I'm a Chinese girl and i'm now 19.I don't like to date with different guys ,much less let them touch or kiss me,so i'm remain virgin now.For me,i want to share sex with my soulmate(my futrue husband) only.
I have some friends from western countries,and they can't understand this.One of them told me that i should live for myself,not for my man,coz men don't like too traditional women.
I'm quite puzzled.
2006-09-28 16:36:29 · 14 answers · asked by ♡Ling♫ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't be such a prude & expect guys to be comfortable with it. You don't even like touching? You are missing out on holding hands, back rubs, kissing. You are going to be so scared when you finally let someone go any distance with you. I feel sorry for him.
2006-09-28 16:42:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends on where you live and the type of man you connect with. Some guys totally respect your choice to remain a virgin, and some guys ditch you if you don't give it to them on the first date (you don't want to date that type of man anyway).
It also depends on your connection with your man. If you guys totally connect and you feel that he is, in fact, your soulmate, don't let your virginity get in the way of when you feel ready to take your relationship to the next level. Don't decide too soon either though, if you want to be as traditional as possible, you should probably make sure that you are together (and going strong) for at least a couple years so you can feel that you are making an informed decision.
Don't feel pressured to do something that in your heart you really don't want to do. Your body is your body, and what you choose to do with it is your decision alone.
2006-09-28 23:43:28 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, men love traditional women. Most men would rather be the only man you've ever slept with. They love the traditional women who cooks, cleans, raises the children and knows her womanly place in life. What your western friends are trying to get across is that you have only one life to live so live it. Not a good idea to have only one sexual partner your whole life. You will miss out on lots of fun and enjoyment. Sex is not evil and it doesn't only need to be done with one person.
2006-09-28 23:41:12 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a traditional girl. I plan to be a virgin until I'm married. You should live your life for yourself, but only in the meaning of living life to YOUR standards. I think it's great that you're a traditional gal. There aren't that many of us out there any more.
2006-09-28 23:41:10 · answer #4 · answered by sweet_lil_cowgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say man still prefer their wife to be a virgin. There is nothing wrong to be a traditional women. Different culture will have different mindset so just do what u think u want.
2006-09-28 23:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by Renew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is good to be a traditional girl if it does good to you.
your western friends are also not telling lies but you gotta understand that they're speaking from their point of view ie western which has their own culture and lifestyle.
if you think china has become similar to western society in terms of values and beliefs then you shouldn't have problem adopting their lifestyle .
2006-09-28 23:45:50 · answer #6 · answered by sherpasimon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will you marry me? I sincerely like your "values" and wish more young ladies had some like you. When you do find your soulmate you will probably be with him forever while your friends will probably be on their 2nd or 3rd marriages. Listen to your heart. You know what's not only right but also what is best for you.
2006-09-28 23:43:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I commend you, you stick to your beliefs. Never do anything you don't want to. Sex is too casual in our society and more girls should hold out like you are. I'd be proud to call you my daughter. Congratulations to you and the lucky man who will one day marry a virgin, how rare these days!
2006-09-28 23:40:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Might be good to be traditional but no fun ,we're here for a good time not a long time,get with the times.
2006-09-28 23:44:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If thats what you want to do, so be it. Don't let your friends influence your choice. If they are truly your friends, they would be happy with your decision. If anything be proud to be traditional, becasue thats rare these days.
2006-09-28 23:42:03 · answer #10 · answered by princess_pa115 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋