Here my situation I've got 2 friends a boy and a gril who are dating.I have none them both for two years and am better friends with the girl even though I've known the guy longer.The girl confided in me that she was breaking up with him because she lived another guy I know that their relationship has had a lot of problems.So my quesion is do I tell him she about to breakup with him?
2006-09-28 17:29:41 · 21 answers · asked by movin12006 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The problem is I feel by not telling him Iam being a bad friend and by telling him I'm betraying her.
2006-09-28 17:34:29 · update #1
No! If the girl confided in you, obviously she trust you and holds you as an important person in her life. She knows you are his friend as well as hers, and if she thought she couldn't trust you to keep her secret, she wouldn't have told you.
The guy also considers you his friend, and will probually ask you after it's over if you know anything about it, since you are the girls friend as well.
My advice to you is, tell the girl you are her friend and would never tell her business, yet explain that he is also your friend, and just as you wouldn't want to see her hurt, you wouldn't like to see him hurt. Tell her that knowing her secret makes you feel sorry for the other friend, and helpless to the fact that you have to sit by not being able to help a friend.
Ask her to please confes to him, and to keep you out of it. Tell her the longer she waits the worse it is for you. Explain to her that you are her friend and will stand by her descision, yet he is your friend and you wouldn't want him to think you knew and just watched his misery walking toward him, while sitting idly by.
If she is your friend she will handle her businee and leave you out of it. Never be the one to bear the news. Remember it could always back fire. He may not believe you, or she make think you told because you want him.
They say don't shoot the messenger, yet sadly they always do....Good luck !!!
2006-09-28 17:41:40 · answer #1 · answered by rebecwi3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! are you crazy. So many different things could go wrong if you went and told him. What if she changes her mind and doen't want to break up with him but you already told him. What if she gets mad at you for saying something to him? Even though they are both your friends - even if you're best friends, it is none of your business and you should stay out of it. If they need you to butt-in then they'll speek up. They're in a relationship with eachother, not all 3 of you. And plus, I think he should hear it from her, don't you?
2006-09-28 17:37:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. Not your place to betray a confidence or to hurt either of your friends. You never know. The one friend may do something that may change the mind of the other and they end up getting married for the rest of their lives.
2006-09-28 17:35:39 · answer #3 · answered by k g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you detect out in regards to the drug use, him nonetheless staying along with his mom and not having a job. Did he inform you all of this or did you pay attention it by way of human beings. only considering you meet up with a guy or woman would not advise they are going to easily come back in the stay the way they have been earlier you lost touch. you may desire to a minimum of meet him in a public place for lunch or some thing and communicate. in case you detect that the failings are real you may only tell him which you're actually not into drugs and sense that at his age he would desire to be working and not residing at homestead along with his mom.
2016-10-18 04:24:04 · answer #4 · answered by jaisigh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I think you probably should stay out of it, and just be there to pick up the pieces after it happens. You could always tell him afterward that you suspected this might happen, if you wish. But in the interest of keeping them both friends, I would stay out of it as best I could. Good luck and God Bless!
2006-09-28 17:33:01 · answer #5 · answered by kevin_p0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please stay out of it because if they end up getting back together or not breaking up you will look like the bad guy.
For example, if they end up not breaking up your guy friend will tell his GF that you told him that she wanted to break up with him, your female friend will deny it and they will both have reasons to hate you.
just continue being close with both of them and make sure you dont take sides
2006-09-28 17:35:29 · answer #6 · answered by Knowitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Use a spell checker, really...
2) Nope, mind your own business. He will find out on his own and that way you don't have to take sides and risk losing one of them as a friend.
2006-09-28 17:32:37 · answer #7 · answered by iswd1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, what ever is going on between them should stay between them...it's hard to watch these kinda things cuz I've been down your road before.
But it's better to keep your lips zipped till he or she needs comforting....
Good luck!
2006-09-28 17:31:56 · answer #8 · answered by La Reina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mind your business this is not your problem. Just be a friend if she goes through with it. Do not judge her or talk about her. What would you do if you told her and she changed her mind?
2006-09-28 17:37:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no!!!
it would be best that the girl tell her boyfriend about it.. because if you will be the one who will tell the boy, the girl might think that you love the boy and you are just waiting for the break up.
2006-09-28 17:34:08 · answer #10 · answered by crystalink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋