My girlfriend is going away Sunday night with the guy she is still legally married to. They are just friends but they have a son. It is her birthday and while I was able to get her to convience him to change the dates. He has made plans to take her and their son to San Diego about 80 miles from them and stay over night in a hotel. She will not sleep with him and I know they are just friends now but its just the point. She makes me feel as though I am asking to much. They are divorced yet and I knew the situation before we got together. I wasn't IN LOVE with her in the beginning and its just one of those times I just wish she could so no. She says it isn't in her control but IT HURTS SO DAMN BAD. Please someone give me some advice....I need it bad. Thanks.
2006-09-28 17:36:09 · 15 answers · asked by mtjs06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop feeling so bad!
You knew what you were up against. The guy wants
her back. They've got got a son together and that
ties them together, no matter what.
Think of it this way. If she did it to him, more than likely,
she'll do it to you eventually.
I know this is not what you want to hear, but suicide
is not the answer.
Take what you've learned from this experience and
find someone that will love you and respect your
feelings totally.
If this is not an option for you, then stop calling her
and any other form of communication. Wait until she
calls you. If she doesn't call, you'll know where you're
at. If she does call, be firm and absolute. You need
an answer, a decision on her part.
If you fail to do this, rest assured that you will be be at
a disadvantage. You will have forfieted any bargaining
power you may have had. Love hurts!
2006-09-28 18:10:21 · answer #1 · answered by citizen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make up your mind is she married or divorced. You implied that she is both and that is impossible. If she is legally married to him you have no rights what so ever especially since she is only a cheater. If she is divorced then I can understand your problem there is no reason for her to spend her birth day with her ex husband. If she is still married to him them maybe she wants to spend time with her family, you are after all only the guy she has on the side.
2006-09-28 17:44:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you do this to yourself? You shouldn't have to put up with a soon to be exhusband. You need to ask yourself, "why is it so important that they go on a trip together?"
The son sounds like he is the excuse. But I don't know the situation, so I can't really judge.
If she is making you feel that you are asking to much, then maybe she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you.
Don't hurt yourself with someone like that. There are more fish in the sea, one day you will catch that precious fish.
2006-09-28 17:43:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know but if you trust her and she respect you she wont do nothing,but on the real thats som bull **** because he dont need to be taking her no where at no dame hotel so I dont know what reall to say. But if I was you she would not be going no where with no ex I know they have a son together but they are no longer a home family this really sucks.
2006-09-28 17:42:54 · answer #4 · answered by Chi-Town wild 100's 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a great number of the responder are under the thought your husband is disenchanted which you fooled around with different adult males earlier you ever met him, notwithstanding, i don't think of it fairly is the subject. You your self reported you 2 stated your earlier relationships yet you LIED to him approximately yours. Then he married you under fake pretenses. i'm able to comprehend now that he could have "clientele remorseful approximately", not for the everyday of the guy, however the integrity. He feels manipulated to a definite degree. you may locate the thank you to income the have confidence back and be arranged to artwork complicated at it. you have been married below a month earlier you had to "tell him each thing", i'm particular it fairly is unsettling to him.
2016-10-01 11:54:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is probably not what you wanted to hear....but as everyone else has said...this is no good. I think deep down you already know what you have to do but your are hoping that someone will Tell you " oh its okay there just friends". I think like someone else said...there is more going on here...it is obvious that you really have feelings for her....but I am afraid it sounds like its all one sided. I think you need to tell her that if she goes on this trip then you can not continue to see her as she is not considering your feelings. I really feel for you on this one...you sound like a nice guy and you don't need this "mind game crap"
Best of luck...let us all know what you decide....remember there are Good people still out there
2006-09-28 17:49:09 · answer #6 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's still married, and they have a kid. What do you expect?
I don't know why everyone's on her case....you're the one dating married woman....she ain't divorced yet, and even if she gets divorced, this is evidence that they will still very much be in her life. If you can't handle it, you shoulda never started it. Stop being such a whiner.
2006-09-28 17:47:03 · answer #7 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her that your jealousy of that.. tell her that you had been hurt about that... if you really love her and if she really loves you.. LEARN to TRUST.. dont be selfish, you already told us that they have son, she is still his mother even though their divorse,.. let me ask you.. do you want the child to live without her real mom?? its unfair. yeah she is your girlfriend.. she loves you.. cause if she doesnt what's the reason of having you in her life? TRUST her.. let the child be happy for a moment.. let his world be complete even though his parents are divorse.
2006-09-28 18:00:11 · answer #8 · answered by 4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO FIND YOUR SELF A NEW GIRLFRIEND, SHE
NOT THE ONE, FIRST OF ALL , IF SHE AND THE HUSBAND
ARE STILL MARRIED AND SHE WITH YOU THAT A PROBLEM'AND IF THEY ARE DIVORCED THEN WHY IS
SHE GOING WITH HIM OUT TOWN. AND YOU THINK THIS
IS OK IT NOT. AND YOU NEED TO LEAVE HER ALONG UNTIL
SHE FIQURE OUT WHAT SHE REALLY WANT. IF THEY ARE
FRIENDS BUT HE GOING TO TAKE OUT OF TOWN. AND THE
THEY ARE NOT GOING TO SLEEP TOGETHER, WHO FOOLING WHO. LEAVE HER ALONG YOU DESEVE TO BE
WIITH SOMEONE THAT WANT YOU AND ONLY YOU.
2006-09-28 17:42:24 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre put you self in a line for a big fall and lots of pain
2006-09-28 17:41:14 · answer #10 · answered by jac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋