I went out with this guy twice, and I don't want to see him again. What's a nice way to decline his offers (when he calls or emails)? I'm simply not interested in him, and I don't want to tell him I'm not free this weekend and have him call next time. I want him to not call me at all...I'm just not that into him. And I don't want to sound like a complete biatch.
2006-09-28 17:21:50 · 18 answers · asked by susie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
as much as this is crappy for me to deal with I just wanted to let you guys know you're cracking me up...thanks :)
2006-09-28 17:33:46 · update #1
Maybe you can tell him that you're going with someone else. OR tell him that you have a crush on this guy and want him to help you getting that guy. Indirectly you're telling him that you're not interested in him.
2006-09-28 17:26:23 · answer #1 · answered by betty boo 3 · 0⤊ 5⤋
no. there is no polite way to decline a date. whoever gets declined on feels a sting no matter what. i think you should just tell him that you appreciate the time that you guys spent together because it helped you further refine what you're NOT looking for in a man. i mean, seriously, if his idea of a good date is bringing subway back to his pad, there's a problem. what's next? mcdonald's drive-thru?!? honestly, if the guy ever thought he had a chance of scoring with you then at least he'd spring for a nice dinner. either that, or he thinks he so awesome that whatever stouffer's meal he nukes for will be enough to get in your pants. what a loser. tell him that mccheap is out.
2006-09-29 04:27:39 · answer #2 · answered by jive turkey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is to tell the truth and don't make any kind of excuse. Just tell him the truth that not your interested in having a relationship with him and say no thanks if he wants to go out as "just friends." Why would you think that telling the truth would make you, as you say, "sound like a complete biatch." Forget about sparing his feelings, he will be chassing that new girl in accounting before you have hung up the phone. We hate mixed signals.
2006-09-28 18:03:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simply tell him that you don't want a relationship at this time. You need to stay single for the time being, make up an excuse why. It always works, it isn't lieing and they usually don't get hurt. Plus no matter what you say to the guy, they get over this kind of thing a lot faster than us females. I'm sure you will feel a lot worse about the whole thing then he will no matter how you tell him.
2006-09-28 17:27:20 · answer #4 · answered by collegebusygirl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think all of us women have been there before. :) I'll tell you what I've done and it seems to work wonderfully! Rather... use to do. :) Anyway... Be very friendly, don't have that sound in your voice that we all get when we're ready to dump bad news on someone. You know... the hesitant speaking, dead pan voice.? Consciously sound upbeat and when he asks you out again simply say, I'm not up for dating right now. You didn't do anything wrong or to cause it (even though it's a big fat lie!) I just don't feel comfortable dating right now. When he says, "When will you be up for dating?" (and you know he will...) Say, I'm not psychic, I'm not sure. Just make sure you say it in a positive fun way. Not a sarcastic way. He'll get the hint and be able to leave with his dignity. It's funny... a few of my closest male friends were dates at one time and I couldn't stand the thought of even being near them when I first dated them. And then, after the nice... you gotta go speech was over with they came down to earth and we got along great ... as friends. Good luck with what's ahead and God bless!
2006-09-28 17:33:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
be completely straight with him the next time he asks and tell him you just dont belong together. If hes a man he can take it. Hope it helps the dating path along :)) It will happen again and you seem like you want to do things as classy as possible. Good luck
2006-09-28 17:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by Johnny 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
assuming he does ask you out again. just say "look, I'm sorry, but I didn't enjoy our first two dates and I dont see the point of going on a third, please don't take it too personal you're just not my type"
if that doesn't work your going to have to be a biatch because sometimes that is all people understand. When you try to let people down easy sometimes they dont get the message.
2006-09-28 17:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that you appreciate the offer but that you are not interested in a relationship right now. Or tell him that you like him but only as a friend.
2006-09-28 17:24:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Deceitful. locate the thanks to be truthful and gracious. you'd be stuck up on your lies, and that is what you'll look like then, a liar. Your plans were to flow with acquaintances, and also you should truthfully have informed the reality. as far as walking at the same time, walking each and each of ways around the college only exhibits that you do not understand the thanks to face up for your self, and set up barriers. "thanks, yet no, i do not favor anybody to get any innovations" or some such, reckoning on what your genuine causes were to snub him.
2016-11-25 01:49:46 · answer #9 · answered by ison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you see him as a friend and nothing more and I think he should get the point.
It happened to me once and I just stopped taking his calls or calling him back (what a *****)
2006-09-28 17:25:15 · answer #10 · answered by ani2525 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, just say, "You know, I really enjoyed your company, and I'm glad that we got to spend some time together, but I just don't feel chemistry between us and I would feel a little better if we just stayed as friends cuz I don't feel that spark between us. I'm sorry, but I'm not interested in furthering our dating relationship."
And if that fails...use some pepper spray to ward him off! jk
Good luck!
2006-09-28 17:26:50 · answer #11 · answered by La Reina 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋