18:47:10 · 17 answers · asked by Armblast 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dude ur gay
just stick it in the a.s.s and feel the Aids Virus
2006-09-28 18:49:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Well....I don't think love is going to work with a fear of spiders. lol I would say that fear can be overcome through understanding, and reason. I used to be afraid of the dark as a kid. The usual, demons, ghosts, spirits, boogieman type stuff. It would keep me up almost every night as I had an overactive imagination. Then as I began to get older, I looked into the subject, and found that it was all in my head. There is no such thing as any of these, and the only thing that says they are true are myths, and folklore. I even got myself to believe the bible was/is a lie. There is no one "watching me", my dead ancestors do not live around me. demons don't lurk the earth, and the Devil really isn't that bad of guy. The biggest fact I found is that no one has ever proved that any of these things exist. So, I guess intelligence conquers fear. After I had tossed out my fear of the dark, I came to embrace it. Now I spend most of my day in the dark. :)
2016-03-18 02:36:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are not bi-sexual. Maybe you just want to be. Being homosexual is okay. It sounds like women just don't turn you on sexually. Stop riding the fence and do what pleases you. Trying to figure out something you don't feel is a waste of time. And let me add this...if youcan hold an erection for an hour..then you shouldn't have the fear you are no good in bed.
2006-09-28 18:56:23 · answer #3 · answered by deltabred 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, a toughy. I think you are gay, straight up gay. If you are much more excited during sex with a man, just keep having sex with men. Rock on with your bad self. Maybe you like the company with a woman as a freind thing, and not a sexual thing. It's hard to say because I am not bi. I see a woman's breast and I am ready to nut everywhere. You sound experienced with sex so you know what to do and what not to do, it just sounds like a personal preference. Go get yourself a nice guy you like--and have some fun. Don't sit on the fence, go for it!
2006-09-28 18:57:16 · answer #4 · answered by NightTrainWooWoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, since you can perform perfectly fine with men, then it isn't anything physical, it's all mental. you probably just get really nervous and worked up around girls. have you EVER ejaculated with a woman? did you have a bad experience with a woman? perhaps you can try masturbating and thinking about women. does that make you nervous at all? anyways, this sounds like something you need to work out on an emotional level, not a physical one. good luck!
2006-09-28 18:51:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like to me that you are not Bisexual or maybe you are in denial of being 100% gay, if you cannot ejaculate with a girl....what does that tell you, your doing the same thing with her that you are doing when your with a man!! If that is your problem then try to Just be with men until you are 100% sure on who you are!!!!!
Good Luck to You!!
2006-09-28 18:53:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say satisfy the woman with foreplay orally or get her off her excitement will be contagious. And just decide what feels good if you give her great oral she should pay you back. If straight sex is what is good have her get on top and pleasure herself and you at the same time. I think that should work.
2006-09-28 18:51:42 · answer #7 · answered by Cody B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have the girl go on top for a while and if that doen't work well I don't want to say your gay so try two women at the same time imagine in your mind that your doing a guy while actually doing the girl.
2006-09-28 18:57:06 · answer #8 · answered by michael m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that its all in the mind. Seek professional help or just use hypnosis tapes on sexual performance. They shud help to get rid of mental blocks and barriers.
2006-09-28 18:50:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your not bi sexual if the woman isn't turning you on enough to ejaculate but men do then i would say just stick with men
2006-09-28 18:52:02 · answer #10 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you might be homosexual. What makes you feel like you want to be with a woman? Sounds like only men excite you, stick to that.
2006-09-28 18:51:14 · answer #11 · answered by Zero Cool 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋