my 13 year old son had made out with his girlfriend! and my 3 yr old daughter saw them what should i do? i tried comforting her but she kept mimicking the girl's actions and she is still crying and screaming,not eating
2006-09-28 17:14:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
i have talked to my son he said sorry but my girl is still crying,not eationg and she wont let me change her diaper
2006-09-28 17:21:36 · update #1
she has seen us kissing and did not feel jealous....up to now she is screaming.....and crying my hubby is at work and this is my vacation time
2006-09-28 17:23:38 · update #2
it was more than kissing
2006-09-28 17:30:21 · update #3
i grounded him for 2 weeks but he didnt cry he practically hates my 3 yr old
2006-09-28 17:31:37 · update #4
my daughter is practically worsening at this point she is imitating the sound that the girl made wen she and my son made out my girl is still crying so i took her to her room nad locked the door i could still hear her screaming but not for the locked door
2006-09-28 17:34:20 · update #5
by now...my daughter is nude and screaming she wont let me put clothes on her i gave her a bath while she was screamin im wet!! my son is outside with his gf probably making out again
2006-09-28 17:56:30 · update #6
i have talked to my family they didnt help at all.....i took some control and the gf is away 4 now my son is in his room watching tv and my daughter is out of the locked room but she is a bit calmer,is still crying but not hysterically
2006-09-28 18:47:42 · update #7
That's very strange behaviour. I would explore all possitiblities. I would keep my eye on both of them and not leave her alone and I would talk with her and explore her behavior. It is quite exessive and genereally uncalled for, which you seem to also agree with...
I can't see why a three year old gets traumatized by a make out session, alone.
2006-09-28 17:20:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be so negative but have you had her checked for any abuse symptoms or even a mental disorder. I have a 4 & 1 yr old who have seen my fiance' kiss me. My fiance' is the father of my 1 yr old and I would expect him to be jealous of our relationship but he's not and if he is he's not acting that way or any other way. You need to ask your son what happened and talk to your daughter and find out what REALLY happened. Something is up and your overreacting and making things worse. You definitely DON'T EVER LOCK YOUR CHILD IN HER ROOM BECAUSE SHE'S SCREAMING AND CRYING. THAT IS THE TIME FOR YOU TO REALLY BE COMPASSIONATE AND GET TO THE ROOT OF THE PROBLEM. DON'T YOU HAVE OTHER FAMILY SHE CAN TALK TO OR THAT YOU CAN TAKE HER TO UNTIL THE HOUSE IS A LITTLE SAFER OR CALMER. AND ANOTHER THING WHY THE F*** IS THE GF BACK AT YOUR HOME, YOU NEED TO GAIN CONTROL OF YOUR HOUSEHOLD. THAT'S F***ING RIDICULOUS. YOU NEED TO BE CALLING YOUR FAMILY NOT ASKING PEOPLE ON-LINE TO HELP.
2006-09-28 18:33:51 · answer #2 · answered by EriksSweetheart 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your son was doing a lot more than "making out".... As for the 3 year old, she'll get over it. There's nothing you can do and the more you try to help her the more you remind of what she thinks is terrifying. She's making a big deal out if it because YOU are making such a big deal out of it. As for your 13 year old....his behavior is much more than inappropriate. Put your foot down and ground him for life. You should probably take him out to the wood shed and blister him as well.
2006-09-28 17:25:02 · answer #3 · answered by cyanne2ak 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a really odd reaction to a kiss. My four year old will cover his eyes when he sees someone kiss in person or on tv. But nothing more. Are you sure there wasn't something more than kiss going on? Maybe you should ask her what she saw in private.
2006-09-28 17:24:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
has she never seen people kiss before? or was it more than kissing? I think you need to tell your on to do this stuff in private, and you need to teach your daughter that the things she saw are natural and older people do them, and its OK, thats the big thing, because you don;t want her to have negative connotations towards intimacy as she gets older.
2006-09-28 17:19:55 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my! I think that you should sit down with her first and tell her that bubby is getting older. Have him explain what it was that they were doing. They were doing grown up stuff cause he's growing up. Then, sit down with your son and have THE TALK. You're too young, safe practices and all that jazz.
2006-09-28 17:19:38 · answer #6 · answered by glitz_and_glitter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lovely.....has she not seen you and your husband kissing? why would seeing them kissing make her scream and cry? Are you sure its not a jealousy thing?
Have you asked your son exactly what making out they were doing????
Good luck sweety you have me stumped. Maybe a little tylenol and sleep will make her snap out of it.
2006-09-28 17:21:35 · answer #7 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u r searious -
as a baby, my daughter originally thought her mother and i were brother and sister and that eventually she would marry her own brother - now all that changed when she hit 4 or 5.
it might be a natural reaction of jealousy that your daughter sees her brother with another girl.
2006-09-28 17:31:14 · answer #8 · answered by bl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try having your son talk to her. She is upset with him not you.
2006-09-28 17:23:09 · answer #9 · answered by kelliemag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to ur son and tell him not to do it again then talk to her
2006-09-28 17:18:05 · answer #10 · answered by lil_mamas_sk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋