I am so sick and tired of the favortism between me and my brother, hes 32, and I am 23 years old. he asks like hes alittle kid, he gets christmas presents, vehicles, money, ya know stuff like that, i have a daughter thats 5 years old, and my mom doesnt even care for her, my dad pasted away 5 weeks ago, and he loved that little girl more then anything in the world, my dad told me, and everyone that the home is supposed to go to her, so that my brother and i wouldnt fight over the home. my mom says she missed my dad, but shes mostly been buggin the people, for the life insurance, and the next day she asked my brother, if she can start dating someone else, what is wrong with that picture, they were married 31 yrs, what would would do in this situation, write her a letter telling her that you want nothing to do with her?
please i really need advice.
2006-09-28 18:39:30 · 10 answers · asked by endless_eternity_forever 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
So did your daughter get the house? Also most women are commonly more bonded with their sons. That would explain the favoritism she is showing .I would not mention to her that you want nothing to do with her but i would end contact when she does ask why then explain how you feel about the situation just do it nicely. It may just be her way of dealing with the pain and grief of losing a loved one and i am sure as daddy's little girl it's hurting you just as badly but really after losing one parent you need the other still
2006-09-28 18:46:06 · answer #1 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mother is doing , well, whatever. Expect her to continue to favor your brother, because she is not likely to change. It has nothing to do with you or your daughter, and everything to do with your mother.
Give your daughter lots of special time and attention.
I imagine that you hope that if you write that letter, your mother will finally see how unfair she has been, and will change her ways. I'm sorry, but that is probably not going to happen.
So, if i were in your place, i wouldn't write her, i would just stop doing things with her or for her. Maybe she will notice, maybe not. But you don't have to put yourself and your daughter in a position to be treated badly.
2006-09-29 01:49:08 · answer #2 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with her. She lived her life for 31 years with one man and doesn't want to live the rest of her life alone. Of course she is going to bug the people for the life insurance, she is entitled to it. What I would do in YOUR situation is grow up and stop being so judgemental of my mother.
2006-09-29 02:00:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well people ract to the death of a loved one differently. your mom has her reasons for acting out....your brother is a spoiled brat and will be for the rest of his natural born life. you are a 23 year old father. your daugter is the ONLY person youshould worry about. fall back on them if you feel mistreated and live for your child.
2006-09-29 01:45:37 · answer #4 · answered by goldie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT SHE DOES YOU HAVE NO CONTROL OVER. I WAS IN THE SAME SITUATION WITH MY BROTHER. AND MY DAD DYING. I DON'T LIKE HER AND NEVER WILL. I HAVE TOLD HER HOW I FEEL AND SHE TURNS IT AROUND SO SHE WON'T FEEL GUILTY. SHE COMES OVER TO SEE MY KIDS BUT THAT IS ALL I ALLOW HER TO DO IN MY LIFE. IF YOU DON'T WANT ANYTHING TO D WITH HER, THEN BY ALL MEANS DON'T. I HATE PEOPLE THAT SAY "BUT SHE IS YOUR MOM" AND I SAY" SHE DOESN'T ACT LIKE IT" I AM BETTER OFF WITHOUT HER IN MY LIFE..SAD HUH? JUST DON'T LET YOUR RELATIONSHIP TURN TO THIS BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR DAUGHTER. I AM VERY CLOSE ANN OPEN WITH MY KIDS. YOU HAVE MY OK TO DELETE HER FROM YOUR LIFE!
2006-09-29 01:49:18 · answer #5 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry 'bout your pops hope ha had a will and wrote down that your girl has a house as far as your mom and brother go stay in touch and i know it hard but let your mom go on w/ her life . when no one is looking smak your brother in the mouth . souned like my family after my pops passed just behave (but still smak your bro)
2006-09-29 01:50:15 · answer #6 · answered by k dog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is your mother she may not seem like the best mother but she is your mother and she deserves more than a letter you need to talk to her and as easy as it sounds to say you would choose to have nothing to do with her its easier said than done and end the end you wouldn't be happy with that
2006-09-29 01:49:29 · answer #7 · answered by D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they say blood is thicker than water but i think thats bulls**t - if your mother is making you unhappy and wants nothing to do with her own grand child than you shoul really think your relationship over and decide if you want this person in your life and your childs life
2006-09-29 01:46:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't get involved with her and your brother's lives. I'd live my life and do what I wanted. Good luck to them, they're gonna need it.
2006-09-29 02:15:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you this, but it's called JEALOUSY.
2006-09-29 01:43:19 · answer #10 · answered by DaNewGuy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋