I've been seeing this girl since june but we've only been officialy together for a month. We go to college about 70 miles apart from eachother and we've been hanging out every weekend pretty much since school started. I feel so strongly for her. Sometimes I almost let out the words "i love you" but I feel like it would scare her away. She means so much to me so fast. i've had other relationships and never felt like this so soon so i'm not just some young and stupid guy. Is a month too soon? When would it be ok to tell her how I feel?
2006-09-28 18:37:48 · 34 answers · asked by Matt J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Never thats a trick question
2006-09-28 18:39:03 · answer #1 · answered by weezythafireman 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Life is not "safe" anywhere, or at any time. While we certainly don't know the catastrophes that can hit us, we also don't know of the joys. Materialistic things, AND loved ones can be snatched away in a wink. So, I wonder--how would it be possible for me to choose anything? Every moment can, (CAN), be precarious. I just "lost" someone yesterday. Much loved. Yet, here I am, listening to the red winged blackbirds. Sweetie, I don't believe life or love can be a choice as to security. Besides, lliving is an inevitability (unless we choose to end it), the same as death is. SO! LIVE, LOVE & ENJOY. Darn, what is that quote--"What matters it what went before or after. Now with myself I will begin & end." There's another I like even better, "Sing while the music's there, dance while it's in the air, love while the love is there, & let tomorrow be tomorrow." If I didn't TRULY believe in this, I'd have jumped off the deck & drowned myself in the lake long ago! I believe the very only "security" you will ever acheive, is INSIDE.Have a wonderful day!
2016-03-18 02:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider the possibility that your partner might not respond with the hoped-for 'I love you, too.' If you can handle that and still want to express your love, go for it. If you can't, then consider holding off until either you're certain your partner will respond as hoped or you're OK with it if he or she doesn't. Think about how you'd like to let your partner know the way you feel, keeping in mind that uttering those words may give birth to a lifelong memory. If spontaneity works for you, wait for the perfect moment. If you're more methodical, consider writing a love letter first, then telling your mate in person the next time you get together. If you decide in advance when to reveal your love, plan a special evening around it. Such relationship milestones warrant celebration. When you tell your partner you love him or her, do so while making total eye contact, and while you are holding each other. This gives the moment the intimacy it deserves.
Tips:
Avoid saying the 'L' word for the first time in the heat of passion - your partner may doubt the sincerity of your proclamation.
2006-09-28 18:43:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no specific time to ask her. You should have asked her at the very first instance. I myself am a victim of that. In my final year at school i had a huge crush on a girl but didn't have the courage to say it. When i finally said it, it was my farewell party day and to my great pleasure she accepted but it was pointless as i wasn't going to meet her anymore. So "just do it" like they say in that stupid ad. The worst that can happen is that she will say "NO" or even cry or even slap you. You can always apologise and be her "good friend". But imagine if she accepts! Isn't that worth the risk, dude? So my honest advice:call her or meet her NOW and ask her out. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you. Good luck!
2006-09-28 18:46:47 · answer #4 · answered by Brad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok too feel that way in your heart. Sometimes its better too wait a while before you say somthing like that. If it is truly love then you will have alot more opportunities to tell her that you love her. Love is nothing somthing that happens in a month anyway, Love is somthing that builds slowly until you reach a point where you could not imagine that person not being in your life and trusting them with every feeling you have.
2006-09-28 18:41:33 · answer #5 · answered by bsd300d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually it's ok to tell someone how you feel, But if you are scared then wait. Maybe your not getting the same vibe from her. If you have to ask, then maybe it is too soon. But on the other hand, you know her better than anyone. So if you are getting a good feeling about your relationship with her, just let her know that your feeling have grown.
2006-09-28 18:41:35 · answer #6 · answered by mariposa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep, that would scare her off. You are in College, bro. I am not saying that all college guys are pigs that need to bang a lot of chicks, but just remember that she is meeting guys too at her college. Wait until you know that it is on the tip of her toungue too. I am not one to give advice, but saying the L word to a girl and have her thank me for it, that really sucked. It sucked like nothing has ever sucked before. Don't say "I love you" to a chick that is not ready to hear it unless you want your heart ripped out, eaten, puked out, then **** on. Because that is what it feels like when you tell a chick you love her, and she says oooohhh, thank you, and then hugs you. It hurts.
2006-09-28 18:48:02 · answer #7 · answered by NightTrainWooWoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think of it as a matter of time..its how you feel. Tell her if you want but don't just say hey, how ya doing? Nice weather, I love you, how bout them bears...When you have a nice moment go for it.
It sounds soon, but I think about my b/f and I. We said it 6 days after we started dating, although Ive been good friends with him for 7 years so it didn't seem that big of a deal( I'm pretty sure I told him I loved him before we dated but in friendship.)
2006-09-28 18:45:01 · answer #8 · answered by Laurel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's completely safe when:
You think about her constantly
You count the minutes(hours) until your with her
You both feel the same way together
You feel like doing something special for her and only her
you catch yourself just looking at her for no reason
feel like snatching the moon and giving it to her
i guess when you feel all these things, or most of them, its safe to say it. I'm not usually the one that says it first but, sometimes, i just cant help myself.
2006-09-28 18:46:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is never safe.
Relationships are never safe.
Personally I would wait.
The stronger the feeling; the less about love & more about sex it is.
If you feel this way 6 months from now, a year from now, then tell her, but by then she will know anyway.
The best way to learn is by your own mistakes.
;-)
2006-09-28 18:45:28 · answer #10 · answered by WikiJo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's no definition to love... no age... no time... it is never safe to say "i love you" cuz love is about taking risks.... if she means that much to you... then u should tell her... if you really love her...she deserves to know... if your feelings r seriously true... u'd risk ur own feelings for her...
whether or not she feels the same is different... if you scare her away then she's not meant for you... because if someone really cares about the other person... they'd stay and allow for love be a possibility for it 2 grow... buh if they run away... they either can't imagine a future w/ u or they're uncertain of their own emotions... -n frankly ppl like that aren't ready 4 love-
good luck =)
2006-09-28 18:43:39 · answer #11 · answered by ju5sm3h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋