As soon as we finish having sex my bf gets mad if I don't get up and immediately take a shower. Forgive me if you think i'm gross but after sex sleep is the BEST sleep ever! Sometimes you need to lay there and rest before cleaning up but as soon as he finishes he asks me when am I going to bathe? Is it rude for him to use me and then send me off to the shower like i'm a football player and he's the coach and we just finished practicing? Shouldn't he at least give me time?
2006-09-28 16:52:42 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wait, like he sends u to shower alone? cus that's messed up
2006-09-28 16:57:10 · answer #1 · answered by Mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have read that people who insist on showers after sex think that the sex is dirty. Do you think that he could have some hang-ups. Hasn't he read or heard of afterplay? Does he have a shower also, or is he having a romantic shower with you. It doesn't sound like it. Your whole statement makes me uneasy and it seems like he would be a hard one to train to be a better lover. I found something on the web that says fewer than 20% of the people shower after sex and I imagine that nearly all of them do it by choice.
2006-10-02 20:05:35 · answer #2 · answered by Theodore G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, does he take a shower also or does he just lay there. I think i would tell him to get over it, after all it is your body. I usually clean up after sex and totally agree with you that sleep after sex is the BEST sleep
2006-09-28 23:57:02 · answer #3 · answered by easterbaby1975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I guess most people answered your question and I guess Im just telling about my fantasy involving my boy friend. He and I are too young to have sex but I love his scent. He exercises a lot and amongst other attributes he has his male smell sends me through the roof. If I sent him to the shower I would go with him. Or maybe he would prefer a nicely scented bubble bath; perhaps a citrus flavor, rose, or lilac. I would see that he got perfectly clean including that manly part between his legs that I would treat with special attention. Since I would be sharing the bath with him in order to save on water (its our civic duty) if suddenly he turned and faced me and because hes soooo strong and manly it went inside me I would have recourse but to lie there holding him tight so he wouldnt slip and submitting as only a girl can to a man's needs.
Oh well some day (sigh)
2006-09-29 00:15:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Maybe your bf thinks that if you don't wash up, you will be infected by some kind of bacteria or things like that. It is advisable to wash after sex but there may be another problem.
Perhaps he has some conscious problem. He may think that it is wrong to have sex since you guys are not married and he wants you to "clean up". An idea I got from one of the episode of Sex and the City.
2006-09-28 23:59:26 · answer #5 · answered by sassy girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yup. before you get started, just say, "hey, I'm not in the mood to take a shower." That, or bring some Lysol to bed with you and spray it on the sheets and say no. ha! He's being a jerk. Bending over backwards once is enough. Good luck.
2006-09-28 23:57:30 · answer #6 · answered by iambic_chatterbox 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me & my hubby shower before sex, but usually just wash up afterwards. When we are done, I need to rest for a few minutes before I can do anything else.
2006-09-29 00:04:31 · answer #7 · answered by cowgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should watch every episode of Sex and the City. There are all kinds of funny situations like and including yours. You should try talking to your boyfriend about this or just tell him that you enjoy being dirty and there is nothing wrong with it. You will shower when you are ready. Bear in mind that he is not likely to change however. Can you deal with that? I wouldn't. I also would not let anyone try to change me. I totally agree with you.
2006-09-28 23:59:39 · answer #8 · answered by charity2882 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this guy cant stand the way you smell after sex he is a weirdo...the smell or "aroma" of just finished sex should be an aphrodisiac for the next session...which should occur in a few minutes after the last session...ever heard of pheromones?.....
2006-09-29 00:03:05 · answer #9 · answered by marycolletta 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Huh? what's wrong with him? Even in the middle of the night? I will just wash THAT part then off to bed, but shower?
2006-09-28 23:57:55 · answer #10 · answered by betty boo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little time isn't bad but all night might be. Tell him to go take a shower.
2006-09-28 23:58:08 · answer #11 · answered by Mia W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋