2006-09-28 18:09:39 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is hard, because the reality is your sweetie will be going to Afganistan or Iraq, to fight in a war. So I can fully understand your aprhension.
My husband is deployed right now and there isn't a day that goes by where I don't worry about his safety. Every time I hear on the news another soldier has lost thier life in Iraq or Afganistan, my heart drops and I pray its not him. I obsess how will I live my life with out him and raise my daughter with out him, that wasn't our plan. I have nightmares about twice a week on me having to explain to my little girl why her daddy will not be comming home, and stumped on what to tell her what he was fighting for.
I don't suport this war, but support our troops (because despite their efforts they have no say in the matter what so ever).
So this is something you and your sweety really need to sit down and talk about, lay everything out, don't try to sugar coat the reality of war and go from there.
I really wish you and your sweeting nothing but the best.
2006-09-28 18:17:09 · answer #1 · answered by Krazee about my pets! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to try to be supportive. Unfortunately signing up for the Army means he will probably go to Iraq or the Middle East for at least a year. They are very desperate for recruits and very low on troops to send overseas. If you can, you might want to try to talk him out of it. The military is a great thing, but he WILL go to Iraq. If he really wants to do it, you can't stop him. Be as supportive as you can. He has to make his own decisions. He will be a different person when he comes back from basic training and you're going to have a lot of weird times ahead. Good luck and keep your chin up.
2006-09-29 01:12:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
TELL HIM...... or one of two things is going to HAVE to happen. You will stick it out in the relationship unhappy and have to deal with quite a bit... and I do mean quite a bit of problems to ensue...
or dont... they both have the potential to be painful... but you both need to sit down and talk to each other and get your feelings out in the open. joining the army is a very noble and bold move, but when involved its the same as discussing a relocation or anything else that would constitue a mutual desicion. best of luck
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2006-09-29 01:12:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt feel comfortable with my guy being in the service. being away from him for a week is hell but while hes risking his life in the process?! f_ck that! dont give him an ultimatum- but let him know how you feel. you shouldnt try to talk him out of it if its something he really wants to do. that would be selfish. if its something he really has his heart set on, support him and hell appreciate you for that. just be there for him but makes sure he thinks about it first. he can reassure you, and when he does you should feel better.
2006-09-29 01:15:37 · answer #4 · answered by Candymoonangel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though you don't agree with his decision, I think you should stand by and and support him while he goes through training and in the service. It may be difficult for you, but at least be proud that he is serving and defending the country. It will be difficult for him too, but he will feel better if you keep his spirit fresh in your mind.
2006-09-29 01:13:07 · answer #5 · answered by another newbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him he shouldn't be a slave to the neocons, a brute force of occupation of sovreign nations. Why would anyone join the army these days? It's not for the security of the USA, is for the monentary profit of the military industrial conplex. Thanks Cheney.
2006-09-29 01:12:50 · answer #6 · answered by justice4_ak 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's his decision, his life. If you really love and respect him you will back him whatever he does.
2006-09-29 01:12:20 · answer #7 · answered by Raven Sky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be supportive! We need good soldiers! We should all have great respect for our boys and girls who serve!
2006-09-29 01:12:19 · answer #8 · answered by *~BETHY~* 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Calm down . there is nothing in the world that can bother us but our self.
2006-09-29 01:15:28 · answer #9 · answered by emperor_cyrus77 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the best thing to do is to let him go...i dont think he will change his mind...and i bet he is trusting you while you stay back...so try to get your mind off it.
2006-09-29 01:10:59 · answer #10 · answered by super_6ix_4our 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋