We have been together for over three years and he moved in with me two years ago. We had talked about living together but then he and his roomate had a falling out and he lost his place to live. I did't hesitate when he showed up on my doorstep with his bags and our dog (was first his dog} I think things went south a couple of months ago but he was telling everyone else how unhappy he was but not me! I had broken my foot and wasn't working and it became like he resented me and that I was the one making him so unhapppy. I became the villian without even knowing why. At Christmas his mom and I were discussing where our rehearsal dinner would be and now I am this horrible person....what the?%#*
So I decided that financially and sanity wise I needed to move out. He said he thought I was being responsible in saving more money and that he also thought we needed SPACE so he is now going to stay in our rented house alone, "finallly have his own place that felt like home" What is happening???
2006-09-28 18:06:00 · 7 answers · asked by charlestongirl78 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Woa, woa... you're moving out of YOUR house???? Hun, he made a power play on you and you went for it. Go and get YOUR place back, kick HIM out, and have a candle and wine party!!!
2006-09-28 18:17:24 · answer #1 · answered by Raven Sky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does feel like getting a divorce. I was engaged for 2 yrs. to a man and after 2 yrs. he basically told me I wasn't good enough. So I took my stuff and left. I was crushed!
What I don't understand about your story is why you have to leave? If he's the one who needs the space why doesn't he leave?
But it is good that you've thought of yourself, in sanity and finacial wise. You need to keep that focus as you rebuild who you are.
That was the thing with me, I did everything with and for him that I completely forgot how to do things for me. I had to focus in on me and try to figure out my strengths. I now am a full time college student and a full time cashier at a fantastic store. So see it does get better with time and little self-reassurance.
Good Luck, and if you need to talk to anyone email me! Sara.
2006-09-28 18:15:49 · answer #2 · answered by * Wishfulthinker * 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok.... I know your boat so to speak... I have been living with my boyfriend for the past two years as well.. and somehow we have made it through more than most relationships do... luckily we can still stand to look at each other and smile and kiss and enjoy our lives together...
if you cant... and he resents you... needs space... then aside from therapy which I find usually never works... then you have quite a large problem on your hands... him living in your place is one problem.... unless it became a mutual habitat.. then you leaving is always the easiest.. let him find out what its like to not have you around... if he doesnt mind, then there is you problem and solution all in one... you wont last... if he doesnt like it and eventually cant stand it.. yet again.. your answer...
;)
2006-09-28 18:18:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute here....Why do you have to move out when it was yours to begin with. I understand this situation, my friend was in this situation a while ago. Finances get in the way of things and living with someone you're dating is totally different.
I've been living with my bf for over a year now and it's had its rough spots...but a thing that we don't have to worry about is rent, it's his dad's place.
Back to your situation, have you tried talking to him about this? He needs to be able to communicate to you and let you know how he feels.
Space is a things guys required, if they don't get enough space, they push you away and it's not fun, (trust me i know)
good luck, hopefully you can talk to him and sort this whole thing out.
2006-09-28 18:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by asiantomato84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a divorce by common law. at least in most states.But make sure you take what is yours before he moved in. Then you will have to split what you bought as a couple. Also make sure that your name comes off the lease of the rental because if he does damage you will be responsible. Make sure that you leave nothing in your name he can run up bills and you will have to pay them if he leaves them. Good luck
2006-09-28 18:15:24 · answer #5 · answered by liza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT HAPPEN WHEN YOU START LIVING TOGETHER, IT BECOME MORE STRESSFULL WHEN THINGS ARE
NOT GOING RIGHT, AND HE FEEL THAT HE NOT GET
WHAT HE NEED WHEN REALLY BOTH OF YOU REALLY
DID NOT KNOW WHAT EACH OTHER WAS LOOKING FOR
WHEN IT COME TO MOVING IN. NOW HE FEEL HE NEED
HIS SPACE SO GIVE IT TO HIM, PLUS THINK ABOUT THE
WAY IT CAME ABOUT HE AND HIS ROOMMATE FEEL OUT
SO HE NEED A PLACE. THAT SHOULD BE THE WAKE
UP CALL NEXT TIME YOU WANT TO SHARE A HOUSE
THINK ABOUT IT REALLY HARD BEFORE YOU DO....
2006-09-28 18:13:45 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you moving out? he moved in with you!! he should be moving out!
2006-09-28 18:11:34 · answer #7 · answered by Mila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋