My g/f of 5 years tells me she's friends w/ this guy she met at college last week and im like ok whatever. So tonight her roommate tells me that she got out of the shower and got all dressed up and said she was going out for a "walk" with this guy and is gone a couple hours when she was supposed to call me.
So I'm calling her and leavin messages and get no response.
Now she's pissed off at me saying nothing happened and I don't trust her.
2006-09-28 16:17:12 · 24 answers · asked by Chris 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think she could have answered her phone.. or said before hand, hey i'm going for a walk with dude. seems she's trying to hide something to me.
2006-09-28 16:19:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her you do trust her, it's just that you're worried about the well-being of the relationship. You've both worked so hard at making it something worthwhile, and after five years you should have a right to know what's going on with her and this guy.
Or...
Ask to meet him, yanno..like all three of you go to dinner or something..have lunch sometime. If they're only friends, she'll agree, no sweat, but if there's something there, she won't agree to it. Plus you'll get to see how they interact. It's all in the way she looks at him. If she looks at him the way she looks at you (or used to), then you know there's a problem and should do what that first paragraph^^ says.
2006-09-28 16:24:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your instinct. If you have been together 5 years and your in college this girl may be your first love. All though it is hard to hear it the statistics of people marrying their first loves are very low. I say that you should be mad - you have every right to be especially if your gut tells you that something is up. A relationship can't last if there is no trust.
2006-09-28 16:21:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn it around. Sit her down and ask her how she would feel if you got all showered and dressed up to take a walk with another girl and you were gone for hours when she was expecting a call.
She is showing total disrespect for you and you may have to consider that she isn't the one.
2006-09-28 16:20:13 · answer #4 · answered by Amelia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be careful not to make this into something its not. but pay close attention to your girl from now on. if she changes her behavior in wierd ways, i.e. pays more attention to what she wears and how she looks, or changes in her schedule. Most girls like to look presentable when going out, even for a walk so the shower isnt a big deal. However if she continues to show her "friend" attention and not you its a sign. She may be either trying to get you to pay more attention to her (by making you feel jealous) or she is just exploring her options (she isnt breaking up with you yet because she wants to see if there is potential in this new guy). Ultimately it depends on just how much she means to you and how much work/attention you want to put into this.
2006-09-28 16:23:20 · answer #5 · answered by mesara808 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmmmm i'd imagine that your lady friend ought to arise with some causes for her anger. maximum likely she would not like popping out of sophistication contained in the darkish and by no skill having you there. possibly she's scared? possibly she changed into anxious about you? possibly she changed into worried about her mom's motor vehicle? maximum likely she needs you to do right here: a million. make an apology. you do not favor to unavoidably believe her reason, yet you somewhat favor to understand the position she's coming from. 2. tell her that you comprehend. See remark above. 3. be affected man or woman once you're chatting with her. do not attempt to talk her out of her thoughts and do not rush to fix this. She needs to procedure her thoughts. 4. in the experience that your lady friend is continually on your case or complaining about your deficiencies, then you actually favor to envision out your relationship regularly. 5. Are you satisfied? Are you depending in this relationship? How does this relationship make you sense about your self? 6. Has there been a reason on your lady friend to no longer trust you? sturdy success in this one!
2016-11-25 01:45:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask her for the full honest story before you make any judgments. Tell her that this kind of behavior makes you uncomfortable and ask her how she would feel if your roles were reversed. Be open to what she has to say, but make sure you're being fully honest with her as well.
2006-09-28 16:23:19 · answer #7 · answered by brainy_blonde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is just a walk and if she says nothing happened, then you gotta believe her.
trust that she wont do anything, and see what happens from there.
however, i would say watch this budding realtionship between her and "this guy".
who dresses up to go on a couple hour walk with another guy?
hmm.. be careful guy, and good luck :]
2006-09-28 16:21:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to be mad. You need to leave her alone she is not worth your time if she leaves with another man. She must have been doing something that stop her from calling you.
2006-09-28 16:21:47 · answer #9 · answered by Mia W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was supposed to call you and didnt, you have a right to be mad. If she didnt call you because she was out with another man (and all dolled up), you have a right to dump her!
2006-09-28 16:24:07 · answer #10 · answered by Zero Cool 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋