Hi people, Im a 21 y/o guy, Im currently studying at Uni where i met this girl a few days back, I think it would be stupid to say she wasn't into me, cause she is giving me too many vibes, continually figgeting around me, very friendly and talkitive, giving me brief glances and so on.
She asked for my number and i gave her mine. I sent her a few texts today and she responded almost straight away, heres the catch, the last text i sent she didnt reply, so i think i have screwed up already by rushing in (if i can even call it that).
I asked if she was going out tonight , she said she was going to celebrate the beginning of term break with a few drinks in town.
My next text went something like this :
I'll be in town tonight too, what time are you going in , we could meet up...
Now i think ive somehow pushed it, im really not great at reading girls, so if someone could pont me in the right direction that would be awesome.
cheers!
Jack.
2006-09-28 17:36:26 · 14 answers · asked by Jack M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I should probably add she had broke up with her boyfriend recentley, within last month, but then she was asking me if i was single..
I dont think the texting was too bad, i'd never ask a chick out for the first time by text, Ive already had coffee with her at Uni, which i should've said, and she introduced me to her friends.
I hope she dosnt think i just want to screw her, cause i did say i'd be getting rather trollyed... oh oh , bad move :-\
(i may have answerd my own Q)
2006-09-28 18:11:39 · update #1
You haven't screwed up...but neither are you showing any game. You gotta be sly about this, man. And look, you're 21, in college....maybe texting is what everyone's doing now, but that's just it....everyone's doing it.
Me, personally, I think it was a little forward, but apparantly not judging from all the female responses you got.
2006-09-28 17:51:20 · answer #1 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get her something! I think you should just relax. I need more information...how long has it been since you sent the text. You have to think of the different possibilities before you rush into thinking she hates you - her phone could be dead, busy, sleeping etc.
But then again some girls are flirts and they flirt with guys even though they have no intention of doing anything.
Why don't you call her on private number to see if she picks up, if she picks up that means she has seen your message and she doesn't want to catch up. If not she may have a legitimate excuse. Also send her another text a very innocent one like "hey how was ur night out" or someting like that
2006-09-29 00:51:41 · answer #2 · answered by Knowitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she had another date, but this doesn't mean she isn't in to you. A lot of the girls I know won't go to a bar by themselves (me included), we always invite at least one guy. Some of the guys get invited as dates and sometimes just friends. But the what I'm getting at is, she already had plans. Just call her tomorrow, no text. Actully hear her voice and asked if she had fun. Listen in to her voice, you can pick up a lot more by the sound of her voice rather than a text. Good luck, I hope I helped you a little at least.
2006-09-29 00:41:06 · answer #3 · answered by collegebusygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A.) She is nervous about responding, maybe she wasn't expecting such a sudden "Ask out"
B.) It could just be a girls night out.
C.) I hate being the cynic here, but she might be seeing alot of different people, or maybe just another guy and her "few drinks in town" might be with that guy.
2006-09-29 00:42:54 · answer #4 · answered by Jim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not gonn'a lie. It scares me when guys get to jumpy and intiates too much with in a short amount of time. Which sounds like what might have happened. It will happen just chill out a bit.
2006-09-29 01:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by Darby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didnt screw up but if you want to date her ask her out in a proper way and not by text message, she may thing you meant just for sex etc and maybe she was meeting someone..Do it the right way and good luck
2006-09-29 00:40:58 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't trip she probably need some company if not she will tell you. there is nothing wrong with a man asking a question . a man needs to speak up and take charge.
2006-09-29 00:42:18 · answer #7 · answered by sweet sexy san 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you invited yourself out on their girls night. if she wanted you there, she would have invited you. next time don't be so overzealous. wait a day or so before you call her, and don't do text message overkill. show that you're interested but not desperate.
2006-09-29 00:51:11 · answer #8 · answered by susie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it wasnt pushy as far as im concerned....maybe she is just thinking about it, maybe she doesnt wanna brake the plans she made with her friends...why dont you just text her again and say : "i apologize if i was pushy...didnt mean to" or something like that..and then see what happens!
2006-09-29 00:43:50 · answer #9 · answered by Mila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one understands women. If you try to analyze what she is thinking it will just drive you mad.
2006-09-29 00:42:57 · answer #10 · answered by Adam B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋